14 maneiras de o fazer perceber que precisa de si
Sometimes, a relationship gets to that point where people forget they need to fight for one another because they’re so sure of their feelings towards each other.
We all get used to having someone next to us, like they’re part of us and there’s no way we can lose that part.
Mas uma relação saudável exige que ambas as partes continuem a tentar e a trabalhar em conjunto para que a relação seja bem sucedida.
Todos nós precisamos de sentir algum apreço e de sentir que somos amados e desejados.
Make the guy you adore realize you’re the one for him – CLIQUE AQUI.
Sentir-se ignorado, negligenciado e indesejado são as coisas mais dolorosas a sentir numa relação, especialmente se gostamos verdadeiramente da nossa cara-metade.
Dizem que a pior solidão é aquela que sentimos ao lado da pessoa que amamos.
Então, e agora? Sente-se sozinho na sua relação?
You found yourself feeling like you’re taken for granted? Or you just entered the relationship and you really want it to work out, to show him that you’re the One for him?
Como é que ele vai perceber que precisa de si?
We gathered games and ways that can make him realize that you’re the one he needs and the one worth fighting for.
Ways that will show him that he’s losing you and that it’s time he steps up his game to keep you around.
Show him that you’re more than just a body
You’re not just someone to keep his bed warm or to help him to get off. You have feelings, you have needs, same as him. Show him that you’re more than just an object in a house.
Em vez de se enrolar nos lençóis, diga-lhe que tem necessidade de falar sobre os seus problemas e emoções.
Mostre-lhe que vocês os dois são melhores amigos, amantes e parceiros para toda a vida, e não apenas companheiros de sexo.
Os homens tendem a esquecer certos benefícios de ter uma mulher fantástica ao seu lado, porque se deixam consumir pelo seu estilo de vida acelerado.
Mas lembrá-los de que podem voltar a ter essas coisas fará certamente com que abrandem um pouco e desfrutem realmente do momento.
Sente-se com ele e peça-lhe para falar consigo, para a ouvir. Mostre-lhe que ele a faz sentir bem e que precisa do abraço dele para voltar a sentir isso.
Dizer-lhe que sente-se só and taken for granted and that that’s not what love is about. Show him that he can have good times with you, also.
Leve-lhe cerveja e ponha o filme ou jogo preferido dele a ver com ele.
Ponha uma música que vos faça lembrar a altura em que se conheceram e divirtam-se com ele.
Leve-o numa viagem de recordação que o faça lembrar-se de vocês os dois terem sido amigos e, mais tarde, amantes e parceiros.
Recorde-lhe a mulher por quem ele se apaixonou e a forma como ele a tratava.
If he keeps on taking you for granted, maybe it’s time you return him a favor.
Mostre-lhe que confia nele
Uma das razões pelas quais os homens se afastam é a falta de confiança or feeling that there isn’t any of it in a relationship.
Maybe he feels bad leaving on business trips without you because he’s worried you’re pissed.
Maybe he’s not able to enjoy the moment because he sees shadows of jealousy everywhere.
Mostrem-lhe que ele tem a vossa confiança. Mostra-lhe que confias nele com o teu corpo, com as tuas emoções, com os teus medos.
There’s no heavier bond than fear and hope. Sharing your biggest emotions and horrors, alongside love, is something no man could turn his head away from.
Suggest that you two take a weekend away once he’s done with work. Or turn off your mobile phones and enjoy each other and the time you stole for you two.
Passem o fim de semana inteiro a cozinhar juntos, a dançar e a fazer amor.
Lembram-se daqueles tempos em que passavam horas a conversar na almofada? Quando foi a última vez que o fizeram?
Quando foi a última vez que se abriram um com o outro? Aproveitem o fim de semana de fuga para se abrirem um com o outro e reforçarem os laços que partilham.
Make time for each other—not just you for him
Maybe he’s so used to having you around that he forgot that he actually has to make an effort so that things could stay that way.
Next time he calls you, don’t answer. Take up a new hobby, meet new people.
Show him that he now has to fight to spend time with you, that you’re not a puppy who’d answer the second he calls your name.
É uma pessoa que precisa de se sentir desejada.
Once he shows interest in fighting for you, work slowly on compromising. Sometimes there’s no easy way to show him that he’s losing you.
If he suggests that you two go on a date and you already have something planned, don’t cancel because of him.
Mostrar-lhe que tens uma vida para além dele e que tens pessoas de quem gostas na tua vida, que ele não é o único.
Em vez disso, sugira que a data passe para outro dia ou para algumas horas mais tarde.
If you keep on making time for him but he does it only when it’s convenient to him, there is no way he will stop taking you for granted.
Mostrar apreço
Tal como você precisa de se sentir apreciada e amada, ele também precisa disso. Mas, em vez dos elogios habituais, tente fazer as coisas de forma diferente desta vez.
Diga-lhe que não tinha dúvidas de que ele seria bem sucedido naquele projeto no trabalho. Diz-lhe que adoras a forma como ele faz-nos sentir seguros.
Tell him how you can’t wait to have some time alone with him so you can enjoy his great body.
How you need him to be close and to fall asleep in his strong arms because you’re feeling broken.
Show him that he’s appreciated, that there’s more than one reason you decided to give yourself to him.
O quanto admira a sua ética de trabalho e a sua mente. Que ele te faz sentir bem e que queres que ambos sejam felizes.
Tell him ‘thank you’ every once in a while because we get so used to things that people do for us that we start taking them for granted.
Maybe he feels like he’s being taken for granted and that’s the reason he’s pulling away?
Basta mostrar-lhe que vê os seus esforços e que os aprecia.
Sair sem ele
You used to go out together all the time, but lately you’re spending all your nights at home watching Netflix and sometimes (rarely, really) making love.
If you want more, if you’re not satisfied with that kind of lifestyle, but you’re not ready to openly admit that to him, show him.
Go out without him. You wanted to watch that movie so badly, but he doesn’t feel like it?
Go alone, go with your friends, don’t settle for staying home with him.
You feel like clubbing, but he doesn’t? Go girl—you were clubbing long before you met him.
Just show him that you don’t need him to accompany you everywhere; show him a sua independência.
Enjoy your life to the fullest, and keep in mind that you don’t need him to do that.
Yes, it’s amazing if he accompanies you along the way, if he’s next to you when you’re happy, but if he ignores your invitations, make him come to you.
If he’s not interested in leaving the house with you but he’s perfectly fine doing that alone with friends, show him that you can play that ,too.
If he still doesn’t respond, that could be a sign that something is up. He’s either under pressure or depressed but doesn’t know how to open up about that. Or he’s seeing someone else.
O importante é que saibas que mereces ser feliz, mesmo que isso signifique estar sem ele.
Mostre a sua confiança
Confidence is not something we’re naturally given and it’s usually easier to lose it than to gain it. But if you have it, if you’re working hard to keep it, show it off!
You love how your body looks in that tight dress, but you’re worried ele pode estar com ciúmes? Wear it, and if he doubts you, if he doesn’t trust you, that’s a totally different problem you have.
But if he’s sure of your love, what could possibly go wrong if you remind him how much of an amazing woman he has beside him?
What could possibly go wrong if you show him that you’re still that strong and independent woman he fell in love with?
You have the opportunity to move forward at work, but you’re worried if he’s going to feel threatened by your salary and success? Darling, if you can handle the challenge that’s in front of you, you can handle him too.
Believe in yourself, trust your gut. If it feels right, do it. He will learn to believe in you, too, and maybe it’ll teach him to believe in himself.
Ele verá a forma como se vê a si próprio e aprenderá a apaixonar-se por si a um nível totalmente diferente.
If, by any chance he decides that that’s too much for him and he feels threatened, do you really need that kind of negativity in your life?
Deixem-no tomar conta de si próprio, por vezes
Don’t run to his aid if he’s sick or if he’s having problems at work. If he said he can handle it but he only needed to share that with you, let him do it. You’re not his mama para estar sempre perto dele.
Let him iron his shirts once in a while or tell him you want him to cook you dinner because he’s so good at it. Little accomplishments can go a long way.
It’s important to remind him that you’re not a dishwasher, cleaning lady and cook made just to serve him.
Temos tendência a exagerar para agradar às pessoas que nos rodeiam e para fazer os nossos homens felizes.
But along the way, we forget that it’s important that we’re happy, too.
That our happiness is as equally important as anybody else’s. So, why not let him take care of himself sometimes? To take care of you?
It’s important that you show him that you trust him with that, without guilt tripping and anger, because men tend to be sensitive about being called ‘irresponsible’.
If you want to show him that you’re independent, why not give him the same chance?
Fazer com que as pessoas à sua volta o amem
Tu e a mãe dele dão-se muito bem e o pai dele acha que és uma dádiva do céu? Ótimo, metade do trabalho já está feito.
Planeie uma visita de fim de semana aos pais dele para lhe lembrar que eles gostam de si e que acham que vocês ficam muito bem juntos.
His friends think you are the best woman out there and that he’s seriously lucky to have you? Make sure he remembers that.
Tell them they can watch the game at your place and bring them snacks, but don’t stay too long. Plan yourself a lady’s night e também se divertir.
Show them all that you have a life outside the relationship—that’s something all men admire: women that are not needy and clingy.
If you already have the love of his people but he’s pulling away, there could be something serious going on.
Porque, a sério, ele tem de ser um tipo especial de idiota para não se aperceber do quão fantástica tu és.
If he hasn’t reacted to any of the tactics you have used, then it’s time to sit down and address the issue.
Neither of you is happy and you have to do something about it—together.
Dê prioridade a si própria e faça-o compreender porque é que isso é necessário
Negligenciar-se a si próprioA atitude de se manter satisfeito e feliz, apenas para o manter satisfeito e feliz, não é a forma de manter uma relação.
He’s so used to having you around, so used to you taking care of him, that he has no need to take care of himself or your relationship because he still believes that you will do it.
Show him that you won’t, put yourself first. Instead of going to his parents for the third weekend in a row, go somewhere you always wanted to go, whether alone or with friends.
Stop respecting his wishes if he doesn’t respect yours. If he shows you that he’s hurt, don’t add to the tension.
Calmly try to make him understand that you really need that getaway weekend, that you really need to have some time for yourself and that you really need to feel wanted. And right now, you don’t feel that way.
Dar-lhe espaço
Há certas coisas que os homens gostam de fazer sozinhos ou com os amigos, como ver jogos, ir ao bar ou ir à pesca (ou seja, beber cerveja e falar sobre as suas vidas de merda).
This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you or that he doesn’t appreciate your company—it’s just like shopping or spa days for us.
That’s his time and he wants to enjoy it without worrying whether you’re bored or his friends might say something that prejudicaria ou o aborrecer.
As much as you love him and want to spend time with him, it’s important that you give him space to breathe.
Passar cada minuto do vosso tempo juntos só vai levar a que ambos fiquem fartos um do outro e a discussões desnecessárias porque nenhum de vocês teve tempo para desabafar.
And trust me, that’s time important to you as much as it is to him, which leads us to the next number.
Desfrutar da vida fora da relação
It’s important for him to see that you’re not depending on him, that you are perfectly fine on your own.
It will make him curious about your time, the life you’re leading outside the relationship.
Take up a new hobby and make new friends who are not connected with your life and who don’t know your partner.
It will be a great opportunity for you to find a way to enjoy yourself more, to talk about things outside the ones you’re always discussing with him and your friends.
Encontrará algo novo para se entregar e isso poderá despertar a paixão e acender o fogo dentro de si.
Acabaram-se as desculpas
Arranjar desculpas para eleSe o seu pai não se importa com a sua vida, cada vez que faz asneira e cada vez que a magoa, só o fará acreditar que a pode tomar por garantida.
Stop tolerating his shitty behavior if there is any, because it won’t get any better if you pretend that it’s not there.
Mostre-lhe que também tem sentimentos e que ele precisa de se esforçar mais ao seu lado.
Se está aborrecida por ele não a ajudar em casa ou com os filhos, diga-lhe.
If you’re upset about him taking your efforts for granted, tell him. He won’t remember it himself, until it’s too late.
Todas nós queremos fazer os nossos homens felizes e muitas vezes perdoamos demasiadas coisas por amor.
But remember that it’s okay to love yourself, too. That it’s okay to leave if it becomes too much.
That it’s more than okay to demand the respect you deserve. It will either make him give it to you and appreciate you much more thus making him want to be around you more, or he will snap and leave.
Either way, it’s a happy ending. You will get the man you deserve or get rid of the one you don’t.
Mostrar iniciativa no quarto
O sexo é importante—not as important like the rest of the things on the list, but it still is.
Seja sedutora e leve-o à loucura, provoque-o e faça-o voltar para mais.
If you’ve been doing it the same way for months now, switch it up. Get on top and show him who is the boss. Get him on the edge and get off until he begs for you to come back.
Or completely deny him the act itself, but send him texts so dirty that he will lose his mind. Seduce him and play him until he can’t take it anymore.
Show him what he’s really missing out on, and trust me, he will definitely put some effort in keeping you satisfied.
Play different games with him, such as leaving clothes from the doorway to the bedroom so he knows what’s waiting for him once he enters the room.
Or leave him a note that you’re hiding somewhere naked and he gets to do with you what he wants, once he finds you.
Enviar-lhe fotografias of lingerie and ask him for his opinion on which one you should wear when he gets home, and once he does—wear none of it.
Provoque-o em público, namorisque-o com mensagens de texto durante jantares de negócios ou reuniões familiares.
Mostre-lhe que o deseja nesse preciso momento e desafie-o a conquistá-la.
Don’t let him always have things his way
This is not the 16th century anymore. We fought hard to accomplish the things we have today and, damn, we’re still fighting like crazy.
The time when a man’s word was the ultimate law in a relationship is long gone.
Show him that you’re having none of it. He wants you to go to the game with him, but you don’t feel like it?
Se ele começar a exigir que vá e tentar pressioná-la a ceder, pare imediatamente.
Tens a tua própria vontade e as tuas próprias necessidades. Diz-lhe onde o queres.
If you want him to help with the kids, tell him. If you want him under you in bed, push him. He’s not that special to always have things his way.
