10 grandi cose che sembrano un ostacolo, ma non devono esserlo per forza

C'è una linea sottile tra le cose che rompono e quelle che si possono risolvere. Se il legame tra due persone è forte, possono sempre trovare una soluzione a qualsiasi ostacolo.

Nulla può costringervi a rinunciare a una persona che vi onestamente amore. Se due persone vogliono stare e rimanere insieme, non c'è davvero nulla che possa ostacolarle.

Here are some common life situations that can yet don’t have to be deal-breakers. It’s all in the way you and your partner approach them. 

1. Bassa chimica testuale

Contrariamente all'opinione comune, non tutti sono bravi a mandare messaggi. Alcune persone (di solito di sesso maschile) non sono brave a esprimersi via SMS. 

Se si sforza di inviare qualsiasi tipo di messaggio durante il giorno, dategli un po' di tregua. Questo dimostra che è interessato e ci sta provando. Alla fine della giornata, preoccupatevi di più di come si comporta di persona. 

2. Non è il vostro tipo sulla carta

Spero che tu non sia una di quelle ragazze che si innamorano solo di ragazzi alti, scuri e belli. That’s really a cliche that needs to be banned. 

Scratch the whole “type” thing and enter a relationship with an open mind and heart. So what if he is an inch shorter than you would like, or if he is chubby or shy? Those things don’t matter. 

If he has something you find appealing, if he makes you laugh and treats you right, you are on the right track. Don’t look for deal-breakers where there aren’t any. 

3. Your partner’s past

Quando ci si innamora di una persona, bisogna essere pronti ad accettarne ogni parte. Their flaws, their imperfections, and their past. It’s the only way you can have a healthy relationship.

If your partner has done some things he isn’t proud of in the past or you don’t like, don’t remind him of that all the time. It happened before you – your only option is to leave it in the past.

4. Punti di vista diversi

Our perspectives on life are based on past experiences and our personalities. We are different and we’ve all been through different things in life.  

So, don’t be surprised if your opinions contradict . If your love is honest, you’ll find an understanding of each other’s standpoints and views.

5. Your partner’s strange habits

Il vostro partner ha qualche abitudini non ordinarie , so what? Accept them and with time, you won’t even notice it anymore because you’ll get used to it.

You likely also have some strange habits that you aren’t even aware of. If your partner accepts you for who you are and loves you just as you are, why shouldn’t you do the same?

6. Il vostro partner è ancora amico dell'ex

Remember that an ex is an ex for a reason? If your partner still cared about his ex, he probably wouldn’t be with you. Unless there is something seriously wrong with him. 

If his ex doesn’t interfere in your relationship and if their friendship is platonic, don’t stress about it. 

7. Se le vostre famiglie disapprovano la vostra relazione

It’s nice when you have approval from both families, but sometimes it just isn’t possible and you have to come to terms with it.

You two and your love is all that’s important. Don’t pay too much attention to others. Trust only your own gut.

Because if you don’t – if you listen to your family or someone else – you’ll regret missing your chance at love for the rest of your life.

8. Non vi piacciono le stesse cose

If you like different things, it doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. It can also be healthy because those little differences are actually something that keeps the spark in the relationship alive.

The feelings you have for your significant other will make you step out of your comfort zone and try some new things – stuff your partner likes – and vice versa.

Inoltre, potete ancora fare qualcosa da soli o con gli amici. Un po' di tempo personale lontano l'uno dall'altro non può che rendervi più vicini. 

9. Diversi piani per il futuro

You talked about the future with your partner and his vision of it is a whole lot different from yours? You think that you won’t last because you want different things?

Don’t worry. Over time, you can create some mutual plans for the future. Your love will grow. You’ll communicate more. You’ll learn to compromise.

10. Distanza

Ci sono così tante coppie che hanno un successo relazione a distanza . If it can work for them, why wouldn’t it work for you?

You’ll only have to have more patience and that’s it. Distance means nothing when love is honest and pure. Oh, and also, there is so much beauty in the anticipation!

In the end, I would like to say that all people who say there are some deal-breakers in relationships that shouldn’t be up for negotiation are wrong, because ogni relazione sana si basa in realtà sul raggiungimento di compromessi.