Estás com ele por razões tóxicas? 5 maneiras de descobrir

Eu sei que estar numa relação é mais importante do que ser solteiro qualquer dia.

Mas será que vale mesmo a pena continuar a lutar por todas as razões erradas e até tóxicas?

Uma relação deve ser estimulante, calma e tranquilizadora.

Deve ser o seu lugar seguro, uma forma de se esconder dos problemas que o incomodam.

Uma relação deve ser algo que nos motiva a ultrapassar os dias de merda porque, no final, podemos ver a nossa pessoa preferida.

It shouldn’t be about just not being alone.

It shouldn’t be about being able to tell people you’re with someone.

Those are all the wrong reasons and you’ll never find happiness that way.

What you need is someone who’ll make you feel like you’re walking on clouds.

Someone who’ll make you see why it never worked out with anyone else.

Não alguém apenas para preencher um lugar vazio na o vosso coração.

Por favor, tenham cuidado com as pessoas em quem investem o vosso tempo.

Nem toda a gente é tão simpática como pode parecer.

Nem todos merecem o seu amor.

Are you in a relationship because you can’t fathom a day without him or are these 5 toxic reasons keeping you attached?

You’re with him because you feel like your ship has sailed

There aren’t any good, kind, and available men out there anymore, so you took what you could get.

He’s not a bad guy, but you don’t feel that everlasting love with him.

You keep trying to convince yourself that you’ll get there, the feelings will appear, and it’ll end up being your ultimate love story, but deep down you know it’s not true.

He’s not the love of your life.

Sente que as suas opções são limitadas e que se contentou com um tipo aceitável.

He’s a decent option, but he’s not someone you’d go to the ends of the earth for.

He may be sweet and he may be kind, but if he doesn’t make your heart skip a beat, he’s not the one.

You’re with him because you’ve been hurt way too many times to look for someone better

A dor que sentiste e as experiências que tiveste com outros rapazes tiveram um grande impacto na tua vida.

Now you’re too scared to look for someone who’ll make you the happiest you could ever be.

E se voltar a acontecer?

E se acabares destroçado como tantas vezes antes?

It’s a risk you’re not willing to take.

This guy is not someone who’d magoar-vos; he’s proved it multiple times.

So you’ll stick it out because you feel it’s better than finding an overwhelming love story and being broken again.

You desperately wish you felt as strongly as he seems to feel for you… but you don’t.

He’s a nice dude and he treats you right, so you’ll stay to protect your heart from further pain.

You’re with him because you were the last one in your circle to find a man

O facto de ser a única rapariga solteira no seu círculo social afectou-a bastante.

It’s no fun being the only one without Saturday night plans once they all go off with their boyfriends.

Being single does have its perks, but you can’t enjoy it if all your girls are happily taken and you’re left there alone, watching Netflix and wishing a man was there with you.

You had to find someone, even if it wasn’t a love for the ages.

A partir de uma certa idade, deixamos de ser exigentes e baixamos os nossos critérios.

So now you’re taken, but it’s not a love story you’ll be telling your grandkids about.

He’s not the guy you see a future with.

He’s good for now, but deep down you know that your one is still out there somewhere.

You’re with him because you needed to forget about your ex

You had a shitty breakup and you just couldn’t stand the thought of him anymore.

Ele deixou um buraco no teu coração e precisavas de o preencher com alguém.

And that’s what this guy is.

Um substituto para um ex que precisa desesperadamente de afastar da sua mente.

You know it’s wrong and you know you’re going to end up hurting him and yourself in the process.

It’s only a matter of time before it happens.

Mas, de alguma forma, torna-se um pouco mais fácil esquecer o seu ex se tiveres outro homem ao teu lado.

You know he’s not your forever, but you’ll stay for as long as he serves his purpose.

You’re with him because you need someone to flaunt on your Instagram

You just need people to see you’re “happily” taken.

Even though you know it’s not real happiness, it’s more important to you to keep people fooled than to actually be happy.

Por isso, continua com o seu estratagema.

Continua a exibi-lo nas contas das redes sociais e as pessoas continuam a gostar das suas fotografias de amor.

You’re selling them something that’s not real and sooner or later your lie is going to catch up with you.

You’ll realize how miserable you are by basically faking your life and people will start noticing you’re not as happy as your photos seem to show.

Antes de se magoar ainda mais, deixe de manter as aparências falsas e comece a cuidar melhor de si.

Só quando perceberes o quão errada é esta relação falsa é que te darás a oportunidade de publicar sobre alguém que te faz realmente feliz!