10 sinais de que ele está realmente pronto para se estabelecer

You’re in a stable relationship but it seems to you like he’ll never settle down because he’s never mentioned anything about it.

I know that waiting is hard, but don’t make some wrong decisions because you think that your man will never be ready for the next step.

He will – you just have to be patient because settling down isn’t easy for men.

Sabem que a sua vida vai mudar quando o fizerem. Assusta-os porque isso traz muitas responsabilidades.

Quando se trata de assentar, as mulheres são sempre mais maduras e directas.

Men prefer to go slowly (to be honest, their biological clock isn’t ticking as fast as ours).

O seu homem nunca será direto quando se trata de assentar.

Instead, he’ll start to show some signs that he is ready to spend his life with you.

Watch out for these signs and if your man shows any of them, he’ll most likely want to settle down with you sooner than you think.

1. You’ve become his priority

A maioria dos rapazes gosta de ter os seus amigos homens e de sair com eles sempre que podem.

Mesmo estando numa relação, sair com os amigos continua a ser a prioridade número um para eles.

But when a man decides that it’s time to settle down with his girlfriend, this changes.

Ela torna-se a sua prioridade e passar tempo com ela é tudo o que ele quer fazer.

He’ll never ditch you because of his friends – just the opposite – he’ll ditch them because he prefers hanging out with you.

You are in all of his plans – for holidays, for summer vacations…

He’ll even invite you on his business trips or to some important social events. Ele coloca as suas necessidades em primeiro lugar.

Meeting your needs becomes the most important thing for him because he’s finally realized that you are the most important person in his life.

2. Ele abre-se para ti

Men don’t like to show their vulnerable side, which is why opening up is so difficult for them.

They aren’t used to talking about things that bother them with their friends like we are.

Se ele decidir abrir-se consigo, isso significa que confia em si e que sabe que os seus segredos estão seguros consigo.

Ele sabe que nunca o trairás como a maioria das pessoas na sua vida o faria.

This means you’ve gained his trust and that is the most important part of a healthy relationship.

É provavelmente a única pessoa na vida dele a quem ele pode contar todos os seus pensamentos mais profundos e segredos mais obscuros.

3. Ele mostra o quanto se preocupa

He understands that words aren’t enough and that he must show you how much ele ama-nos através das pequenas coisas da vida.

Por exemplo: Pode ser surpreendido com uma entrega de flores a meio do dia de trabalho.

When you check the date, you realize it’s not your birthday or your anniversary…

Quando começa a pensar que deve ser algum engano, encontra uma nota de amor no bouquet, dizendo que ele só queria fazer-lhe uma surpresa e recordar-lhe o quanto a ama.

4. Ele apresentou-te à família dele

Este é um dos passos mais importantes a dar quando uma relação se torna mais séria. A família é a parte mais importante da sua vida.

This is how he shows that he wants a serious relationship with you because he doesn’t bring every girlfriend home to meet his parents.

And he won’t introduce you to his family until he is sure that you are the one.

His family are the people he loves and trusts the most. That’s why it’s important to him that you meet them.

And it’s important for you to leave a good impression and get them to like you.

5. Ele tenta aproximar-se da sua família

Tal como a família dele é importante para ele, ele sabe que a sua é importante para si.

He knows that you are daddy’s little girl and that’s why he’ll do everything to get your dad’s approval.

Ele também quer mostrar à sua família que as suas intenções para consigo são honestas.

He’ll talk more about his career and his plans for the future with them than with you because he wants to show them that you are in good hands.

6. Ele não se importa que deixes as tuas coisas em casa dele

Nas primeiras vezes que passaste a noite em casa dele, ele escreveu-te uma mensagem para te dizer que te tinhas esquecido de algumas das tuas coisas em casa dele.

Talvez até lhe tenha trazido essas coisas da próxima vez que saíram ou que ele foi ter consigo.

Agora, porém, encoraja-a a deixar algumas coisas em casa dele porque a quer na sua vida para sempre.

Ele quer ver como é que fica ter uma mulher em casa. O mesmo se passa quando deixa as coisas dele em sua casa.

He’s started to leave some of his stuff at your place because he wants to see if you are okay with it.

If this is the case, you should start packing your things. It’s only a matter of time before he asks you to move into his place.

7. He doesn’t run from problems

His love is unconditional and that means he loves you no matter what. He’ll love you the same even during the bad times.

He’ll be there for you at every moment of your life because he’s committed to you.

He can’t imagine his life without you and that’s why he’ll fight for you no matter what.

You’ll have many fights and deal with many troubles in your relationship, like every couple, but he won’t leave. Nothing could make him leave.

If anything, it’ll seem like after every fight he loves you more. Before it was so difficult for him to say that he was sorry, but now he won’t be too proud to apologize if he did something wrong.

8. Ele fala sobre o futuro

No início da vossa relação, ele fugia de conversas sobre o futuro.

Ele tinha sempre uma desculpa para não falar sobre o assunto. Agora, é ele que inicia essas conversas.

He doesn’t want to be without you. Not now, not ever. That’s made him think about the future he wants to have with you.

Ele quer saber quais são os seus planos para o futuro. Além disso, ele quer ver se faz parte dos vossos planos.

Ele quer saber se os seus pensamentos sobre o futuro coincidem com os dele. Ele gosta quando fala sobre as coisas que querem fazer juntos.

He’ll tell you what kind of house he wants to buy, how many kids he wants to have, and you’ll see how his eyes light up when he talks about all of these things.  That’s because he is looking forward to sharing his life with you.

9. The ‘money talk’

After you’ve had the talk about the future comes the inevitable talk about finances.

One thing is sure, a man will never talk about money if he isn’t sure that your relationship is serious.

He won’t ask you how much money you make or how much money you have in your savings account.

He thinks those things are too personal and he doesn’t feel comfortable talking about them.

But after you’ve discussed the future, he’ll tell you himself how much he makes for a living.

10. Ele fala de crianças

This is something you must take seriously. Guys never joke about having kids and that’s a fact!

Every man knows it’s a big, serious commitment and they will never even talk about it if they don’t feel ready.

If he ever compares you with his mother or tells you that you’ll be a great mother one day, that’s it, he thinks that you are “the one”.

He will try to spend more time with your younger siblings because that’s how he wants to find out if you’re ready for kids – and he wants to show you that he is good with kids.

Para terminar

Se se apercebeu de alguma das situações acima referidas, é um ótimo sinal, pois significa que o seu parceiro poderá querer assentar num futuro próximo.

But, if you are not sure that your boyfriend has shown any of these signs, don’t panic. Give him more time.

Infelizmente, alguns rapazes são muito mais descontraídos quando se trata de assentar e, se gostamos deles, temos de ser pacientes e esperar.