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Relações entre dominantes e submissos - As 10 principais regras a seguir

Relações dominantes e submissas - 10 regras principais a seguir
What are the benefits, roles, and rules of a dominant and submissive relationship? What does dominant and submissive mean in a relationship?  A dominant-submissive relationship is a relationship where one partner is dominant and the other one submits to his/her partner. Both partners have their own roles.  When it comes to defining and understanding BDSM, people (especially those in vanilla relationships) generally link it with Cinquenta Tons de Cinza e o equipamento perverso de Christian Grey, como algemas, correntes, cordas - tudo o que quiser.  CLIQUE AQUI to learn all there is to know about different kinds of relationship dynamics and how to satisfy both your partner and yourself. Their fictitious BDSM relationship revolves around power dynamic, power play, and bondage and discipline. Christian Grey is evidently a male dominatrix (the dominant partner), whereas Anastasia Steele plays a papel submisso.  Now, when we shift to reality, the first question that probably comes to mind is: Será que esse tipo de relação existe de facto? Como é que funciona?  E essas perguntas não são assim tão difíceis de responder. Antes de mais, existe e, tal como no filme, trata-se de um parceiro que domina o outro devido ao poder que tem na relação. When you look around, you can notice that in every relationship, there’s one partner who is more submissive and the other who is more dominant. Even though women are mostly represented as those who fall for dominant, strong, and powerful men who are just waiting for a fragile and gentle woman to come their way, the roles can be reversed as well.  Men can have all kinds of different desires and if you want to learn how to please them without losing yourself or losing control there’s only one thing you can do – learn the secret Linguagem do desejo. De facto, hoje em dia, há muitos homens que estão a morrer pelo toque de uma dominatrix e esta tornou-se a sua maior fantasia sexual. Agora que já abordámos os aspectos básicos, podemos passar a explicá-los em pormenor.  Além disso, se continuar a ler, encontrará tipos de Relações Dom SubTraços e papéis dos parceiros numa sociedade dominante e relação submissae, claro, as principais regras a seguir (com alguns exemplos). So, stay tuned! See also: 10 passos para se tornar uma esposa submissa

O que é uma relação dominante e submissa?

BDSM stands for and includes Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), and Sadism and Masochism / Sadomasochism (SM). In the simplest words, a dominant-submissive relationship, aka dom/sub relationship or simply a d/s relationship, is basically a relationship where one partner is dominant (a sadist) and the other one submits to his/her partner (a masochist).  Both dominant and parceiros submissos têm os seus próprios papéis. A dominante e relação submissa não é apenas sobre sexo, embora a maioria das pessoas possa pensar que sim.  De facto, a dominanterelação submissa pode ser visto em todos os aspectos da vida. O parceiro dominante protects, leads, and guides the submissive, while the submissive is a fragile servant who’s there to please their master. It does sound bizarre to most of us, but in actuality, as relações funcionam mesmo this way; maybe even better than standard ones. In this type of relationship, there are strict rules that partners must follow. They are not usually extreme, but they have to be respected in order for the relationship to work.  It doesn’t have to be a contract, like in the movie we were talking about before, but rather an open conversation about what each partner wants in the relationship and what the submissive is willing to do for their dominant partner. In most scenarios, the limits of the submissive side of the relationship aren’t crossed. But for that to be true, the dominant one has to know exactly where those limits lie.

A recolha de informações nas relações normais é muito importante, mas neste caso é crucial. 

A melhor maneira de recolher informações sobre o seu parceiro submisso é uma comunicação honesta, fazendo perguntas e nunca desrespeitando os seus limites. One important thing to say is that the roles in a dominant-submissive relationship aren’t absolute. They can be changed. For example, if a woman is the sub, she can give her partner a massage and please him in ways he commands, but the next day, they exchange roles and he has to do whatever she asks him to do that’s within his limits.  Este estilo de relação é, de facto, um estilo de vida que as pessoas levam muito a sério. Estes casais vivem uma vida completamente normal que envolve apenas duas pessoas que vivem para o prazer um do outro, o que significa que as suas relações não são realmente muito diferentes do resto de nós. Se está a pensar: sim, estas relações funcionam mesmo! Not every dominant-submissive relationship is the same as the next, but at the end of the day, they are all very dynamic and open-minded. These people can work very well together if they want the same things and share the same interest in BDSM.

Tipos de Relações entre Dom e Sub

The biggest misconception about BDSM relationships is physical contact. While a d/s relationship can be physical, this is not a prerequisite. Domination and submission, role play, and the like can be conducted digitally or over the phone as well.  Also, people in a d/s relationship can be romantically involved with one another (or not). Podem estar numa relação monogâmica, poliamorosa ou aberta, e de qualquer género e sexualidade.  Another type of BDSM relationship is TPE (Total Power Exchange), aka a master/slave relationship. This means that partners in this kind of relationship take on their roles full-time. Their entire relationship is built on the principle of dominant-submissive and they are constantly fulfilling their roles in everyday life.  And there are also those who only practice their roles during play scenes. Again, sex is not a prerequisite in BDSM relationships in order to be called so. A d/s dinâmica não tem de se limitar apenas a actividades sexuais. É mais uma questão de escolha e de preferências pessoais.  Also, a d/s relationship – on the contrary to SM – is more about power than physical sensation. Being in such a relationship brings dinâmica de potência to another level and that is why many partners prefer it.  Sex life is also based on power, and the fact that one partner is more dominant than the other brings equilibrium to sex life and relationship overalll. So, we could say that choosing this kind of relationship is more like choosing a lifestyle. 

As vantagens de D/Relações S

Believe it or not, practicing kinky sex and being in a dom/sub relationship in general has many advantages when it comes to overall health and well-being.  Dr. Sandra LaMorgese (sexpert; professional dominatrix; fetishist; and holistic practitioner in mind, body, and spiritual holism) claims that BDSM can help couples create a stronger bond and feel at ease.  She explains in the following words: “Durante BDSM Nas sessões de psicoterapia, os clientes experimentam frequentemente uma libertação de dopamina e serotonina, os neurotransmissores de bem-estar do cérebro. Estas duas substâncias químicas estão associadas a sensações de felicidade, tranquilidade, alegria, auto-confiança, emoções bem-estare motivação. Além disso, a libertação da substância química vasopressina leva as pessoas a sentirem-se ligadas umas às outras." Por isso, se ainda tiveres dúvidas se deves experimentar os encantos de d/s relaçãoA seguir, apresentamos algumas das suas vantagens que o podem ajudar a decidir:
  • Melhora a comunicação 
  • Aumenta a intimidade
  • Incentiva a fidelidade
  • Melhora saúde mental
  • Reduz o stress psicológico
  • Reduz a ansiedade
Physical contact between BDSM couples helps them express their sexuality and be present in the interaction instead of just following the same pattern (as is the case in vanilla relationships).  And this is what helps improve their mental health. People who practice BDSM are basically more open and more secure in relationships because this type of relationship requires trust and willingness to comply.  Para além da cura mental, há também a cura física ligada ao poder do toque. A Dra. Sandra LaMorgese explica a cura física: "A pele é o maior órgão do corpo, com milhões de receptores logo abaixo da superfície; receptores que, quando estimulados pelo toque humano, podem baixar os nossos níveis de cortisol. Quando alguém toca na nossa pele, através de massagens, brincadeiras, abraços, mãos dadas ou sexo físico, começamos a sentir uma cura fisiológica e física."  So, besides pleasure, BDSM can benefit both our mental and physical health, which is quite amazing. Now that we know the definition of a dominant-submissive relationship and its types and benefits, it’s finally time to proceed with traits and roles of the dominant and submissive relationship and, of course, the rules of such a relationship with some examples (and conselhos sobre relações). 

Traços e papéis do Parceiro dominante

In order for you to better understand how all of this works, let me tell you some traits and roles of the dominant one in a dominant and submissive relationship.  Male doms are not easily spotted, because as I said before, many men love to be adored and worshipped in this way – some just love it a tiny bit more. Eis algumas características e funções do parceiro dominante
  • Assume o controlo de tudo
  • Espera ser agradado
  • É responsável
  • Dá prioridade aos seus próprios desejos
  • Exige obediência 

O que é que torna uma pessoa dominante? 

People with dominant personalities are decisive, goal-oriented, and competitive. They express their feelings and gratefulness in an indirect, different way.  According to Sigmund Freud’s theory of personality, there are two factors that impact the way a person behaves:
  1. Genética
  2. Ambiente
Dominant people strongly believe in the Darwinian concept of “survival of the fittest”. They believe that anything can be achieved only if you have a strong will.  Dominant people are also relatively controlling and impatient. Also, they are perfectly aware of their insecurities and weaknesses but they often refuse to show it to other people.  Other personality traits associated with dominance are criticism and fault finding. A dominant person can be your partner, your sibling, your spouse, your boss, your friend, etc.  Dominant people are usually dominant in all aspects of their life (including sex life). If you don’t know how to deal with such a partner, your relationship might become toxic. 

Traços e papéis do Parceiro submisso

While the dom is all about being in control, the sub enjoys being controlled and loves to please their partner in every way possible. This doesn’t just include in the bedroom, but in fact every aspect of life in which they can fulfill the needs of their dominant. The important thing to realize is that the submissive isn’t forced to do anything they don’t want to do. Their behavior can take many forms including ‘baby girl’, ‘pet’, and similar but they are not a “slave”. Their desire is simply to please their partner.  The traits and roles of the submissive include:
  • Preparados para satisfazer os desejos e necessidades do parceiro
  • Aceita ser controlado
  • Coloca as necessidades do seu parceiro acima de tudo
  • Mostra vontade de agradar ao dominador 

O que significa ser dominado numa relação? 

Generally, to be dominated in a relationship means to be in a relationship that is not based on reciprocity or compromise. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean that a dom/sub relationship is toxic. It can be seen both as healthy or toxic. Dominant partners are often seen as being selfish and self-absorbed regarding the psychological, emotional, and physical needs of the other person.  People with dominant personality types often possess a sense of superiority and they have problems establishing a reciprocal relationship with others.  If both partners agree with their roles in a dominant-submissive relationship and they openly communicate about what they want, then we’re talking about a healthy dom-sub relationship.  If one partner feels neglected in one way or another, then we’re talking about a toxic type of dom-sub relationship. 

Como saber se alguém está a tentar dominá-lo? 

Por vezes, as pessoas dominantes não estão dispostas a fazer compromissos e querem controlar tudo numa relação. O maior sinal de alerta de que a pessoa está a tentar dominá-lo em todos os aspectos da sua vida é o seu comportamento de controlo e manipulaçãoAqui estão outras bandeiras vermelhas que indicam que está numa situação pouco saudável relação dominante/subordinada
  • Fazem-nos sentir que tudo é culpa nossa
  • Criticam-no a toda a hora
  • Exigem mais e dão menos
  • Não conseguem comunicar abertamente ou ligar-se a si
  • Não valorizam as suas opiniões
  • São controladores e intimidantes
  • Eles iluminam-te com gás
  • Não aceitam um "não" como resposta
  • Tentam mudar a sua aparência ou personalidade
  • Têm ciúmes sem razão aparente
  • Apresentam mudanças drásticas de humor
  • Podem apresentar um comportamento abusivo
Se se sente preso e com medo a toda a hora, estas são as maiores indicadores de uma relação pouco saudável. In that case, don’t shy away from letting your partner know how you feel and/or seeking professional help.  To avoid ending up in a toxic dominant and submissive relationship, here are essential rules to follow. 

Tipos de relações entre dominadores e submissos

The biggest misconception about BDSM relationships is physical contact. While a d/s relationship can be physical, this is not a prerequisite. Domination and submission, role play, and the like can be conducted digitally or over the phone as well.  Also, people in a d/s relationship can be romantically involved with one another (or not). They can be in a monogamous, polyamorous, or open relationship, and of any gender and sexuality.  Another type of BDSM relationship is TPE (Total Power Exchange), aka a master/slave relationship. This means that partners in this kind of relationship take on their roles full-time. Their entire relationship is built on the principle of dominant-submissive and they are constantly fulfilling their roles in everyday life.  And there are also those who only practice their roles during play scenes. Again, sex is not a prerequisite in BDSM relationships in order to be called so. A d/s dynamic doesn’t have to be limited to sexual activities only. It is more a matter of choice and personal preferences.  Also, a d/s relationship – on the contrary to SM – is more about power than physical sensation. Being in such a relationship brings power dynamic to another level and that is why many partners prefer it.  Sex life is also based on power, and the fact that one partner is more dominant than the other brings equilibrium to sex life and relationship overalll. So, we could say that choosing this kind of relationship is more like choosing a lifestyle. 

Os benefícios das relações D/S

Believe it or not, practicing kinky sex and being in a dom/sub relationship in general has many advantages when it comes to overall health and well-being. Dr. Sandra LaMorgese (sexpert; professional dominatrix; fetishist; and holistic practitioner in mind, body, and spiritual holism) claims that BDSM can help couples create a stronger bond and feel at ease.  She explains in the following words: ” Durante BDSM Nas sessões de psicoterapia, os clientes experimentam frequentemente uma libertação de dopamina e serotonina, os neurotransmissores de bem-estar do cérebro. Estas duas substâncias químicas estão associadas a sensações de felicidade, tranquilidade, alegria, auto-confiança, emoções bem-estare motivação. Além disso, a libertação da substância química vasopressina leva as pessoas a sentirem-se ligadas umas às outras. ” So, if you’re still having doubts whether you should try the charms of d/s relationship, here are some of its benefits that may help you decide:
  • Melhora a comunicação 
  • Aumenta a intimidade
  • Incentiva a fidelidade
  • Melhora saúde mental
  • Reduz o stress psicológico
  • Reduz a ansiedade
Physical contact between BDSM couples helps them express their sexuality and be present in the interaction instead of just following the same pattern (as is the case in vanilla relationships).  And this is what helps improve their mental health. People who practice BDSM are basically more open and more secure in relationships because this type of relationship requires trust and willingness to comply.  Apart from mental healing, there is also physical healing linked to the power of touch. Dr. Sandra LaMorgese explains physical healing: "A pele é o maior órgão do corpo, com milhões de receptores logo abaixo da superfície; receptores que, quando estimulados pelo toque humano, podem baixar os nossos níveis de cortisol. Quando alguém toca na nossa pele, através de massagens, brincadeiras, abraços, mãos dadas ou sexo físico, começamos a sentir uma cura fisiológica e física."  Assim, para além do prazer, o BDSM pode beneficiar tanto a nossa saúde mental como física, o que é bastante surpreendente. Agora que já sabemos a definição de uma relação dominante-submissa e os seus tipos e benefícios, é finalmente altura de avançar com as características e os papéis do dominante e do submisso e, claro, as regras dessa relação com alguns exemplos. 

Traços e papéis do dominante

In order for you to better understand how all of this works, let me tell you some traits and roles of the dominant one in this type of relationship. Male doms are not easily spotted, because as I said before, many men love to be adored and worshipped in this way – some just love it a tiny bit more. 1. Takes control over everything 2. Expects to be pleased 3. Is responsible 4. Prioritizes their own desires 5. Demands obedience

Características e papéis do submisso

While the dom is all about being in control, the sub enjoys being controlled and loves to please their partner in every way possible. This doesn’t just include in the bedroom, but in fact every aspect of life in which they can fulfill the needs of their dominant. The important thing to realize is that the submissive isn’t forced to do anything they don’t want to do. They are not a slave; their desire is simply to please their partner. The traits and roles of the submissive include: 1. Prepared to please their partner’s wants and needs 2. Accepts being controlled 3. Puts the needs of their partner above everything else 4. Shows a desire to please the dominant

10 regras numa relação dominante-submissa

Como já foi referido, trata-se de um tipo específico de relação em que é necessário estabelecer regras para que tudo funcione corretamente e para que cada parte da relação receba o que precisa para ser feliz.   Just to be clear, there are no set rules across the board, because these rules are created by the principles of both sides of the relationship, so that both know what to comply with, what to avoid, and how to enforce the rules. If you want to engage in this type of relationship without having had any previous experience, then be careful and open-minded to all the rules that are about to come about in order to get the most out of it.

Abertura de espírito

Como já foi referido, manter uma mente aberta é realmente crucial neste tipo de relação. Em todas as relações, é preciso ter uma mente aberta para os valores e as perspectivas of your partner, but more so in this particular one. Why?  Well, because, in dominant-submissive relationships, even though the doms are the ones who executes the commands, it doesn’t mean that they can’t learn something from the subs. It all depends on the experience you both have, as well as the willingness to learn from each other and work together. This is a dual effort and you have to work together to make it pleasant. Also, you need to be open-minded to try out new things that you might not have liked or considered before. Maybe this time and the way he does it is actually different? Who knows? Give it a try and see what happens, as long as it’s not going to hurt you too much (unless you want it to).

Empatia

I know that it sounds weird, but even though your submissive partner loves to be dominated, it doesn’t mean that they don’t see your human side. Your partner wants to fall in love with your human side, too; the one who knows how to have mercy and the one who is willing to bend the rules and give lighter punishments. Empathy is the keyword when it comes to creating a successful BDSM relationship. For example, if your partner doesn’t agree with something, you as the dominant one shouldn’t force them to do something they’re not comfortable with. Remember that this is not a part of your role. You should always be ready to show empathy when your partner expects it – this shouldn’t be negotiable. 

Confiança

The only way to be trusted is to show trustworthiness first. You have to show your partner that you can be trusted to respect the rules and not cross the line. Even though it’s expected from the sub to play the part of a servant, it’s also expected from the dom to act as a worthy leader.  No woman in this day and age will go on her knees for someone who doesn’t deserve it! That’s why it’s very important to build trust between the two of you. You have to trust your partner that he won’t strike you too hard when he’s punishing you and that he won’t go all out when it comes to flogging you.  Imagine if a grown man would hit you as hard as he could, just because you trusted him and you let him do it? Well, it’s not a dominant-submissive relationship anymore, but um abusivo.

Expectativas mais baixas

Não pode esperar que o seu parceiro realize todas as suas fantasias loucas. Tem de reduzir as suas expectativas to match the willingness of your partner. In any other way, the relationship simply won’t work. For example, if you are a dominant, don’t expect your partner to get undressed every time you come home from work or to always call you Master. Just imagine if you came home from work with a friend and your wife was sitting on the floor in front of the door completely naked. It shouldn’t be about embarrassing your partner! And also, if she doesn’t want to call you Master at a certain moment, then you probably haven’t deserved the title at all. Also, if you’re a submissive, don’t expect your partner to praise you every time you do a good job; know that he can do things on his own, which means that he won’t always need you to do things for him. I know that you are there to please him, but remember that you’re not there to do everything for him. You are his partner, not a slave.

Comunicação honesta

A comunicação é fundamental in this type of relationship, as in every other. You have to gather information about each other in order to actually see if you’re compatible for a d/s relationship. You have to talk about health, boundaries, sex needs, and your previous experience in this type of relationship. Women especially want to have their minds read, but it’s not that easy. Unless you verbalize what you want and don’t want, it remains in your head. For example, if you’re the dominant one and you want to push the limits a bit, then you have to sit down with your partner and talk everything through in detail so you know if it’s appropriate or not. If you refuse to talk about your wants and needs, then the relationship is doomed to fail without a doubt. You want this relationship experience to be a positive one, don’t you? If yes, invest in your communication and show your partner that they can be heard at any given time, because you will dedicate the time and energy needed to meet their needs.

Utilizar uma palavra segura

When you’ve decided that you want to start this type of relationship, make sure to establish a safe word. Because of the fact that BDSM can get a bit dangerous in-between the sheets, make sure to have a safe word that your sub will say so you know that they need to stop. Don’t use any word that you would usually use in a sexual scenario. Use a word that’s unusual and that lets the dominant know that everything is not OK. You can also establish words that show you’re either OK or that they need to stop right away or you’ll get seriously hurt. Many people use the green/yellow/red system here. Green means “go ahead,” yellow is “proceed but with caution,” and red is a simple and clear “STOP!” The dominant partner has to obey the safe word in order for the relationship to proceed in a healthy manner.

Saúde

The dominant-submissive relationship requires both partners to be mentally and physically healthy. This involves good sleeping habits, a minimal intake of alcohol, a nutritious diet, and a stress-free lifestyle. If your sub isn’t able to meet your needs because of health problems, then don’t force yourself on them. Rather, invest in their well-being and let them take as much time as needed in order to regain their strength, then you can continue your relationship as before. You have to respect each other’s comfort zones and if you do experiment, don’t do it without the consent of the other. There are more important things in life than sex, so if you see that your partner simply can’t continue to please you, then stop. Não vale a pena.

Desfrutar

Why are you doing all of this? To enjoy yourself, right? You both do it in order to have some fun and to enjoy your relationship on a whole new level. That’s why you have to respect each other, because otherwise you won’t get what you are searching for.  Remember that it’s not about punishing someone or doing everything that’s needed in order to please someone just because it’s easier that way. Look for the joyful part in it and don’t forget why you started all of this in the first place: to get the most out of your relationship. Don’t push each other’s limits just so you can punish them for doing something you aren’t a fan of. Look at their face and see if they’re enjoying it. If not, stop.

Paciência

You don’t have to run around commanding your partner every step of the way. Start it as with every other standard relationship. Understand each other, communicate, and be gentle. Don’t rush anything. Have patience and your partner will thank you afterwards. In order to create a comfortable atmosphere for the submissive to relax more, the dominant has to be gentle and caring. I know that it’s not in your nature if you’re the dominant one, but your a relação será duradoura longer if you put in that extra effort and really do have patience with your partner. All of your fantasies can’t come true at the same time. Have patience as the dominant or the submissive. Don’t just rush your partner into doing things right away, but have faith that they will loosen up with time. It’s very important to not forget that you are both human beings who have to take their time in order to get the most out of their position.

Cumprir as regras

If you have established rules at the beginning of the relationship, then be sure to fulfill them. Don’t pipe up to your dom out of nowhere, telling him that you didn’t want to do something. If you have established certain rules, be sure to stick to them. This is how you criar confiança na vossa relação and it’s how you know that you are both getting something out of it. You’re not being taken advantage of and your partner respects all the rules. That why you should, too. Follow all the rules that you have agreed on and if you really want to change something you’ve already talked about, then make sure to let your partner know beforehand instead of telling him right before or in the middle of sex.

Exemplos de regras de submissão a seguir

Como pode ser um principiante no mundo de uma relação dominante-submissa, vou dar-lhe alguns exemplos e ideias de regras submissas a seguir. Não é nada de mais, apenas um pouco de inspiração e de conhecimento sobre este tipo de relação.

Espancamento

A palmada não tem de ser sempre um castigo. Por vezes é usada para que o submisso saiba que o seu trabalho está a ser reconhecido. Mas as palmadas devem ser tão duras quanto os dois concordarem. Aqui, é muito importante usar a palavra de segurança, se necessário.

Não usarás cuecas em casa

Uma regra simples e eficaz. O dominante sabe que está no poder, enquanto o submisso não é prejudicado por isso.

Farás sexo quando te mandarem

Para que o dominador sinta realmente o seu poder, são necessárias regras como estas. O parceiro submisso tem de agradar ao seu dominante em qualquer altura do dia.

Pedir autorização antes de gozar

Não é necessária qualquer explicação.

Lembra-te a quem pertences

O submisso não deve ter qualquer outro parceiro sexual enquanto estiver neste tipo de relação. Ao ser monogâmico, o dominador sabe que tem o controlo total e que não precisa de lutar por nada. O submisso tem de saber a quem pertence para que o dominador nunca ponha em causa a sua lealdade.

Deixar o Mestre orgulhoso

Mais uma vez, o submisso não tem de chamar Mestre ao dominante, a não ser que este o mereça. Mas deixar o seu mestre orgulhoso tem, de facto, um significado mais profundo. Não se trata apenas de satisfazer as suas necessidades físicas, mas também de o deixar orgulhoso de si em todos os aspectos da sua vida. Isto irá melhorar a sua saúde física e mental, porque irá sentir sensações de realização, confiança e o derradeiro vínculo. 

Eu falo, tu obedeces

Whatever the dominant says he wants, he gets. But, you shouldn’t really be strict when it comes to this one. It is okay not to obey something you really don’t feel comfortable with.  And that is why it is good to inform your partner about some things that you’re not okay with so that they don’t insist on it during the action. It’s all about agreement and your performance in accordance with it. 

Considerações finais

I know that most of these things might sound confusing and perhaps even scary, but believe me, they can be very romantic and pleasant for both sides of the relationship. Don’t get scared off by BDSM porn, because it is too brutal and unrealistic. A true dominant-submissive relationship is respect and care, and every woman wants that in her relationship. The only difference here is that there are strict rules established that you have to follow in order to keep both parties happy and satisfied (just like in 50 tons de cinzento). When you do it for the first time, it will probably be different than you expected, but with time it will get better and better. So, if you give it a try, you may just fall in love with this type of lifestyle. Maybe you are the dominant one and you will find your submissive whom tu irás fazer feliz and who will do anything to please your every need. These relationships can be better than the majority of vanilla relationships people think of as normal and functioning.So don’t worry! Even if you merely want to explore a bit, just make sure to let your partner know that when you’re establishing the rules of the relationship.