Não se contente com um rapaz que não está pronto para ser homem

You’ve always been someone who’s followed your heart, especially when it came to love and romantic relations. Even when your mind was telling you that something was a bad idea and when you clearly saw that a certain guy was not good for you, you would still let your emotions guide you and they were always stronger than your reason.

But when you come to think of it and when you look at your life so far from this point of view, you see that you’ve made some wrong choices.

Houve alturas em que o teu coração te guiou para algumas decisões erradas e para alguns homens errados.

A maior parte destes homens eram emocionalmente imaturo and they didn’t know what they wanted from life.

Yes, at first, they were attractive and interesting. They were fun to be around and they made you feel good. They made you feel like there was no tomorrow and like you shouldn’t have a care on your mind.

Mas nenhum desses rapazes tinha o que era realmente necessário. Nenhum deles era um verdadeiro namorado e nenhum deles estava pronto para construir uma vida consigo. A maioria deles vivia apenas o momento, sem pensar no futuro.

And although living your life day by day was fun at the time because you didn’t burden yourself with future plans, when you come to think of it, this type of guy rarely brought you something good in the long run.

É evidente que todos estes rapazes eram rapazes em vez de homens.

Eles weren’t ready to commit e raramente estavam dispostos a assumir a responsabilidade pelas suas palavras e acções.

Yes, you would fall in love in love with them hard but when those initial butterflies would fade away, you would immediately see that these boys couldn’t offer you what you were looking for.
Viste que merecias mais. E eu estou aqui para vos dizer que tinham razão.

After all, you are not some immature girl who doesn’t know what she wants. Instead, you are a grown ass, independent woman who has a clear vision of the future and who needs a real man to accompany her through life.

You don’t need a boy who needs you to save him and to lead him through life.

You don’t need a mama’s boy que quer que seja o seu pai, um homem que se sentirá intimidado e ameaçado por estar consigo.

Em vez disso, precisa de um homem que a deixe ser independente e que lhe permita ter uma vida própria. Someone who won’t feel the need to complete you but who will want you two to be equals in your relationship.

Precisas de um homem que confie em ti, mas também de um homem em quem possas confiar—a man who will be your equal partner through life and someone who will be your rock, your home and your safe haven. I am not telling you that you need to find someone who will secure you financially, but you don’t need a lazy boy who never thinks of the future and who doesn’t know what he wants to achieve in life.

Precisa definitivamente de um homem ambicioso que tenha objectivos na vida e que a apoie nas suas conquistas. É preciso alguém que saiba o que quer e que não tenha medo de o conseguir.

You don’t need a boy who is scared of commitment and of real relationship. You don’t need someone who will back out on you when things get serious or someone who will run away the second things get rough and when you need him the most.

Em vez disso, you need a man who is ready to share his life with someone and who knows when it’s time to take responsibility for some things. Precisas de um homem adulto que não tenha medo de tudo o que a vida traz consigo.

E acima de tudo, you need a man who won’t be intimidated by your strength and power. You don’t need someone to hold you back to make himself feel better and to make himself look like a bigger man because that is exactly what boys do. You don’t need someone who will use you for his own insecurities and to boost his fragile ego.

Em vez disso, precisa de alguém que o empurre sempre para a frente sem o tentar mudar. Precisas de alguém que te aceite na tua grandeza e que te inspire a ser ainda maior e melhor, porque é exatamente isso que um verdadeiro homem fará.