10 coisas importantes que parecem ser um problema, mas não têm de o ser

Há uma linha ténue entre as coisas que quebram a relação e as coisas que se podem resolver. Se a ligação entre duas pessoas for forte, elas conseguem sempre encontrar uma solução para qualquer obstáculo.

Nada nos pode obrigar a desistir de uma pessoa que honestamente amor. Se duas pessoas querem estar e permanecer juntas, não há verdadeiramente nada que as possa impedir.

Here are some common life situations that can yet don’t have to be deal-breakers. It’s all in the way you and your partner approach them. 

1. Pouca química textual

Contrariamente à opinião popular, nem toda a gente é boa a enviar mensagens de texto. Algumas pessoas (normalmente do género masculino) não são boas a exprimir-se através de texto. 

Se ele fizer um esforço para enviar algum tipo de mensagem durante o dia, dê-lhe alguma folga. Isso mostra que ele está interessado e que está a tentar. No final do dia, preocupe-se mais com a forma como ele está em pessoa. 

2. Não é o seu tipo no papel

Espero que não seja uma daquelas raparigas que só se apaixonam por homens altos, morenos e bonitos. That’s really a cliche that needs to be banned. 

Scratch the whole “type” thing and enter a relationship with an open mind and heart. So what if he is an inch shorter than you would like, or if he is chubby or shy? Those things don’t matter. 

If he has something you find appealing, if he makes you laugh and treats you right, you are on the right track. Don’t look for deal-breakers where there aren’t any. 

3. Your partner’s past

Quando nos apaixonamos por alguém, temos de estar preparados para aceitar todas as partes dessa pessoa. Their flaws, their imperfections, and their past. It’s the only way you can have a healthy relationship.

If your partner has done some things he isn’t proud of in the past or you don’t like, don’t remind him of that all the time. It happened before you – your only option is to leave it in the past.

4. Diferentes pontos de vista

Our perspectives on life are based on past experiences and our personalities. We are different and we’ve all been through different things in life.  

So, don’t be surprised if your opinions contradict . If your love is honest, you’ll find an understanding of each other’s standpoints and views.

5. Your partner’s strange habits

O seu parceiro tem algumas hábitos não tão comuns , so what? Accept them and with time, you won’t even notice it anymore because you’ll get used to it.

You likely also have some strange habits that you aren’t even aware of. If your partner accepts you for who you are and loves you just as you are, why shouldn’t you do the same?

6. O seu parceiro ainda é amigo do ex

Remember that an ex is an ex for a reason? If your partner still cared about his ex, he probably wouldn’t be with you. Unless there is something seriously wrong with him. 

If his ex doesn’t interfere in your relationship and if their friendship is platonic, don’t stress about it. 

7. Se as vossas famílias não aprovam a vossa relação

It’s nice when you have approval from both families, but sometimes it just isn’t possible and you have to come to terms with it.

You two and your love is all that’s important. Don’t pay too much attention to others. Trust only your own gut.

Because if you don’t – if you listen to your family or someone else – you’ll regret missing your chance at love for the rest of your life.

8. Não gosta das mesmas coisas

If you like different things, it doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. It can also be healthy because those little differences are actually something that keeps the spark in the relationship alive.

The feelings you have for your significant other will make you step out of your comfort zone and try some new things – stuff your partner likes – and vice versa.

Além disso, podem continuar a fazer algumas coisas sozinhos ou com os vossos amigos. Algum tempo pessoal longe um do outro só vos pode aproximar mais. 

9. Diferentes planos para o futuro

You talked about the future with your partner and his vision of it is a whole lot different from yours? You think that you won’t last because you want different things?

Don’t worry. Over time, you can create some mutual plans for the future. Your love will grow. You’ll communicate more. You’ll learn to compromise.

10. Distância

Há muitos casais que têm uma relação de sucesso relação à distância . If it can work for them, why wouldn’t it work for you?

You’ll only have to have more patience and that’s it. Distance means nothing when love is honest and pure. Oh, and also, there is so much beauty in the anticipation!

In the end, I would like to say that all people who say there are some deal-breakers in relationships that shouldn’t be up for negotiation are wrong, because todas as relações saudáveis baseiam-se, de facto, no estabelecimento de compromissos.