Não ser escolhido vai doer como o inferno, não importa o quão grande é a sua autoestima

At the end of the day, we are only humans. We need other people in our life. We all want to feel like we belong – like we are important to someone who is important to us.

Still, we cannot force other people to be with us and to love us. Sometimes, no matter how much we try, we just can’t keep some people in our lives.

That’s how things are and you should accept it as it is because you can’t change anything. Feelings can’t be forced. Friendships shouldn’t be forced. Love mustn’t be forced.

You must realize that sometimes it’s just not meant to be, no matter how much you want it to happen.

You should get comfortable with the fact that you’re not going to get everything and everyone that you want in life.

No one does. That’s enough for consolation, right?

Love isn’t that simple, nor is friendship. It is something that you can’t manipulate and in order to make it work, you have to fight for it every day.

That doesn’t mean that you should set some unrealistic expectations for love and friendship. You’ll feel helpless if it doesn’t work.

Some people won’t choose you no matter what you do for them and that’s their loss, not yours.

You’ll say “That’s easy to say, but it hurts badly,” when it actually happens to you. I know. I’ve been there myself. I was hurt also.

Eu. A mulher mais confiante de sempre. Senti-me magoada, zangada, traída e esmagada.

All those awful emotions were mixed inside me and I couldn’t see the real picture in that situation. All I saw was his rejection.

Nunca ninguém me fez sentir assim. Bem, ninguém podia porque eu tinha a melhor opinião sobre mim própria. A minha confiança era a minha força.

It didn’t allow me to give up in any situation no matter how difficult it was.

Until then. The irony is that his rejection didn’t make me doubt myself, it actually made me curious about the reasons why he turned me down.

Como é que ele pôde fazer isso? Eu era a rapariga mais perfeita para ele. Na verdade, eu era ainda melhor do que isso.

Every day I was blaming him for not seeing it. For turning me down when I was all he ever wanted. And I was sure of that, that’s why his rejection was so unclear to me.

I always considered confidence as one of my best character traits because I thought it’d help me to deal with any bad days and hurtful emotions.

Sempre pensei que o desgosto é a pior coisa que uma rapariga pode sentir. Mas eu estava enganada. O sentimento de uma rejeição dói ainda mais do que isso.

Causa maior dor emocional e pode deixar alguns psychological wounds that don’t heal tão facilmente. Infelizmente, aprendi-o da maneira mais difícil.

Os psicólogos dizem que, de todas as feridas emocionais que experimentamos na vida, a rejeição é a mais comum e dolorosa.

Being confident couldn’t help me. I was aware of my worth and I knew that I’d find someone else who’d choose me no matter what.

But still, it hurt. The pain I felt was so unexplainable. All I thought about were his reasons for turning me down, which part of me he didn’t like, and why he didn’t even want to try something with me.

After some time, I realized that we weren’t meant to be. And that was the only important thing I needed to know from the beginning. It was his choice and I couldn’t do anything about it.

Exceto deixar ir. E eu deixei. Deixei de lado todos aqueles sentimentos horríveis.

I hoped for a better future and for a man who’d want my love and be able to reciprocate it in a way I deserve.

And trust me, this is the best advice you’ll ever get: Quanto mais depressa se avançar, the sooner you’ll forget all about the terrible feeling of being rejected.

But still, your self-esteem and self-love play an important role. If you are not confident, you’ll be more vulnerable to rejection.

As pessoas têm todo o direito e liberdade para escolherem quem e o que quiserem. Podemos afetar as suas decisões fazendo algumas coisas boas por elas, mas nunca podemos escolher por elas.

Rejection doesn’t mean that you are not enough. In most cases, the problem is the other person, not you.

You should never let the rejection get the best of you. Be stronger than that. It will pass and you’ll eventually forget about it as if it never even happened.