É assim que vais aprender a não o amar

It’s been a while now since this man walked away from you. The man you thought was your soulmate and forever person.

O homem com quem planeava passar o resto da sua vida e o homem que estava convencida que nunca a abandonaria da forma como o fez.

It’s been a while since the man you loved more than anything left you. A while since you’ve been feeling lost, desperate and brokenhearted.

A while since you’ve been stuck in one place, without any hope of moving forward.

Quando pensamos nisso, lembramo-nos de como começámos a amar este homem. Lembra-se de como se apaixonou por ele e de como, com o tempo, ele se tornou o centro do seu universo.

But you can’t seem to figure out the right way to ultrapassa-o.

No matter how you try, you can’t forget about him and despite all of your efforts, you can’t seem to figure out how to unlove him.

Well, let me tell you one thing—even though you don’t believe me now, you will heal, and you will be better. You will stop loving him sooner or later, and you’ll leave him in the past, exactly where he belongs.

Vais deixar de amar este homem, da mesma forma que começaste a amá-lo.

Bit it won’t happen overnight. It is a process which takes time and devotion. Firstly, you’ll be angry at him. You’ll be furious for everything he’s done to you.

Como é que ele pode ter destruído todos os sonhos que vocês construíram juntos? Como é que ele pode ter partido o teu coração, sem pestanejar?

Then, you’ll be angry at yourself. How could you have been so foolish to believe him?

How come you didn’t see his true face in time? How could you share a life with a man who obviously never loved you enough?

After that, when you get rid of the anger, sadness will come. You’ll only think about your beautiful memories and when you remember them, you’ll want this guy back in your life.

This is when you’ll start feeling lonely because you got used to always having him by your side. You’ll be convinced that you will spend the rest of your life crying for this man.

E quando finalmente se chega ao fundo do poço, não há outra forma de voltar a subir.

What you won’t know is that while all of this was happening, you were actually travelling on the path of unloving this man.

You won’t be aware that you’ve already started your journey of deixá-lo ire que estas são todas as fases do seu processo de cura.

And then, one morning, all of a sudden, he won’t be the first thing that comes to your mind.

You will catch yourself smiling without a particular reason, and you won’t hear his voice in the back of your head.

All of a sudden, you’ll catch yourself not thinking about him every single day.

You’ll see that your heart buried him and that he’s become nothing more than a distant memory.

One day, you won’t be scared of going through life on your own because you’ll see that you made it just fine without him. You won’t miss him, and you won’t feel incomplete on your own.

All of a sudden, you’ll start enjoying your single life. You’ll start pampering yourself the way you were spoiling him.

You’ll start loving yourself more than you’ve ever loved this guy.

When that happens, you’ll be more fulfilled than ever. You’ll finally see how strong a woman you are.

You’ll see that your worth doesn’t have to do with the fact that this man loves you or doesn’t love you.

You’ll remember that you existed before he entered your life and that his departure didn’t destroy you or change the essence of your being.

And just like that, you’ll unlove him, the moment you start loving yourself for real.

moment you realize that you’ve always been more important than this man is the moment you’ll stop idealizing him, and you’ll see that he never deserved you.

No momento em que perceberes que o tipo que te deixou foi, na verdade, a melhor coisa que podia ter acontecido; no momento em que parar de esperar pelo encerramento e quando nos apercebemos que vocês simplesmente não foram feitos um para o outro.

No, you won’t forget that this man ever existed in your life. Instead, you’ll start seeing him as a lesson, as a healed scar and as a vague reminder of past times.

But that doesn’t mean you will be haunted by the memory of him because the moment you stop loving him is the moment in which you won’t feel his absence any more.

The moment in which you won’t feel this emptiness inside of your heart and the moment in which you won’t crave for him anymore.