No amor, nunca se contente com menos
Nunca se contente com menos do que merece!
Have you ever stopped and really thought about why you’re doing the complete opposite?
Quer dizer, ninguém o obriga a fazê-lo, ninguém o proíbe de pedir o que merece. Então, mais uma vez, porque é que se está a acomodar?
When you exclude emotions from reason, it’s more than logical to abandon a relationship that is making you unhappy.
It’s perfectly normal to leave with no strings attached and find your happiness elsewhere. Sadly, nothing is that simple as long as emotions get the better of you.
Even if you don’t love the person you’re unhappy with, you’ve grown used to them and there is no way you could just leave without feeling something… anything.
That’s when emotions make a big deal and guilt you into staying unhappy. You feel sorry for the person; you feel sorry for the lost time and you keep hoping that something will gradually change.
You don’t want to just quit and let everything you’ve worked hard for go to waste.
Normalmente, os culpados são os sentimentos, mas o mais comum é que as pessoas que se contentam com menos são incrivelmente inseguras e fazem-no porque têm pouca ou nenhuma fé em si próprios.
We all have that seed of doubt, the mistrust in ourselves, planted deep inside us, but the way we’re handling it is what counts.
Alguns mantêm as suas inseguranças sob controlo e outros deixam que as suas dúvidas os comam vivos.
For as long as you don’t put an end to it, you aren’t going to be happy.
Change your attitude from “I’m not good enough to be with someone” to “I want someone who actually deserves me” and your unhappiness is going to come to an end.
That part of your life will turn into nothing more than a huge mistake from which you’ve learned the most important lesson.
The reason why you’re settling can be this, or it can be because you’re just medo de ser solteiro.
I understand it’s scary, especially if you’ve spent most of your life as part of a duo and now you have to go back to the game, but you’re not sure if the rules have changed.
You’re not sure if you’re going to make it. Let me tell you something, every change is scary, but you can never know for sure that it’s a bad thing.
E todos nós somos assim. Todos assumimos, de imediato, que se as coisas estão a mudar e a transformar-se em algo com que não estamos familiarizados, isso é mau para nós.
That is a load of crap! That is the fear talking out of you – the fear that is your biggest enemy.
Something that is pulling you down and pulling you back, something that isn’t allowing you to grow.
Este medo de ser solteiro está intimamente relacionado com o medo do abandono.
We are – and I’m using “we” because I’m talking about all of us, not just you – we are all putting an enormous amount of pressure on ourselves because of these abandonment issues.
Estamos a tentar salvar uma relação destruída, mesmo que isso signifique encontrar desculpas para um comportamento tóxico.
To anyone else, leaving a loveless relationship seems the right road to take, but for you, it’s a dark path full of obstacles and challenges.
It’s the leap to the unknown; it’s a huge risk you aren’t willing to take just yet!
I bet you’ve thought exactly the same as what I’m I about to say: “It’s better to be in a crappy relationship than spend the rest of your life alone!”
This is when everything goes to hell. This one sentence craps all over your life. This one sentence defines you who you are and how you’re going to deal with love.
Este tipo de atitude coloca-nos numa situação da qual é muito difícil sair. I have a story to share with you…
Eu estava numa relação sem amor. No início, era como qualquer outra relação.
Estávamos na nossa fase de lua de mel e éramos tão felizes. Parecia que nada nos poderia separar.
Sadly, as time passed by, I fell out of love. He wasn’t that interesting anymore because he didn’t try hard enough, which led me to believe he didn’t care.
However, there is something valuable I’ve learned from that relationship. Acting as if you’re in love with someone you’re not is even more painful than leaving him.
Having to say “I love you” was the hardest thing I had to do, not just because it wasn’t true, but because it once was.
Quando apaixonar-se, façam um favor a ambos e deixem essa pessoa ir embora.
Don’t lie to them and don’t make them a fool. Don’t lie to yourself and don’t be scared of what comes next.
É suposto as relações fazerem-nos crescer e tornarem-nos numa pessoa melhor.
The person you’re with is supposed to influence you positively and help you become the best version of yourself.
If neither of you got what you’re supposed to get, plus happiness, then there is really no point in staying together.
O seu destino está nas suas mãos. Aceitar menos do que merece é uma decisão que escolhe tomar.
Quando nos contentamos com menos no amor, mas também em todos os diferentes aspectos da vida, tornamo-nos cúmplices da nossa própria desilusão e perturbação.
By allowing yourself to settle for less than you desire, you are putting your life in your own hands, but rather than doing something that will impact you positively, you’re placing yourself in a negative place where you aren’t getting what you want or need.
Going out and getting what’s yours, sticking out for your own good and your happiness – these don’t make you a bitch; it makes you a strong woman who is in complete control of her own destiny.
When you begin to make decisions in your life that reflect what you truly want, this is when you will start to feel confident in yourself and your life will consequently mirror what you’d hoped for.
One of those big decisions is leaving the one you settle for. It’s going to hurt big time, but it’s not going to hurt forever.
Não se pode ficar num lugar permanentemente e esperar uma mudança na vida. É preciso iniciar a mudança para que algo aconteça.
Devemos a nós próprios dar tudo o que temos durante esta única vida que temos. É preciso arriscar para ganhar algo em troca.
Para sermos imparáveis, temos de nos tornar destemidos.
