Se ele faz estas 7 coisas, você está num relacionamento falso

O que é uma relação falsa?

It’s a relationship that has no future. It’s a relationship you’re staying in because either you’re afraid of being alone and moving on, or you’re convinced that things are vai mudarmas não o farão.

Many of us don’t even know that we are in fake relationships. It’s hard to explain why that is so but one guess would be that we simply refuse to open our eyes and consider a change.

Change is difficult and not many people welcome it. No matter whether it’s good or bad, at the time when you have to make a decision that you know is going to make things different, change is just hard.

You’re letting go of everything you know and starting something completely different.

That future that awaits you is scary because, naturally, you don’t know what is going to happen.

That’s why some of us choose to believe that our relationship is the right one.

Because it’s easier to live believing that the problems between you and your partner are just temporary.

Caso contrário, a única coisa que lhe resta é aceitar que está numa relação falsa.

To make things easier for you and to make you open your eyes and embrace what’s coming next, here are the things he does that actually show you are in a fake relationship which has no future. You’re just prolonging the inevitable.

He doesn’t talk to you

Onde não há comunicação, não há amor. Porquê?

Because, if your partner doesn’t talk to you, if he doesn’t share his thoughts and his feelings with you, how are you supposed to know this person?

Maintaining communication doesn’t mean you have to call each other or text each other every second but when you get home from work, it would be great if you talked a bit about how your day went or how you’re feeling, just to keep up with things.

Otherwise, how would you know what’s going on in your partner’s life? Communication is the key.

If he doesn’t talk to you, you won’t know what’s bothering him.

E guardar os sentimentos dentro de si só pode causar problemas a longo prazo.

When he leaves, you don’t know where he’s going

He is being a bit secretive about where he’s going and when he’s coming back.

I’m just saying, you are not compiling a police report and you don’t have to know all the details but it would be nice if he’s going out just to tell you where or with whom?

It’s not that tem problemas de confiança, but if he acts this way all the time, you’re going to develop trust issues.

E quando deixar de confiar nele, não vale a pena manter a relação.

The fact alone that he doesn’t want to tell you where he’s going is very suspicious and it can only show you that he doesn’t take your relationship seriously and probably isn’t even planning on staying for much longer.

You’re just a plano de reserva até encontrar algo melhor. Esta é definitivamente uma relação falsa.

He’s all over you in public

Poder-se-ia pensar que um PDA é, de facto, uma coisa boa, mas, como tudo o resto, o excesso de algo pode ser muito suspeito e prejudicial.

If he is all over you in public and you’re playing along with his charade, then you have a problem.

He is probably trying to prove to others that he is happy and by doing the same you’re just helping him.

When you get home, he’ll turn into the cold shadow that he was before. That is anything but a real relationship.

You don’t have to prove your love to anyone. If he has the need to do it excessively, then you’re definitely in a fake relationship.

As razões para manter uma relação falsa podem ser inúmeras, mas sejam elas quais forem, faça um favor a si próprio e saia imediatamente, antes que se magoe seriamente.

You’re always the one starting the conversation

Ele só fala consigo quando precisa de alguma coisa de si. Isso significa que ele está consciente do que está a fazer e do tipo de relação em que se encontra.

Isto significa que este tipo de cenário funciona para ele neste momento.

Don’t let him use you and just break it off. You’ve tried enough and you’ve started so many conversations which were all a one-way street.

You’ve pulled the words out of him and it never ended well.

That man simply doesn’t want to open up to you. Maybe you’re not that interesting to him, or he just has different plans.

De qualquer forma, tu és a vítima e tens de deixar esta relação falsa.

A única coisa que têm é química sexual

Don’t get me wrong. Sex is great and it’s super that you have that kind of chemistry between the two of you.

But there is something you shouldn’t disregard so easily. Sex is great but it’s not the most important thing in a relationship.

If the only thing you have left is sex, then you’re in a fake relationship. You can’t just communicate through passion. For a true relationship, you need much more.

No início de uma relação, o sexo desempenha um papel importante nas vossas vidas.

You’re just getting to know each other and you’re exploring each other, but after some time, things have to grow into something bigger and more serious.

Se nunca o fizerem, essa relação é definido para falhar.

You don’t share great moments together

Your relationship is actually boring. You’re stuck in a rut where you do one thing again and again.

Está preso a uma rotina que é tudo menos divertida ou criativa. As relações têm de ser divertidas e turbulentas.

You have to experience a lot of things together. You have to be able to remember all the crazy, goofy, romantic or sad moments you’ve lived together. You have to have them to remember them.

If this is lacking in your relationship, it means that the relationship you’re in is not a real one. It’s a try which was worth it for a while but it failed.

O seu ego é demasiado grande

As relações têm a ver com compromissos e se uma pessoa tem de ter sempre razão, então há algo de errado com essa imagem.

Se ele insiste em que as coisas sejam sempre feitas à sua maneira, isso significa que a vossa relação não tem amor.

When you love someone, you’ll show him that by letting go from time to time. Even if you think you’re one hundred percent right, you’re going to listen to your partner.

Ele nunca faz isso. Ele acredita que tem razão e mesmo que você tenha razão e não ele, ele não o vai admitir. O seu ego é demasiado grande para aceitar que cometeu um erro.

That is not a relationship. That’s a crock.