Qué hacer cuando no puedes dejar de pensar en ella

A veces, conoces a una chica y te deja sin aliento al instante.

She won’t be like any other girl you’ve ever met… This one will be different.

La verás, la conocerás, te acercarás a ella, y será especial. Habrá algo en ella que simplemente irradiará positividad y belleza, y te encontrarás a ti mismo de cabeza para ella.

Cada vez que hable, serás todo oídos, ya que cada palabra que sale de su boca suena como una melodía hecha sólo para tus oídos. Cuando entra en una habitación, parece un ángel que ha sido puesto en esta tierra para hacer tu vida más significativa y encantadora.

La forma en que su pelo fluye con una suave brisa es hipnotizante, y su mirada es de puro amor y bondad.

She is one in a million. And you’re a lucky son of a gun who gets to call her yours.

You will spend an incredible amount of time together, and you won’t be able to believe how you get to be so damn lucky… Until it stops.

One day, things just won’t work anymore between you two. You won’t even know what hit you, but cuando esta chica te deja, it’s like a punch in your gut that takes a hell of a long time to recover from.

You will suddenly be left without this person who has been making your life so much more meaningful, and you won’t know how to recover from this. She was your ‘one’.

And now, you’re left with nothing but memories of your time together, and you can’t get her out of your head.

You just can’t stop pensando en ella y rebobinar el tiempo, tratando de averiguar qué demonios salió mal.

To other people, she may seem like just a regular girl who looks really cute and has a charming personality, but to you, she was the most special girl you’ve ever encountered… and no one really gets it. Not like you.

She has left such a profound impact on your life, and it’s not like any other break-up you’ve dealt with before. You know that this one will be much more difficult to overcome.

No matter what you do, how much you try, you can’t stop thinking about her, and worse off… you know you can’t win her back.

Tu corazón está completamente destrozado y sólo quieres poder dejar de pensar en ello durante al menos un día.

This is a challenging time in your life, and nobody can take this away from you. You’re going through a horrible loss, and you deserve to grieve properly. But before you do, it’s important that you take the right steps while trying to heal from it.

Necesitas aceptar esta nueva realidad como lo que es, e intentar, realmente intentar superarla, porque cuanto más tiempo la mantengas en tu cabeza, más difícil será superar esto.

Así que aquí tienes algunas cosas que espero que te faciliten esta transición, que te ayuden a superarlo ruptura dolorosay te devolverá las ganas de vivir.

Sal de sus redes sociales

You’re trying to get this girl out of your head, and you’re creeping on her social media? If so, you need to stop with that, like yesterday.

La única forma de dejar de pensar en ella es eliminándola de tus cuentas online porque ver su cara por todas tus redes sociales va a hacer que sea mucho más difícil olvidarla.

You’ll never get over someone you see every single day. So do yourself a favor, and if you’re not going to delete her from your friends list (which is okay) than stop following her, and hide her activity. It’s that simple.

And that’s your first healthy step toward regaining your normal routine and getting your mind off of this painful journey to healing.

En cuanto su cara aparezca en tu cabeza, apágala con otros pensamientos.

This takes a lot of self-control and willpower, but it’s imperative if you truly want to stop thinking about her.

Cada vez que te venga a la cabeza, decide pensar en algo completamente distinto.

Intenta pensar qué vas a preparar para cenar ese día o planea en tu cabeza ir a visitar a tus padres ese fin de semana.

Try to think of some fun activity you could preoccupy yourself with, and without even realizing it, you’ll actually be planning a weekend hangout, and your mind will be free of her.

It’s no easy task, and it’s even more difficult when you have all of these feelings for her… but if you give it a real go, it could help you for real.

Also, don’t think about the exact same thing every time she pops into your mind.

That way, you’ll instantly be reminded of her again. Instead, think of a different thing that can in no way be associated with her.

Manténgase ocupado en su vida social

It’s hard getting over someone when you’re cooped up all alone in your apartment, with just your thoughts and memories.

You’re not making it any easier on yourself by ostracizing yourself from the world.

En lugar de eso, haz planes con tus amigos para pasar una noche divertida. Planifica una actividad que sea divertida, física y que lo abarque todo, lo que te dejará poco tiempo para pensar en otra cosa.

When your friends invite you somewhere, don’t think about it, and just go.

Anhelarla solo en casa no te llevará a ninguna parte, así que levántate de ese sofá y pasa tiempo de calidad con tus amigos, que seguro que quieren ayudarte en este proceso.

It’s hard getting yourself to do it, but once you do, you’ll be so happy you did.

Promise! It’s always hardest at the beginning, but once you start getting your groove back, you’ll see that you have a pretty good life, pretty amazing friends, and things will start to look up.

Búscate a alguien nuevo en quien pensar

As you’re out there, getting your groove back with your friends out on the town, you will inevitably meet a bunch of new girls who might draw some interest from you.

No hay nada malo en pasar un buen rato coqueteando con una chica atractiva a la que tú también pareces gustarle.

It’s just innocent fun, and you have every right and reason to indulge yourself!

So if it happens that you’ve come across someone you’re a least a little attracted to… give it a shot, and see where it goes.

A lo mejor esta chica también quiere pasar una noche divertida y puedes dejar que te ayude a sacarte a tu ex de la cabeza.

Who knows, you just might meet someone new who will captivate you and truly get you to stop thinking about the ex, but even if that’s not the case, you’ll get some fun in the sun with a cute girl, and it will most definitely help improve your mood… if you catch my drift.

Céntrate en tus otros intereses

Seguro que tienes aficiones u otras cosas que haces en tu tiempo libre, ¿verdad?

Maybe you go to the gym, play in a band or even volunteer at a children’s shelter!

Sea lo que sea, ¡dedícale aún más tiempo! Centrarte en otras cosas de tu vida que te aporten alegría te ayudará a salir de esa depresión y a volver a ver la belleza en el mundo.

Don’t let the thought of her take away other things that make you happy in life! The more time you spend doing positive things that you’re passionate about, the less time you’ll have to think about her.

Fíjese nuevos objetivos

This is really about keeping your mind busy at all times, so that you don’t have any time to dedicate to anything negative or discouraging.

Así que quizá sea el mejor momento para pensar en tu futuro y en qué es lo que todavía quieres conseguir.

It doesn’t have to be anything big. Just a little project that will occupy your time and leave as little time as possible to be thinking about her.

It can be fitness-related, work-related or even a project around the house that you’ve been wanting to do for a while now.

Pinte las paredes de otro color, estrene dormitorio o renueve el jardín.

Whatever it is, make sure it’s something that will bring a positive change into your life and make it better one way or another.

Desahógate con tus amigos

¿Cuáles son amigos de verdad for, if not for being your support system when you’re going through a difficult time?

Be honest with them. Admit that you just can’t stop thinking about her, and you desperately need help in ridding your mind of the painful memories of your time together.

Tus compañeros se alegrarán de que te sientas lo suficientemente cómodo como para confiarles este tema tan delicado y delicado, y se volcarán para ayudarte a superarlo.

Además, el mero hecho de hablar de ello será un gran alivio. Cuando tienes amigos de verdad que realmente quieren estar a tu lado, it’s such a reassuring feeling being able to confide in them and let them help you carry this burden.

Let it all out, and until it feels better, don’t stop. You’re only human, and never feel weak about having feelings and going through dark periods.

We all go through this; there’s no shame in it. Only a real man is capable of bearing his soul and keeping it real with himself. So be proud of yourself, and let your friends be there for you.

Acabarás siendo mucho más feliz por tener a tu alrededor un sistema de apoyo tan auténtico.

Seguramente te ayudará a dejar de pensar en ella y también, a conectar con tus amigos a un nivel aún más profundo.