A forma correcta de conquistar o seu coração, com base na sua linguagem amorosa
Provavelmente já ouviu falar das linguagens do amor - cinco formas diferentes de dar e receber amor.
Cada um de nós tem uma linguagem amorosa primária, aquela que nos faz sentir mais amados, desejados e apreciados.
When you care for someone deeply, even if you don’t speak the same love language, it becomes crucial to you for this person to understand how much they mean to you and you’re searching for the best path toward their heart.
Well, that’s why we’re here to assist you by giving you the right way to win your partner’s heart, according to his primary love language.
1. Palavras de afirmação
Este é um rapaz que precisa da sua aprovação constante. Mesmo que não o admita, ele vai gostar de ouvir os seus elogios e os seus feitos.
So, when you’re trying to win him over, don’t play typical modern dating games.
Don’t wait to express your feelings to him, don’t hold back on ‘I love yous’ and don’t even think of putting him down to make him chase you.
He is not like any other men you’ve met and all of this behavior will only push him away from you.
If you don’t verbalize your emotions enough and if you stay silent about how much he means to you, he’ll feel emocionalmente negligenciada e indesejáveis.
Por isso, se quer mesmo conquistá-lo, seja o vento sob as suas asas.
Apoie-o em tudo o que ele tentar fazer e mostre-lhe que acredita nele, mesmo quando ele perder a fé nas suas próprias capacidades.
Esteja presente para lhe mostrar que as suas realizações são importantes e que sabe que ele é capaz de o fazer.
Respond to his texts, brag to other people about your relationship in front of him, write him love letters, compliment him in front of others, don’t compare him to other guys and make sure he knows how much he means to you at all times.
When it comes to the bedroom, don’t forget to praise his skills here either.
If he does something you don’t like, be careful about criticizing him and carefully choose your words when you’re about to complain about his performance.
Lembre-se de que este homem tem um ego bastante frágil e a melhor forma de chegar ao seu coração é aumentar a sua auto-confiança.
Make sure he knows he is the only man you’d ever be with and that he sees how much you respect him and everything he does.
2. Actos de serviço
Contrary to the previous guy, the man whose love language is acts of service doesn’t give much of a damn about what you say.
He won’t fall for your words and you can go on and on about how much you love him but if he doesn’t feel your love, you won’t have a lot of luck getting into his heart.
Quando quiser conquistar o seu coração e a sua menteAs suas acções têm de corresponder às suas palavras.
He is someone you have to be extra careful with because it’s over for you if he catches you giving him false promises.
Claro que a primeira coisa que deve fazer é estar lá para ele quando ele precisar de si.
Give him a hand when he is going through hard times and I promise you that he’ll appreciate it forever.
However, what makes this type different from every other man you’ve ever dated are the little things he puts his focus on and sees as a test of your feelings.
Ele guardará rancor por algo que esperava que fizesses por ele, mesmo que provavelmente pensasses nisso como a coisa mais irrelevante do mundo.
Bem, para um homem como ele, era uma grande coisa. E se está a tentar conquistar o seu coração, tem de começar a prestar especial atenção a eles também.
It’s actually pretty simple; you have to SHOW this man that you care.
No, he doesn’t need you to be his slave and do chores for him—he just wants to see that his well-being and comfort are important to you.
Make him coffee, cook his favorite meal, do a simple errand on his behalf, help him clean his apartment, put his favorite music in your car, make him a bubble bath…
Confia em mim, cada um destes gestos vai significar o mundo para ele.
3. Receber presentes
When they hear about the love language called ‘receiving gifts’, most people think it’s reserved for just gold-diggers and that it is closely connected to everything materialistic.
À primeira vista, partem do princípio de que a única forma de fazer com que essas pessoas nos amem é oferecer-lhes presentes caros, levá-las a jantares de luxo e, basicamente, comprar o seu amor.
Therefore, they assume you can forget about dating someone with this love language unless you’re filthy rich.
Well, the truth is quite different because receiving gifts actually doesn’t have anything to do with money or anything materialistic.
It’s just that these people enjoy knowing the fact that their significant other thought of them at a given moment and remembered to buy or make them a gift.
Of course, this present doesn’t have to be expensive. In fact, it can be a little something that shows the guy you care for was on your mind.
A melhor maneira de provar as suas emoções a um homem como ele é, de facto, fazer-lhe alguma coisa.
Ele ficará encantado com o facto de se ter esforçado para o surpreender e para lhe pôr um sorriso no rosto.
What they hate are ‘random’ presents without any deeper meaning.
Don’t get him some shower gel or something similar that shows that you didn’t want to appear empty-handed but
não investiu nenhum pensamento na escolha do presente.
Em vez disso, concentre-se em objectos personalizados. Compre-lhe algo que tenha significado e que o faça lembrar-se sempre de si.
Além disso, se prestares mais atenção ao que ele diz, vais deixá-lo de rastos.
Lembram-se da camisa que ele estava a comprar há uns meses atrás? Pois bem, o seu aniversário é a oportunidade perfeita para ele a receber.
Lembra-se de como ele estava sempre a falar, por exemplo, do seu brinquedo favorito quando era criança? Porque não comprar-lhe esse mesmo brinquedo agora?
In fact, you don’t have to wait for a special occasion to buy or make something for this man.
Em vez disso, ele ficará ainda mais entusiasmado se vir que o ama da mesma forma todos os dias.
4. Tempo de qualidade
À primeira vista, pode pensar-se que este homem é demasiado carente.
After all, he acts like he wants to spend every minute of his free time with you and you’re afraid that the two of you will get bored of each other if you keep going at this pace.
Well, let me tell you a little secret—he doesn’t care about the amount of time he spends with you as much as he is interested in its quality.
Não, ele não é o tipo possessivo—he just wants to have your undivided attention whenever you two are together.
Besides, the fact that he can’t get enough of you is a good sign. It means that he’s crazy about you and that you’re already halfway there in winning him over completely.
Therefore, whenever you’re with him, put all your focus on whatever he’s telling you.
Mostre-lhe que é um bom ouvinte e que cada palavra que sai da boca dele é importante.
Stay away from social media and your phone in general. Don’t think about bringing your friends along because he wants to have some privacy with you.
Put an effort into planning your dates and don’t always go to the same coffee shop, as comfortable as you might feel there. Instead, suggest some new activities you know he would like.
Surpreenda-o reservando uma escapadela romântica de fim de semana para vocês os dois e planeando toda a viagem em conjunto.
Vá buscá-lo depois do trabalho e leve-o a um spa ou a passar algumas horas na natureza.
Por muito ocupados que estejam, arranjem tempo para ele e certifiquem-se de que é bem empregue.
5. Tato físico
When you hear that a guy’s ‘love language’ is connected with physical touch, the first thing you have in mind is that he is a player who only wants to get into your pants.
You think he doesn’t care about anything besides getting laid and that’s the last type of man you want.
Besides, if getting physical is the only way he can feel the depth of another person’s feelings, there must be something seriously wrong with him.
After all, you don’t plan on proving your love to him by letting him take you home.
Even though these thoughts you’ve been having are nothing unusual, I have to tell you that men whose love language is physical touch are not sex maniacs who have only one thing on their minds. Instead, they crave intimacy on more than one superficial level.
Therefore, he won’t think that you love him only when you sleep with him as there are many other ways in which you can show him your feelings outside of the bedroom.
Start with a PDA—he sees it as a confirmation of your intentions. Don’t kiss him just when you two greet or when you’re about to have some action; do it out of nowhere.
Hug him tightly every time you have a chance to. Grab his hand or touch him when no one sees it, just to show him that you’re there and that you’re not going anywhere.
Most importantly—acariciar antes, durante e depois do ato sexual.
