Como saber se ele está a trair-te com base no seu comportamento diário

Como é que se pode saber se o homem mudou de repente? Como saber se ele a está a trair com base no seu comportamento diário?

If something doesn’t feel right, that’s probably because it’s not right. It doesn’t matter if everything looks perfect— vibes don’t lie .

Deve sempre ouvir as suas emoções, mas também deve ter em mente que não deve confiar apenas nelas.

Estabelecer que algo obviamente não está bem na vossa relação é o primeiro e o mais importante passo.

You should never attack your guy for no valid reason because that’s one of the worst-case scenarios you don’t want to experience.

The second thing you need to establish is what exactly is it that’s not right? Could it be that he’s cheating on you?

Bem, se suspeita que sim, é provável que ele possa estar a fazer algo nas suas costas, mas não tire conclusões precipitadas.

Pensar que ele a pode estar a trair não é a mesma coisa que ter a certeza!

And now you’re probably wondering how to tell for sure if he’s cheating on you. Asking him won’t get you anywhere. By doing that, you’d only give him a chance to lie.

Following him around is also not a good idea because you don’t want to turn into a control freak and destroy your well-being.

But there’s one thing you can do and that is observe his everyday behavior.

If you pay attention to his actions, you’ll easily notice any changes regarding his behavior and these changes are strong indicators of him being a potential cheater.

Some of them are very obvious and it won’t take you long to solve the mystery.

So, here’s a list of things you should pay attention to in order to reveal or discard his potential cheating nature.

And if you notice any of them, then it’s time to have a serious talk with your boyfriend!

He’s texting way more often

And if he’s smiling at his phone while reading a text, then he probably has someone on the side.

When you feel amused by something, smiling comes naturally to you and you simply can’t hide the joy.

Estes tipos de indicadores de linguagem corporal quase nunca falham.

Mas, mesmo assim, é preciso ter cuidado com este caso. Ele pode estar apenas a enviar mensagens ao amigo.

Mas se reparar que ele mantém constantemente o telemóvel perto de si e não o empresta nem por um minuto quando lhe pede, então ele, com certeza, tem algo (ou alguém) a esconder de si.

E tem todo o direito de lhe perguntar sobre isso.

He won’t have any phone conversations in front of you

No momento em que o telemóvel toca, levanta-se, vai para outra sala e só regressa quando a conversa está completamente terminada.

Sure, it might be that his boss is calling him and he doesn’t need you to distract him while they’re discussing a huge issue that came up at work.

But what are the chances of that? His boss won’t be calling him every day, that’s for sure.

So, if he’s constantly having conversations literally behind your back, then something utterly fishy is going on.

After all, he wouldn’t do such a thing if he didn’t have anything to hide from you in the first place.

Para ter a certeza, pode tentar perguntar-lhe porque é que ele vai sempre para outra divisão quando alguém o chama.

Se ele começar a murmurar ou a mostrar sinais de confusão, então está definitivamente a esconder alguma coisa e tem todo o direito de continuar a questioná-lo sobre o assunto.

Ele sai muito mais do que antes

All of a sudden he’s um animal de festa who can’t be tamed. There is always something he can’t miss.

When you ask him who is he going out with, you always get the same answer: “ Oh, apenas alguns amigos .”

In most cases, ‘just some friends’ is a codename for the one girl he’s been seeing behind your back.

Going out becomes just a lame excuse for him to keep doing things in secret, hoping you’ll never find out anything about it.

Mas ao suspeitar que ele lhe está a mentir, já está dois passos à frente dele.

Para ter cem por cento de certeza, pode perguntar-lhe se pode juntar-se a ele, só para ver a sua expressão facial.

If he’s hiding something, he will be literally unable to answer your question properly.

Ele preocupa-se demasiado com a sua aparência

Before he goes out with ‘his friends’, he spends a lot of time in front of the mirror. He takes a shower, picks out the best outfit he has and takes care of his hair.

Se este é o seu novo ritual antes de sair, então deve preocupar-se.

Para quem é que ele se está a preparar? Tu és a única mulher por quem ele devia esforçar-se tanto.

If he reminds you of the man he was at the beginning of your relationship, then it might be that he’s starting a new one. And he’s not even man enough to admit it to you.

Putting too much effort into his looks only when he’s going out with ‘some friends’ is a sure sign that he’s going out with some chick he wants to impress.

Os homens são realmente previsíveis no que diz respeito a esta questão, porque só quando gostam realmente de alguém é que se esforçam por estar no seu melhor.

He’s more active on social media

Not only that he’s texting all the time but he’s posting a lot of new stuff on his social media profiles.

There are a lot of new pictures of him without you that he just had to post. He’s constantly updating his status so that people would think his life is much more interesting.

We all know how lazy guys are when it comes to texting and social networks. They wouldn’t bother posting a single thing if they were not interested in winning someone’s attention.

And if he’s constantly trying to take the best selfies and checking if someone liked his photo, then you have a problem.

If he does this, evidently he’s waiting for a specific like and approval from a specific person and when he gets it, he instantly becomes happy, like a child.

He can’t hide his happiness because he finally got what he was waiting for.

He’s avoiding you

He has no time for you. It’s the most obvious sign he’s trying to push you away.

Whenever you want to spend time with him, he remembers he has something to do. He’s going to make up any excuse just to escape from you.

Não só deixou de sair consigo, como também deixou de ter relações sexuais consigo.

Isso é definitivamente um sinal ele tem alguém ao lado que vai a encontros com ele.

You see, if a man avoids having sex with you, then something’s clearly not right.

If he avoids intimacy and physical contact, it probably means that he’s having all of this with someone else and he’s a coward to admit it to you.

Instead, he avoids you because deep down in his soul he knows that he’s being an asshole and he can’t stop being one.

He’s arguing with you more than ever

Of course, you’re getting paranoid and trying to find decent proof that he’s a cheater. It’s normal. But the way he acts when you touch his phone or his laptop is not normal.

He starts screaming at you like you’ve done the most horrible thing in the universe.

And while he’s screaming, he’s making up reasons as to why you can’t touch his stuff.

He’s saying how you’re not that good with tech and you could ruin some important project he’s working on.

It is clear that he’s keeping secrets from you.

It is normal to argue to a certain degree but if he turns into a beast every time you touch some of his stuff or ask him some questions, it is a huge red flag that he’s a cheater in disguise.

He reacts explosively because he’s afraid that you’ll uncover everything he’s been doing behind your back so far.

Ele está a fazer-se de vítima

Quando lhe faz perguntas sobre o seu paradeiro ou sobre algo suspeito que ele fez, não só tem um ataque de raiva, como também começa a fazer-se de vítima.

He blames you for being too controlling even though he knows that it’s not true at all and that is the biggest sign and the answer to your question: How do I tell if he’s cheating?

By playing the victim, he is subconsciously trying to draw attention to another problem and that is ‘you being a control freak’.

Evita falar de qualquer coisa relacionada com ele porque sabe que os seus actos podem ser descobertos.

É o mecanismo de defesa mais popular e natural quando se trata de fazer batota, mentir e coisas do género.

If he’s playing the victim, you can be sure that he’s hiding something from you and he’s hiding it badly.

Em situações como esta, a única coisa que pode fazer é acalmar-se, pedir-lhe que fale consigo mais tarde, quando recuperar o juízo, e preparar-se para partir.

Victim games will only waste your time and life’s too short to spend it on a man who’s not worthy of your one second.

O que fazer?

If all the indications are screaming that he’s cheating on you, don’t even bother trying to understand why.

Demasiados "e se" só o vão confundir e criar confusão na sua mente. A única coisa de que se deve lembrar é que não é o único culpado.

Whatever he might be doing, it is not because of you. He’s doing it because he’s too weak to be a real man and let you go instead of hurting you deliberately.

You should never blame yourself because you couldn’t do anything about it.

What you should be doing is trying to save yourself. Don’t let it get to you that much. It’s his fault that he doesn’t know how to be honest.

He should’ve broken up with you if he wanted to start something new. It is as simple as that.

A única coisa que podes fazer agora é falar com ele. Dizer-lhe que sabes o que mereces.

You don’t need someone who is going to lie to you or disrespect you. If he’s enganar-vos then it’s time to leave him. Pack your things and don’t look back.

After all, if he truly loved you, he would have never done this to you. You don’t hurt those you love. You fight for them.