9 razões pelas quais está a ser ignorado pelo seu parceiro e como reagir a elas

Being ignored by the one you love is the worst feeling ever. You feel unwanted, like you’re just not good enough for him.

O que faz é passar em revista todas as coisas de que falou e recordar todas as coisas que lhe fez que o poderiam ter levado a agir assim, mas, de alguma forma, nada parece ter causado danos suficientes para o levar a ignorá-la durante tanto tempo.

Como é que se reage a esta situação? Your partner hasn’t texted you for days and when you’re together at home, he seems to be avoiding you at any cost.

Sempre que o confrontamos sobre este assunto, ele responde num tom tão frio que o sangue nas nossas veias fica gelado.

Porque é que estou a ser ignorado? Pode haver muitas razões possíveis que o fizeram fugir para as colinas.

Women do so many dramatic things that make men question why they’re with us at all.

We’re not even aware of them, most of the time, because we do it all unknowingly.

Due to the fact that you’re not able to see the reasons, I will give you a few possibilities why he might be ignoring you:

You’re being too needy

 

Let’s face it, women are sometimes too needy and too clingy without even being aware of it.

We forget that men don’t think the way we do. They don’t need to be around us all of the time and they don’t need someone constantly nagging them about everything and anything.

That’s when they turn to ignoring us because they think that this way, they will make sure that we get the hint. They love us, but they can’t take our clinginess.

Ignorou as suas necessidades

There are certain rules in every relationship. For example, my partner doesn’t like PDA too much and whenever I cling to him in public, it drives him nuts.

It’s just the way he is. I can’t blame him for not wanting to kiss me and touch me in public, but if I want him to not get mad, I have to respect his needs.

If you have done something to upset your partner, that might be the reason he’s ignoring you.

He must be thinking that if you’re ignoring his needs, he has the right to ignore yours and now you’re stuck in a toxic circle which neither one of you knows how to react to.

As expectativas são demasiado elevadas

You might be having too high expectations for your relationship. You might even be inflicting unrealistic rules into his life that are simply too much for him and he doesn’t know how to handle all of that pressure.

That’s why he goes and hides himself, showing you only a cold shoulder.

He doesn’t know how to tell you that you want too much from him without hurting you, so he says nothing instead.

Ele tem demasiado trabalho para fazer

In order to understand what is going through his mind, maybe it’s best for you to actually see his work schedule.

He might be overwhelmed with work right now and he doesn’t have time to talk and spend more time with you. You shouldn’t take this too personally of course.

Ele simplesmente tem de dar prioridade a algumas coisas. Mas atenção, ele está mesmo a passar todo o tempo a trabalhar ou é apenas uma desculpa para estar sempre a sair e a divertir-se sem si?

Ele está a perder o interesse em si

Of course, this one you can’t be sure about because the only way to actually know if he’s perder o interesse in you is if you asked him. So don’t make assumptions right away.

If he’s truly losing interest in you, he’s trying to get as far away from you as he can for many reasons: to test himself as to how much time can he be without you, will he miss you, are his feelings just false news.

You’re being too pushy

You just might be too pushy. You’re pushing him to do things that he’s not a huge fan of and it’s driving him insane.

All he wants is to have fun for now, but you’re already talking about marriage and kids and moving in together.

You’re actually freaking him out. You must be aware of the fact that men aren’t as mature as women, so for that same reason, it can actually take him years before he’s ready to come to that stage in your relationship.

Confronto

So he pulled away from you for quite some time to take a break or simply to play video games for several days (men, right?), but the reason why he is continuing to ignore you is because he actually has to confront you once he’s back.

Para ser sincero, as mulheres podem ser bastante assustadoras quando falam de coisas que as incomodam, por isso percebo a perspetiva masculina.

He simply might be scared to come back now that he’s been gone for a while. He knows that you won’t let him off easily.

Ele precisava de algum tempo para si próprio

Bem, acredite ou não, os homens precisam mesmo de tempo para eles próprios. Isto pode até incluir tempo com os seus amigos homens a embebedarem-se num bar.

It’s just the way they are. He knows that you will throw a tantrum if he told you that he wants to get wasted, so he ignores you in general because he doesn’t want to deal with your drama.

Derruba-o

I am guilty of ignoring people who bring me down. I just don’t think I need to have people like this around myself because they don’t contribute much to my happiness.

So, if you’re someone who gets depressed really easily and if you’re someone who always wants to hear the solutions to their problems from someone else while putting them down as well, than this could be the most obvious reason for him ignoring you.

How to react to this and handle the fact that you’re being ignored?

Now that we’ve listed all the possible reasons why he’s ignoring you, what do you do? You probably shouldn’t start yelling at him and accusing him of cheating on you or something like that. Rather, do some of these things instead:

Perguntar

I know that you have been going through so many things in your head and you simply can’t seem to find a reason for his behaviour.

You remember everything that you’ve done and everything he’s done but you can’t seem to find an answer? Ask him. Even if he doesn’t want to talk to you about it – ask.

You can approach this in two ways, depending on the situation: the first way is to apologize and tell him that you’ve thought about everything but you simply can’t seem to find a reason for why he’s behaving the way he is.

The second way, which is a bit risky is to come off strong and tell him that you don’t have your whole life to waste on waiting for him to make up his mind.

Pergunte-lhe se quer estar consigo. Se sim, então ele deve deixar de se comportar como uma criança.

If his answer is no and he wants to break up, then you’re better off alone than with a guy who’s so immature.

Ele está a manipulá-la?

There is quite a chance that he’s using this technique to get the best out of your love and affection. He might be doing this to get something out of you.

Ask yourself: is this is the first time he has behaved this way? If it’s not, how did the last time turn out? What happened?

When you asked him about why he’s doing all of this to you, the only response was ‘if you payed attention you’d know’ or ‘you know very well what’s up’.

These sentences are just there to make you wonder about your own behaviour, so he will get the best treatment ever. Don’t fall for o seu comportamento manipulador mais.

Vá em frente

Uma outra forma de lidar com esta situação é simplesmente seguir o fluxo.

He might just be making space between you two to calm himself down or to figure out what’s exactly on his mind.

So don’t freak out, but rather take this time to do something for yourself.

Pay attention to your own wants and needs. You pushing him to confront you about his behavior won’t do any good to either one of you, so be at peace for you have nothing to worry about.

Quando ele voltar e estiver disposto a falar consigo, então pode fazer todas as perguntas que quiser. Até lá, deixe-se ir com a corrente.

Don’t give up on them

 

Eu sei que pode parecer mais fácil simplesmente descartá-los e expulsá-los das vossas vidas, mas talvez ainda não.

Dê-lhes tempo. Claro, tenha os seus próprios limites, mas até lá, abra os braços e talvez eles venham a correr para si.

Pode parecer que nunca mais voltarão para si, mas quais são as probabilidades de isso acontecer?

O seu parceiro pode estar a passar por momentos difíceis e, se vos perder, pode ser o fim do mundo para ele.

Don’t blame yourself

Todos nós somos culpados disto. Culpamo-nos a nós próprios sem nunca sabermos qual é a verdadeira causa do seu comportamento.

So don’t rush to conclusions and don’t think that just because they’re ignoring you, everything is your fault – it might not be.

Falar com uma terceira pessoa

If he’s been ignoring you for too long now, the best thing you can do is ask a third person about what’s happening. You might even ask his close friends—so what if he finds out about it?

Ele tem de saber que se preocupa! Por isso, saiam e tomem um café com alguém que talvez saiba a resposta para o vosso problema.

Ask everything that you have to. If this person says that they don’t have an idea about what’s going on, you can always ask someone else.

Animar

Because of the fact that it’s been so long since he started ignoring you, you might be getting depressed and frustrated as hell. So chill out.

Cheer up. Your frown won’t help anyone get what they want. If you’re being very sad around him and if you don’t even bother smiling, it’s just not beneficial to your relationship in general. So smile! Cheer up! Things will fall into place sooner or later.

So, there you have it, all the reasons he might be ignoring you and how to handle everything with grace. Bonus advice: don’t overdo it.

I know that it feels horrible and you must be scared to know the truth so you go through all the possibilities in your head and you overthink everything but don’t.

Leve todo o tempo que precisar para relaxar e dê-lhe todo o tempo que ele precisar para se acalmar.

Faith keeps the people who are meant to be together by each other’s sides, so there’s nothing to worry about.