Homem surpreendido por a sua mulher não lhe ter implorado para ficar quando ele pediu o divórcio
Women are told that they’re too dramatic their whole life. We’re too sensitive when people hurt us, too emotional when something goes wrong, and doing too much when we’re happy.
Para além disso, os homens atribuem muitas vezes tudo isto aos nossos sintomas de TPM e “that time of the month”, and even go so far as to declare us crazy. So, we end up being labeled just because they don’t know how to deal with our emotions!
Os homens esperam sempre que as mulheres façam birras por causa de um divórcio e criem o caos, but they don’t know that a divorce for some women is actually a blessing, not a curse.
When we finally hit rock bottom and can’t tolerate any more nonsense we calmly leave, then everyone’s surprised we didn’t show any emotions. So, who’s the crazy one here?
Divórcio sem mais nem menos
Imagine saying to someone you don’t love them anymore but then you feel hurt when they decide to leave. Some people are just incredibly entitled!
Foi exatamente o que aconteceu a uma mulher que partilhou a sua história no Reddit para desabafar. Aparentemente, o marido chegou a casa um dia e deu-lhe os papéis do divórcio sem qualquer explicação. She didn’t even know why as she explains in her post:
“I read them over and asked why, he told me he was in love with somebody else, his co-worker, and wanted to marry her. I said ok and began the process of moving out.”
Ela disse que, felizmente, tinha a sua casa onde podia ficar e decidiu ir para lá. Depois de levar todos os seus pertences, incluindo tudo o que pagou, foi-se embora.
She was also smart enough to get herself a lawyer to represent her. Since she works at a law firm, her colleague agreed to help her in the process. You would think that this is where the story ends, but actually it’s just starting!
Ele esperava que ela lutasse por ele
Apesar de ter sido o marido a pedir o divórcio, acabou por ficar mais zangado do que ela. Ela escreveu:
“My husband contacted me a couple of weeks ago, angry that I had taken all of my things and moved out. He was even more angry that I didn’t have any emotional response and didn’t ‘fight for him.’ I explained that there was no use throwing a tantrum about divorce and that I take time to process things.”
Isto feriu-lhe mesmo o ego, por isso acusou-a de ser fria e começou a insultá-la in multiple ways. But it didn’t end there.
Depois da audiência no tribunal, os insultos continuaram. Ele não só lhe chamou nomes feios como também afirmou que ela estava a fazer batota on him with her attorney. She finished her post by saying she’s happy she divorced him even though he now seems to regret it. What a surprise!
Ela lidou com o divórcio como uma chefe!
A apresentação dos papéis do divórcio não é certamente uma sensação agradável. No entanto, Agir como um louco e desesperado não o levará a lado nenhum. If anything it can only make the other side more satisfied. That’s why it’s always interesting to see someone surprised because you didn’t react in the way they expected.
This lady set an example of how divorce should be handled! Don’t give them the satisfaction of begging them to stay, because that’s exactly what they want.
Os utilizadores do Reddit também manifestaram o seu apoio à mulher dizendo she definitely broke this man’s fragile ego! Alguém comentou:
“He leaves you for someone else and then gets mad that you don’t scream and cry for him, not because he would consider changing his mind, but because he wanted the ego boost.”
Outros elogiaram-na pela sua confiança e ela até respondeu dizendo levou anos para se tornar suficientemente confiante para agir desta forma e que os seus colegas do escritório de advogados a ajudaram a tornar-se mais forte.
No final desta experiência selvagem, chegou também à conclusão de que ele provavelmente tinha ciúmes do seu advogado. Acrescentou:
“My colleague is everything that my STBX is not. He has a stable job, owns a house, drives a nice car, is pretty conventionally attractive, and has confidence. I think my STBX is jealous and I didn’t realize that.”
Well, this surely explains a lot of things, don’t you think? I even wonder if there ever was a co-worker he wanted to leave her for or if it was part of his plan and tentativa falhada de a deixar não só com ciúmes, mas também desesperada e a implorar.
Or…hear me out! He was just testing the waters and nunca esperei que ela dissesse sim ao divórcio mas sim ficar ao lado dele e tolerar o seu mau comportamento, como fazem algumas mulheres.
Qual é a sua opinião? Ela deveria ter reagido de forma diferente?
