Como acabar com um narcisista em 9 passos poderosos
If you’re looking for ways and inspiration on how to shut down a narcissist and regain your power, you’re in just the right place!
Narcisista pessoas are very capable when it comes to taking over somebody’s life.
They’ll use anything and everything to make people do what they want and they’ll be the ones to get the best of it. Summarized, it’s called narcissistic abuse.
People who suffer from a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) tend to ruin other people’s self-esteem for the sake of becoming dominant.
The main manipulation tactic they use is gaslighting, aka silent treatment (especially in toxic relationships and other types of abusive relationships), used to gain control over the victim’s emotional responses, which is a form of emotional abuse.
Narcissists have a delusional sense of self-worth and a lack of empathy, which is their primary tool when it comes to destroying their victim’s self-worth.
Pedir desculpa ou decidir deixá-lo em paz não é do interesse deles.
Dealing with toxic people and psychopaths can result in severe damage of the victim’s mental health because the victim often doesn’t know how to set boundaries and deal with a narcissist’s bad behavior.
Esta pessoa pode ser o seu vizinho, o seu chefe, o seu colega de trabalho, um parceiro narcisista, um pai narcisista, um ex narcisista, um dos seus amigos mais próximos ou um familiar.
Aprender a lidar com as suas tendências narcisistas e a recuperar o seu poder é necessário para evitar mais danos e iniciar o processo de cura.
Agora, toda a gente luta contra os narcisistas à sua maneira, mas as mulheres fortes conseguem lutar contra eles ao ponto de os vencerem no seu próprio jogo, por isso podíamos definitivamente aprender uma coisa ou duas com elas!
É ASSIM QUE AS MULHERES FORTES DERRUBAM AS PESSOAS NARCISISTAS
1. Os narcisistas são muito bons a encontrar pessoas simpáticas com o objetivo de alimentar os seus egos
Os narcisistas precisam de pessoas simpáticas à sua volta, para se sentirem melhor consigo próprios.
Precisam de pessoas simpáticas para alimentar os seus egos! É que se rodeiam de pessoas assim, enganando-as para que pensem que são iguais.
A diferença é que as pessoas simpáticas só nos dizem coisas simpáticas quando são realmente sinceras, enquanto um narcisista usa palavras simpáticas só para nos enganar e fazer com que sejamos amigos dele.
Agirão como os estranhos mais simpáticos (especialmente se precisar de ajuda com alguma coisa), convencê-lo-ão de que são a pessoa mais amorosa e carinhosa do mundo, elogiando-o constantemente, mimando-o e fazendo-o sentir-se especial.
But they won’t mean any of the nice words they say, their compliments will be fake and the only reason why they would ever want to make someone special is so that they can break them easily later on.
O problema é que as mulheres fortes não são tão ingénuas e é por isso que são mestras em evitar ser um suprimento narcisista.
Strong women can easily spot whether somebody truly means what they’re saying or if it’s just a trick.
As mulheres fortes estão muito conscientes da sua aparência e também das suas outras qualidades e, no momento em que notam que alguém é ingénuo, desvinculam-se imediatamente, aplicam a regra do não contacto e expulsam-no das suas vidas para sempre!
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2. Os narcisistas são bons a convencer os outros de que outra pessoa é/era o problema
A narcissist’s grandiose sense of self makes them feel superior over everyone around them.
Ignoram os seus próprios erros e são capazes de atribuir a culpa a outra pessoa num piscar de olhos.
They are in constant pursuit of their victim’s weaknesses so they can turn them against them. Accepting they did something wrong is never an option (unless they use it as a tool to manipulate you.)
O que quer que aconteça, segundo um narcisista, aconteceu por causa de outra pessoa e ele está disposto a fazer tudo para convencer a vítima de que é ele o culpado de tudo.
O problema é que as mulheres fortes nunca permitem que alguém as use como um terreno de despejo.
They’ll admit their part of the guilt but they’ll demand the same from the other side.
They won’t ever allow a narcissist to put the blame on them or anybody else in fact and that’s why narcissists have a tendency to avoid strong women.
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3. Narcissists might make many long-term promises to raise the stakes in a relationship and make sure the person they’re dating is highly invested
Narcissists lure their victims into believing they have a future together and that’s when the victim lets down their guard completely.
They fool the victim into believing that they have a strong connection, that they have future plans and that they’ll always be there for them no matter what.
But in reality, the only thing they’re doing is giving fake promises so that they can easily manipulate their victim and make them think that they’re one hundred percent serious and devoted in the relationship.
In reality, the only thing they’re doing is preparing the terrain for massive manipulation.
If you’re that victim, you’ll start planning your joint future and you won’t be aware that the narcissist is using that open window to use you in any and every possible way.
If you’re that victim, you’ll be blind to see the narcissist’s real nature because they are so good at hiding their true self.
The problem is that strong women don’t let down their guard so easily.
Nunca acreditam apenas em palavras, esperam sempre que as outras pessoas tomem medidas que sigam as suas promessas.
That’s where their conflict with a narcissist arises because, as you might’ve imagined, narcissistic people never keep their promises.
As mulheres fortes nunca se baseiam em palavras, promessas ou desculpas. Em vez disso, só acreditam em acções e em coisas que podem ver com os seus próprios olhos.
4. Os narcisistas têm tendência para manipular as pessoas
Narcisista as pessoas controlam as outras tendo a capacidade de influenciar as suas emoções ou as suas acções para que as coisas corram a seu favor.
Têm tendência a fazer-nos acreditar em cada uma das suas palavras sem nunca questionar nada.
And if you ever complain about being mistreated or similar, they will just accuse you of overreacting and being the crazy one, even though you know for a fact that you’re the victim in the whole story.
But, unfortunately, they’re not interested in hearing any of it. They are only interested in hearing what they want to hear.
They’re only interested in making you feel less worthy so that they can break you more easily but with strong women, this is not such an easy task.
O problema é que as mulheres fortes são extremamente difíceis de manipular.
If they don’t feel like doing something or if they have a strong opinion about something, it’s highly unlikely that even the strongest manipulators out there, such as narcissistic people, will trick them into doing things they don’t want.
When a strong woman senses that someone is trying to trick her or make her feel like she’s the crazy one, she makes sure to let them know that she will not dance to their tune.
Uma mulher forte decide imediatamente cortar todo o contacto com ele e eliminá-lo da sua vida para sempre. (Este é um dos conselhos mais sábios sobre como acabar com um narcisista, por isso não se esqueça de o memorizar).
5. Narcissists often bring down the people they’re surrounded by
Para que um narcisista se sinta superior, todos os outros têm de estar abaixo dele.
That’s why narcissistic people often undermine people, bring them down or bring up their flaws at the worst possible moment.
When a narcissist is feeling down, they’ll use anything and everything they can to bring you down as well, so they can feel better about themself.
Humilham-no pessoalmente, nas redes sociais e até em público para se sentirem donos de si.
O problema é que as mulheres fortes não se deixam abater tão facilmente.
Estão muito conscientes das pessoas que são e sabem a força que têm.
As mulheres fortes também estão conscientes dos seus defeitos e trabalham-nos todos os dias, pelo que nunca deixam que ninguém as censure.
Estas coisas saem sempre pela culatra aos narcisistas quando as usam em mulheres fortes.
Tentam atraí-los para o seu mundo tóxico, mas acabam por falhar sempre que o tentam fazer.
6. Os narcisistas têm tendência para agir de forma diferente em público e em privado
Narcissistic people have many faces or many shades of one face and they pull out the one that’s the most convenient for the situation.
For example, they’ll agree with your opinion on something when you’re alone together but when you’re out with other people, they’re most likely to change their opinion in order to please others.
Or they will pretend that they agree with you only when they’re surrounded by other people so that they can see how kind and loving they are.
And when you’re back to your four walls, they all of a sudden change their mind, telling you that they didn’t really mean what they said in front of others or that they made a mistake.
You see, narcissists have a tendency to adapt to every possible situation and make it look like they’re just awesome to be with, when in reality they are the complete opposite and strong women know that!
O problema é que mulheres fortes nunca tolerará este tipo de comportamento. They’ll immediately expose the narcissist and confront him in public.
Isto arruinará o seu sentido ilusório de autoestima e forçá-los-á a deixar de estar sempre a fazer de Deus.
And given that narcissistic people are not accustomed to this unusual behavior, they probably won’t even know what hit them.
7. Narcissists play by the rule ‘attack is the best defense’
When you catch a narcissist in a lie or when you discover their masquerade, you’ll fight them for two minutes about their behavior and then you’ll be defending your actions for the next two hours.
They just throw the ball in your court and keep you so busy with defending yourself that you’ll forget what the fight was about in the first place.
It’s one of their favorite manipulation tactics used when they want to solely focus on you instead of the real problem which is them.
Atacam-nos com todas as suas armas narcísicas e esperam que nos rendamos.
O problema das mulheres fortes é que nunca diminuem a sua voz e nunca permitem que ninguém desvie os seus pensamentos de algo.
So, when a narcissist tries to switch topics, they’ll cut them at the root by saying that isn’t the topic of the conversation and that they can get back to that later but they’ll deal with the original issue first.
They won’t leave them a way out and they’ll have to show their real face, wanted or not.
And if they still refuse to switch topics, strong women make sure to tell them to go to hell because they’re not worthy of their time.
If you’re wondering how to shut down a narcissist, this is the way to do it.
8. Quando apanhadas, as pessoas narcisistas fazem-se de vítimas
When their real face is revealed, they’ll try to hide behind the mask of a victim.
They’ll make excuses for being the way they are and blame it on their ‘abusive’ past, by their narcissistic mother or similar.
Fazem-no para despertar a empatia das pessoas e para que nos sintamos mal por elas, de modo a podermos perdoar-lhes os seus pecados.
Querem que fique com a consciência pesada por os acusar, porque eles são a vítima em toda a situação e não você. (É claro que isto não é de todo verdade).
When busted, a narcissistic person turns into an innocent child just to make you feel guilty about everything you’ve said or everything you’re about to say or do.
But in reality, they’re still the same manipulative person, ready to do anything for their selfish goals.
The problem with strong women is that they do have emotions and they do feel empathy toward others but they’re perfectly able to recognize when somebody is playing them.
They’ll never be tricked into pitying somebody they should be mad at.
They’ll stand untouched by the puppy eyes that narcissists try to pull and they won’t allow emotions to cloud their judgment.
Strong women always put reason before their emotions when they feel that something’s utterly wrong.
They don’t let others take advantage of them because they’re ready to fight till the last breath.
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9. As mulheres fortes enfrentam os seus agressores!
They don’t dim their voices, they don’t let others pretend to be something that they are really not and they don’t allow others to use them as their puppet or to make them dance to their tune.
Defendem com orgulho aquilo em que acreditam e são fiéis a si próprios, aconteça o que acontecer.
That’s what they expect from others as well.
Todas as tentativas de um narcisista, todos os truques que fazem, todos os jogos que tentam jogar, nunca funcionam com mulheres fortes, porque elas vêem através deles.
And that’s why strong women are so intimidating to narcissistic people.
That’s how strong women shut narcissistic people down!
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