8 Papéis falsos que ele interpreta e que realmente te deixam infeliz
Não há nada de errado em assumir um papel numa relação, desde que esse papel não afecte toda a personalidade da pessoa.
It’s desirable to present the traits of a certain role but when a man becomes just a role without his own personality, it becomes toxic for a relationship, which therefore ends in a break-up.
Alguns homens não são suficientemente fortes para manter a sua personalidade numa relação.
Sometimes they are too insecure to just be themselves so they choose to be something else —which is, by the way, never a good idea.
The woman they are dating learns to live with that ‘false’ type of person, with a man who pretends to be something he is not.
After some time, he can’t pretend anymore, so he drops the act.
Isto leva a discussões, a que ela pense que ele mudou para pior e, por fim, o casal separa-se.
Este cenário deixa ambas as pessoas na relação desiludidas e magoadas, o que faz com que desistam completamente de encontros e relações.
Para evitar a destruição de uma relação, um homem tem de ser inteligente.
Ele tem de se adaptar ao seu novo papel na relação e tirar apenas o melhor de cada papel seguinte para dar à sua mulher tudo o que ela precisa e para a satisfazer emocionalmente.
1. O brincalhão
Sure, he’s fun to be around, he jokes all the time, but sometimes he doesn’t know where to draw the line.
Por vezes, ele vai longe demais e isso resulta em magoá-la.
“I’m just kidding,” is the most common phrase you’ll hear from him.
Because if he says something inappropriate, probably unintentionally, it will hurt you and when you get fed up with it, you’re going to tell him how you feel.
When you let him know that you feel bad and his words upset you, he’ll try to calm you down by saying that he is just joking around and there’s no need to be hurt.
This will become devastating after some time because you won’t be able to put up with it and in the end you’re going to split up.
2. o pai
It’s nice to have a man like this by your side. He really acts like a father figure.
Ele protege-nos, faz-nos sentir seguras e amadas. Mas isto também tem um lado negativo.
Normalmente, os homens que agem assim consideram-se superiores a si, tal como um pai é superior aos seus filhos.
Quando cometes um erro, ele tenta dominar-te e fazer-te ver que fizeste uma coisa má.
Ele nunca será igual a ti porque te vê de uma forma totalmente diferente.
3. o falador
Está sempre a falar de si próprio. No início, isso era muito interessante, porque não tinha qualquer problema em conhecê-lo.
Ele contou-te tudo sobre ele desde o início.
But after a while, it became a problem. When you’re out with your friends, he simply doesn’t know when to shut up.
He talks over you with your friends, thus indiscreetly letting you and them know he doesn’t care about your opinions because his are the only ones that matter.
Os homens que agem desta forma são normalmente muito inseguros e gabam-se constantemente dos seus feitos porque estão a tentar esconder o facto de serem muito inseguros.
4. o Bad Boy
Who can resist a bad boy? It’s a fact that women apaixonar-se por rapazes maus por uma razão desconhecida e inexplicável.
A bad boy doesn’t play by the rules and he doesn’t care what anyone thinks.
That is a positive thing and it’s very attractive but there is another side to it.
Because he doesn’t care what anyone thinks and because he does whatever he wants too, you can’t trust him.
E se um dia ele decidir traí-la? Ele vê uma mulher atraente e quer dormir com ela. Nada o impedirá de o fazer.
5. o Manipulador
In the beginning, he’ll be just perfect. You’ll seriously wonder how you got so lucky to land such a guy.
Maybe you’ll even be suspicious in the beginning but with time you’ll get used to it.
Ele fará tudo o que lhe pedires. Realizará os teus desejos e cumprirá as suas promessas, mas só até conseguir que confies nele.
Once he manages that, once he has you and you open your heart to him, he’ll use you and drain your energy to get what he wants.
And when he’s done with you, he’ll do that all over again to another woman.
6. o fóbico de compromissos
He’ll lie from the start but you won’t be able to see through his lies. He’ll pretend that he is not ready to define your relationship.
He’ll constantly stall and change the subject if you try to talk about your relationship.
If you, on the other hand, manage to force him to talk, he’ll guilt-trip you into leaving things as they were by telling you about the girl he once had who broke his heart so he is not ready to fully trust someone yet.
He’ll also say that he has a feeling that you are different from the others but nothing will be defined.
Isto funciona perfeitamente para ele, porque pode sair em qualquer altura, sem compromissos.
7. Sr. Perfeito
Ele é o tipo de pessoa que se quer apresentar aos pais.
You’ll take him anywhere and show him off like a prize because he is just perfect, almost too perfect to be true.
When you look more closely, this is really a bad thing because he is the type of a guy who’ll do anything for someone’s approval.
Quer agradar a todos e, por isso, nunca diz o que realmente pensa e decide concordar consigo em tudo.
That’s why he looks so perfect. He does whatever you want.
Believe me, you don’t want a man who doesn’t have an opinion of his own.
8. a criança
He is like Peter Pan—he’ll never grow up. Dating such a guy is so much fun.
He cracks jokes, he is free-spirited and he is not afraid to do anything. You’re always laughing when you’re with him.
That’s really cool but the truth is that everyone needs to grow up at some point in their life.
É preciso saber que se pode contar com ele quando se tem um problema. Precisa de saber que ele é capaz de lidar com a vida real e com problemas reais.
