8 hábitos de rapariga solteira que estão a arruinar as suas hipóteses de encontrar o amor

Girls, let’s be honest here for a moment. We are todas as mulheres fortes e podemos fazer tudo o que nos apetecer. Sabes como é, PODER DAS RAPARIGAS! 

Ainda assim, todos nós desejamos esse tipo de amor incondicional e para sempre.

We all need someone who’ll appreciate us and treat us the way we deserve. We’re looking for someone who’ll love us in a way no one else has. Todos nós andamos à procura das nossas almas gémeas.

No entanto, essa busca pode levar algum tempo e, entretanto, é preciso ter em conta que o tempo de vida é muito curto, desenvolvemos alguns hábitos que podem arruinar as nossas hipóteses de encontrar o Sr. Certosem sequer se aperceberem.

I’ve listed some of those habits we need to change before it’s too late. Don’t let them stop you from finding love.

Estás sempre a falar do teu ex

You’ll never be able to find true love if you are stuck in the past. You have to think about your future and leave past relationships and boyfriends where they belong.

A pior coisa que pode fazer quando finalmente conhece alguém novo é compará-lo com o seu ex. You won’t benefit at all by doing so, only make him feel bad.

Avoid talking about your past experiences. Your past relationship has finished and you already know that wasn’t true love. Stay focused on your future and finding your soulmate.

Espera-se um amor tipo filme

Esqueça o tipo de amor you’ve seen in romantic movies. That doesn’t exist. Real love and relationships are something completely different.

If you’re expecting that kind of love, I’ll have to disappoint you and say that you won’t experience it. Real life is much more complicated and so is love.

Queres ser perseguido

Vida de solteiro has made you realize how much you’re worth. You know how much you deserve and don’t want to settle for anything less. 

This time, don’t invest too much. Give to the other person as much as you are getting from them. It’s not about playing games, but about reciprocity. You are worthy of the chase, so start acting like that.

Tem uma opinião demasiado elevada sobre si próprio

It’s time to have an honest one-on-one conversation with yourself. No one is ever good enough for you. You think that you always deserve more than someone has to offer you.

You show everyone how hard they’ll have to work if they want to win you over. You have a high opinion about yourself and that’s why you don’t want to give chances to guys who you think don’t deserve it.

Knowing your value and self-worth is good for your self-esteem, but creating an inflated opinion about yourself is creating false self-esteem. Every guy will think that you’re being conceited.

I know you aren’t. You’re just using it as your defense mechanism because you don’t want to get your heart broken.

But you don’t need to do that because knowing your true self-worth is enough to protect you from being hurt. 

Esperas demasiado de um homem

Aumentar a sua auto-consciência faz com que aumente também as suas expectativas. Esperas demasiado de todos os homens que querem estar contigo.

You don’t want them to make you their number one priority, but their only priority. Estabelecemos tantas regras e limites para eles e esperamos que respeitem tudo.

It’s good to know how much you deserve, it’s good to have some HEALTHY boundaries, still, you have to keep it real. After all, we all get what we actually deserve. 

Pensa demasiado à frente

You’ve become afraid of starting a new relationship because you immediately think about whether it has a future or not. You think that you’re only wasting your precious time if you don’t see any future in it.

É preciso abrandar. No one knows what will happen in the days ahead and unfortunately, we can’t affect it no matter how much we think about it.

You’ve forgotten about the importance of self-care

It’s important to pay attention to your looks, but trust me, it’s more important to pay attention to your spiritual beauty. You have to nurture your soul too, because your inner beauty is as important as the outer one. 

Focus on yourself and always work on becoming more beautiful inside and out. You’ll see how it’ll affect your love life as well. 

That happiness, beauty, and love you’ll feel inside will radiate on the outside too. Isso vai ajudá-la a atrair coisas melhores e homens melhores para a sua vida.  

You’ve already given up on love

If you’ve been single for some time now, you may have given up onm finding the one. If you’ve tried hard to find love, it’s probably made you think that you should quit because love isn’t for you.

Maybe you’ve already made peace with it.

O facto é que: Por mais difícil que seja, nunca desistas de procurar o verdadeiro amor.

We all have our other halves, we all have our soulmates. Maybe they’re really slow to appear, but one day they’ll find their way to you.

Até lá, tente livrar-se destes maus hábitos porque eles podem realmente impedi-lo de encontrar a pessoa certa.