18 Vantagens incríveis de envelhecer juntos (que ninguém te conta)
When you’re with the right person, growing old together is the dream. Nothing beats welcoming your golden years with your best friend who still looks at you the same way as when you first met.
To grow old together means to experience life’s trials and tribulations side by side, helping each other push through, never wanting to leave their side.
Significa aprender com o seu parceiro e evoluir como casal e individualmente. When you’re able to forge such a strong, healthy relationship that has stood the test of time, you know you’ve made it in life.
And even though you’re probably well aware of how incredibly lucky you are, it never hurts to be reminded, right?
So today, I’d love to focus my attention on all the brilliant things that come with growing old with the love of your life.
Whether you’re one of those lucky married couples whose love only grew stronger with old age or you’re hoping to be able to experience such a thing, this is for you.
True love doesn’t know age. Love each other the same during the honeymoon period and after many years of marriage.
Se você e a sua cara-metade estão verdadeiramente destinados a ficar juntos, é isto que podem esperar ao entrarem em novas estações da vida em comum.
As coisas mais bonitas de envelhecer juntos
Experimentar uma transformação espantosa com o amor da sua vida
From loved-up youngsters who were still trying to figure out their place in the world to a healthy, happy couple who have found it all in each other, you’ve experienced the most amazing transformation with the love of your life by your side.
It’s almost like your life flashed before your eyes and you didn’t even notice as you were so immersed in your bubble of happiness.
You enjoy each other’s undivided attention
If they need you, you’re there, no questions asked. Nobody deserves your attention more than them. There aren’t a million errands to run or people to please anymore.
It’s just the two of you enjoying each other’s company to the fullest. You wouldn’t dream of putting their needs second.
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Passa o seu tempo a fazer apenas as coisas que ADORA fazer
Quando finalmente nos reformamos, podemos voltar a fazer as coisas que nos fazem felizes! E, consequentemente, isso torna-vos muito mais felizes enquanto casal.
You both get to finally do the stuff that you love and not worry about anything or anyone else. This is your time to shine and you’re making the most of it.
Pode desfrutar (e mimar) os seus netos
Grandchildren. They’re one of the best parts of growing old together. You spend just enough time with them to please your heart, then you return them to their parents and unwind. Kind of the best deal out there.
A capacidade de dar conselhos preciosos sobre relacionamentos aos jovens
After many years of marriage, you’re qualified to give out some amazing relationship advice. To grow old means to have garnered enough life experience to help those around you.
Your children (and at some point, even your grandchildren) will get to enjoy first-hand invaluable advice from someone who’s lived to tell the tale.
You get that life isn’t a social media account (there’s no deleting and starting over)
Quando se chega a uma certa idade, aprende-se a apreciar o outro por todos os seus defeitos e falhas. Algo que vos teria feito querer acabar há anos atrás, faz com que hoje se esforcem muito mais.
There are no do-overs in life. You work best with what life gives you and you make the most of it. Whatever happens, it’s you and them against the world.
Conhecem-se de dentro para fora (o que é muito reconfortante)
You know what makes them tick and what will cheer them up instantly. You know what they’re thinking without them needing to say a word.
You know how they feel about a person just by looking at them. And it feels so good. Most of the time, you don’t even need to utter a word, you just saber. Isn’t that so comforting?
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Viver os altos e baixos da velhice lado a lado
You’re each other’s caregiver. If one of you gets ill, the other one is your personal medic. Whatever they need, you’re there and the best thing? You live it all together.
Growing old and getting ill is no fun but at least you’re in the best possible company. How can you be sad when you know this person would do anything to make you feel better?
Desfruta plenamente de um silêncio agradável
One of my favorite things about relationships is being able to comfortably sit in silence with each other. And it’s not awkward or weird. It’s just soothing.
This is something you’ll learn after many, many years together. There is no need to fill every silence with meaningless words. Sitting in companionable silence is just as pleasant as having a riveting conversation.
Podes ir ver o mundo sem que nada te impeça
Pode fazer uma viagem de mochila às costas pelos Estados Unidos ou tirar um mês de férias algures nos Alpes. O mundo é seu.
You don’t have to worry about taking time off from work, errands getting in your way or being away from your kids. It’s finally just the two of you! And you can go wherever you want, whenever you want.
Já não se preocupa com as coisas pequenas
The little things that used to irk you and caused fights no longer hold any power over you. Over time, you’ve learned what’s important and what isn’t. And life is so much better that way.
When you get to a place where you know what to let go of and what to dedicate time to, you’ve learned what true joy is.
Comunicam aberta e honestamente sobre os vossos desejos e necessidades
You don’t expect your partner to read your mind; that’s so childish. If you want something, you say it outright. If you’re upset over something they did, you discuss it.
Simplesmente não há tempo para arrastar as coisas. A vida é demasiado curta para andar com rodeios. Envelhecer juntos significa dominar a arte da comunicação saudável.
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Ver o seu programa de perguntas e respostas preferido com cacau é a sua noite ideal
Pessoalmente, isto também me parece uma noite de jackpot (e ainda me considero jovem).
Brincadeiras à parte, passar uma noite confortável a beber cacau quente (ou qualquer outra bebida que goste) e a ver o Jeopardy com o seu melhor amigo ao seu lado é tudo o que pode desejar.
As coisas simples significam o mundo.
Aprende finalmente a aproveitar a vida ao máximo
When you were younger, you were always stressed about work, obligations, people’s expectations of you and a million things in-between. And that prevented you from living life the way you know you should have.
Today, you’re not phased by any of it. If only someone had told you then how irrelevant all those things are in the grand scheme of things.
It’s all about living your happiness with the one who adds to it. Everything else is white noise.
Luta com justiça (e raramente)
On the rare occasion that you do fight, it’s always more than fair. There are no cheap shots or screaming matches. You talk like the mature adults you are and always aim to find the middle ground.
Envelhecer juntos ajudou-vos a perceber que uma relação saudável não pode sobreviver se as duas pessoas continuarem a lutar uma contra a outra em vez de lutarem contra o problema.
E, depois de cada discussão, não te esqueças de dizer Eu amo-te (e é a sério).
You make sure to spend your golden years in happiness and solidarity with the one you’re ‘stuck’ with for life (and you wouldn’t have it any other way).
Dão prioridade um ao outro em detrimento de qualquer outra pessoa
Nobody else could take the top spot in your heart anymore. Everything you’ve been through together, the good and bad, has bonded you for life.
You love all your loved ones with all your heart but nobody gets you the way your partner does. And for that reason, there is nothing you wouldn’t do for them and vice versa.
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You feel young at heart when you’re together
When you look at him, you don’t see an old man (and vice versa). You see the person you fell head over heels with who still makes you giggle every single day. And that makes you feel young again.
You don’t care what anyone else sees. All that matters is that whenever you look at your best friend, you feel like the vibrant, happy-go-lucky person you were at the start of your love story.
The reassurance of knowing you’ve chosen the right person
Quando dizem "amo-te" um ao outro, isso tem tanto valor como quando o disseram pela primeira vez há tantos anos.
The thing is, when you look at your partner, you see the only person you’d ever want to share life with. And it makes you so happy that life blessed you in such a special way.
If today was your last day on Earth, you’d know that you did it right, with your one true love along for the ride. Zero regrets.
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Citações comoventes sobre envelhecer juntos
Aqui estão algumas das minhas citações favoritas sobre a alegria de partilhar para sempre com o amor da sua vida. Desfruta delas hoje tanto quanto o terias feito há muito tempo.
1. “Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be, The last of life, for which the first was made: Our times are in his Hand Who saith, ‘A whole I planned, Youth shows but half; trust God: see all, nor be afraid!”―Robert Browning
2. “Go directly to Nirvana. Don’t pass go – or you’ll have kids, you’ll grow old together, you’ll be born into another realm where you’ll forget that there was even nirvana.”―Frederick Lenz
3. “Let’s grow old and die together. Let’s do it now.”―Ani DiFranco
4. “I hope we’ll get lucky enough to grow old together.”―Paula McLain
5. “And it feels good to feel young with you, and at the same time to grow old with you. And it’s all those things together at the same moment.”―Dave Isay
6. “’With a telescope, some munchies, and a warm blanket, watch for Halley’s comet.’ Yeah. I like that. There’s no time limit. Just sit there and grow old together.”―David Cross
7. “We were supposed to grow old together,… Have kids. Take walks under old trees. I wanted to watch the lines etch themselves into your flesh and know when each and every one of them appeared. Die together.”―Dennis Lehane
8. “The mere process of growing old together will make the slightest acquaintance seem a bosom friend.”―Logan Pearsall Smith
9. “Some lovers were fortunate enough to grow old together. They’d grown old apart. She did not think him any less handsome. She only wished that she’d been there when the first line on his face had appeared, so that she could have stroked and kissed and cherished it.”―Sherry Thomas
10. “Sometimes, just sometimes, when people say ‘forever’, they mean it.”―Unknown
11. “When couples stay together they will learn what the other’s personality and thought processes are, and eventually could finish each other’s sentences due to their familiarity with each other.”―Betty Thomas & D. Lloyd Thomas
12. “Growing old with someone else is beautiful, but growing old while being true to yourself is divine.”―Dodinsky
13. “Each moment of a happy lover’s hour is worth an age of dull and common life.”―Aphra Behn
14. “I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn’t matter what you do, or who you are or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together.”―Julia Roberts
15. “Maybe you don’t need the whole world to love you. Maybe you just need one person.”―Jason Segel & Nicholas Stoller
16. “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”―Nora Ephron
17. “In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine.”―Maya Angelou
18. “I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone.”―Philippa Boyens
19. “Soul mate: two little words, one big concept. A belief that someone, somewhere, is holding the key to your heart…”―Michael Patrick King
20. “The compatibility of a couple and the quality of a relationship lies in the way they handle their arguments and differences.”―Nishan Panwar
21. “It’s a wonderful thing, as time goes by, to be with someone who looks into your face, when you’ve gotten old, and still sees what you think you look like.”―Steve Cohen
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All Things Considered…
Growing old together requires a high level of commitment and two people who genuinely love each other’s company.
You’re not just a couple. You’re partners in life, lovers and best friends. And when you look at them, you just know that there is no one else out there for you.
Once you’re with the right person, these 18 amazing benefits are what you can look forward to; making the most of every single day with the one who makes it all worthwhile.
The ups and downs and the trials and tribulations have got nothing on you, as long as you’ve got your best friend along for the ride.
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