O que fazer quando não consegues parar de pensar nela

Por vezes, conhecemos uma rapariga e ela deixa-nos imediatamente sem fôlego.

She won’t be like any other girl you’ve ever met… This one will be different.

Vais vê-la, conhecê-la, aproximar-te dela, e ela será especial. Haverá algo nela que simplesmente irradia positividade e beleza, e darás por ti de cabeça para baixo para ela.

Sempre que ela fala, és todo ouvidos, pois cada palavra que sai da sua boca soa como uma melodia feita só para os teus ouvidos. Quando ela entra numa sala, parece um anjo que foi colocado nesta terra para tornar a sua vida mais significativa e encantadora.

A forma como o seu cabelo flui numa brisa suave é tão hipnotizante, e o seu olhar é de puro amor e bondade.

She is one in a million. And you’re a lucky son of a gun who gets to call her yours.

You will spend an incredible amount of time together, and you won’t be able to believe how you get to be so damn lucky… Until it stops.

One day, things just won’t work anymore between you two. You won’t even know what hit you, but quando esta rapariga te deixa, it’s like a punch in your gut that takes a hell of a long time to recover from.

You will suddenly be left without this person who has been making your life so much more meaningful, and you won’t know how to recover from this. She was your ‘one’.

And now, you’re left with nothing but memories of your time together, and you can’t get her out of your head.

You just can’t stop a pensar nela e rebobinar o tempo, tentando perceber o que raio correu mal.

To other people, she may seem like just a regular girl who looks really cute and has a charming personality, but to you, she was the most special girl you’ve ever encountered… and no one really gets it. Not like you.

She has left such a profound impact on your life, and it’s not like any other break-up you’ve dealt with before. You know that this one will be much more difficult to overcome.

No matter what you do, how much you try, you can’t stop thinking about her, and worse off… you know you can’t win her back.

O teu coração está completamente destroçado e só queres deixar de pensar nisso pelo menos durante um dia.

This is a challenging time in your life, and nobody can take this away from you. You’re going through a horrible loss, and you deserve to grieve properly. But before you do, it’s important that you take the right steps while trying to heal from it.

Tens de aceitar esta nova realidade como ela é, e tentar, tentar mesmo ultrapassá-la, porque quanto mais tempo a mantiveres na tua cabeça, mais difícil será ultrapassar isto.

Eis algumas coisas que, esperamos, facilitem esta transição e o ajudem a ultrapassar esta situação separação dolorosae devolver-lhe o gosto pela vida.

Sair das redes sociais dela

You’re trying to get this girl out of your head, and you’re creeping on her social media? If so, you need to stop with that, like yesterday.

A única forma de deixar de pensar nela é removendo-a das suas contas online, porque ver a cara dela em todas as suas redes sociais vai fazer com que seja muito mais difícil esquecê-la.

You’ll never get over someone you see every single day. So do yourself a favor, and if you’re not going to delete her from your friends list (which is okay) than stop following her, and hide her activity. It’s that simple.

And that’s your first healthy step toward regaining your normal routine and getting your mind off of this painful journey to healing.

Assim que a cara dela aparecer na tua cabeça, fecha-a com outros pensamentos

This takes a lot of self-control and willpower, but it’s imperative if you truly want to stop thinking about her.

Sempre que ela lhe vier à cabeça, decida pensar em algo completamente diferente.

Tentar descobrir o que cozinhar para o jantar desse dia ou planear na sua cabeça ir visitar os seus pais nesse fim de semana.

Try to think of some fun activity you could preoccupy yourself with, and without even realizing it, you’ll actually be planning a weekend hangout, and your mind will be free of her.

It’s no easy task, and it’s even more difficult when you have all of these feelings for her… but if you give it a real go, it could help you for real.

Also, don’t think about the exact same thing every time she pops into your mind.

That way, you’ll instantly be reminded of her again. Instead, think of a different thing that can in no way be associated with her.

Manter-se ocupado na sua vida social

It’s hard getting over someone when you’re cooped up all alone in your apartment, with just your thoughts and memories.

You’re not making it any easier on yourself by ostracizing yourself from the world.

Em vez disso, faça planos com os seus amigos para uma noite divertida. Planeie uma atividade que seja divertida, física e abrangente, o que deixará pouco tempo para pensar em qualquer outra coisa.

When your friends invite you somewhere, don’t think about it, and just go.

Ficar sozinho em casa a desejar a mulher não o vai levar a lado nenhum, por isso saia do sofá e passe tempo de qualidade com os seus amigos que certamente o querem ajudar neste processo.

It’s hard getting yourself to do it, but once you do, you’ll be so happy you did.

Promise! It’s always hardest at the beginning, but once you start getting your groove back, you’ll see that you have a pretty good life, pretty amazing friends, and things will start to look up.

Arranjar alguém novo em quem pensar

As you’re out there, getting your groove back with your friends out on the town, you will inevitably meet a bunch of new girls who might draw some interest from you.

Não há nada de errado em passar bons momentos de flirt com uma rapariga atraente que também parece estar interessada em si.

It’s just innocent fun, and you have every right and reason to indulge yourself!

So if it happens that you’ve come across someone you’re a least a little attracted to… give it a shot, and see where it goes.

Talvez esta rapariga também não queira mais do que uma noite divertida, e pode deixá-la ajudá-lo a tirar a sua ex da cabeça.

Who knows, you just might meet someone new who will captivate you and truly get you to stop thinking about the ex, but even if that’s not the case, you’ll get some fun in the sun with a cute girl, and it will most definitely help improve your mood… if you catch my drift.

Concentre-se nos seus outros interesses

De certeza que tem passatempos ou outras coisas que faz no seu tempo livre, certo?

Maybe you go to the gym, play in a band or even volunteer at a children’s shelter!

Seja o que for, dedique-lhe ainda mais tempo! Concentrar-se noutras coisas da sua vida que lhe dão alegria vai ajudá-lo a sair dessa depressão e a voltar a ver a beleza do mundo.

Don’t let the thought of her take away other things that make you happy in life! The more time you spend doing positive things that you’re passionate about, the less time you’ll have to think about her.

Definir novos objectivos para si próprio

This is really about keeping your mind busy at all times, so that you don’t have any time to dedicate to anything negative or discouraging.

Por isso, talvez esta seja a melhor altura para pensar no seu futuro e naquilo que ainda quer alcançar.

It doesn’t have to be anything big. Just a little project that will occupy your time and leave as little time as possible to be thinking about her.

It can be fitness-related, work-related or even a project around the house that you’ve been wanting to do for a while now.

Pintar as paredes de uma nova cor, arranjar um quarto novo ou renovar o quintal.

Whatever it is, make sure it’s something that will bring a positive change into your life and make it better one way or another.

Desabafa com os teus amigos

O que são amigos verdadeiros for, if not for being your support system when you’re going through a difficult time?

Be honest with them. Admit that you just can’t stop thinking about her, and you desperately need help in ridding your mind of the painful memories of your time together.

Os seus amigos ficarão satisfeitos por se sentir suficientemente à vontade para lhes confiar este assunto sensível e delicado, e estarão a postos para o ajudar a ultrapassar esta situação.

Além disso, o simples facto de falar sobre o assunto será um grande alívio. Quando se tem amigos genuínos que querem verdadeiramente estar lá para si, it’s such a reassuring feeling being able to confide in them and let them help you carry this burden.

Let it all out, and until it feels better, don’t stop. You’re only human, and never feel weak about having feelings and going through dark periods.

We all go through this; there’s no shame in it. Only a real man is capable of bearing his soul and keeping it real with himself. So be proud of yourself, and let your friends be there for you.

Acabará por ser muito mais feliz por ter à sua volta um verdadeiro sistema de apoio.

Isso irá certamente ajudá-lo a deixar de pensar nela e também a ligar-se aos seus amigos a um nível ainda mais profundo.