Se fizeres 7 destas 14 coisas, és uma boa namorada

Há tantos tipos de namoradas que vemos todos os dias e não podemos deixar de nos perguntar: "Que tipo de namorada sou eu?"

Ou uma pergunta ainda melhor para fazer a si próprio, “Which type of a girlfriend should I be?”

As relações tornaram-se tão difíceis porque as pessoas se tornaram tão complicadas. Irritamo-nos por coisas pequenas, ressentimo-nos de coisas estúpidas.

Basta um bocadinho para nos fazer passar dos limites, o que traz problemas para as nossas relações.

On the other hand, as we get so easily angry with our other half in a relationship, we don’t accept an apology so lightly.

Face it, all of us have that no-one-will-screw-with-me attitude because it’s hard to forget what someone said or did that bothered us.

Well, relationships are not about resentment or suppressing anger. They aren’t about keeping score of who did what and when.

Todos nós estamos sempre a esquecer-nos disso. As relações devem ser sobre o amor e a capacidade de perdoar e seguir em frente.

Ninguém é perfeito. Nem tu, nem ele, nem a vossa relação.

Onde é que eu quero chegar com isto?

Tendo dito tudo isto, quero que percebas que, independentemente do tipo de namorada que sejas, podes ser tA melhor namorada é a sua namorada, consultando estas 15 dicas para o sucesso.

If you mean well and you sincerely love the person you’re with, you are indeed a boa namorada.

No entanto, sei que ainda têm as vossas dúvidas.

That’s why we are going to move on to the more analytical part of the article, to make you totally confident you’re behaving exactly as you should.

Se fizeres pelo menos 7 destas 14 coisas, és um BOA NAMORADA

És a combinação perfeita de pegajoso e independente

Nenhum homem lhe dirá que gosta que a namorada esteja sempre perto dele.

No one likes people who act like a lost puppy in a relationship – women who don’t do anything by themselves and act like they have no life outside of the relationship.

On the other hand, no one wants a woman who is too independent and doesn’t need you for anything.

If she can do everything by herself, what’s the point of being in a relationship?

Uma namorada perfeita sabe mover-se no meio termo entre ser pegajoso e independente.

Uma namorada perfeita sai com o namorado, passa o tempo a fazer coisas juntos, mas tem uma vida fora da relação com os amigos e a família, como é suposto toda a gente ter.

You’re self-assured

You know you look good and you feel good about yourself. You don’t need anyone to keep telling you that you rock.

You are perfectly aware of that, but you don’t misuse it. You’re not an ass to others just because you are confident.

Os homens adoram raparigas que não estão obcecadas com o facto de terem ou não bom aspeto e de as pessoas gostarem delas.

O facto de não estar a planear mudar por ninguém, porque gosta de si próprio tal como é, é o que o torna único e interessante.

A tua personalidade e a tua mentalidade, tal como são, fazem de ti uma boa namorada.

Fazes coisas boas para ele

A vida quotidiana pode levar-nos a uma rotina aborrecida.

Quando damos por isso, damos por nós a fazer as mesmas coisas vezes sem conta, o que põe em perigo a nossa relação.

Mesmo os casais que estão juntos há mais tempo enfrentam estes problemas.

That’s why the fact that you do small nice things for your boyfriend makes you a great girlfriend.

Fazes-lhe café de manhã, deixas-lhe um bilhete bonito em cima da mesa ou escreve-lhe um parágrafo de amor.

If you do these or any of other selfless things for him, it means you’re willing to keep the relationship alive even after so much time spent together.

You’re smart

You’re not childish; you’ve outgrown the high school phase of dating and all the problems that come with it.

Well, that’s what men are looking for – a mature and grown-ass woman who doesn’t act like a spoiled brat.

Os homens querem uma mulher ao seu lado que seja igual a eles e que os possa desafiar a nível intelectual.

Os homens precisam de um desafio e tu tens a inteligência para o fazer.

You never compare your relationship with someone else’s

Although it’s extremely hard not to compare what you have with what someone else has, you somehow manage it.

Seeing all those selfies of happy couples on social media doesn’t make it easier to only look at your relationship, but you are confident enough and smart enough to know that nothing is exactly what it looks like.

God knows what happens between that “happy” couple when they are not pretending to be the happiest by posting cute selfies on Instagram.

Sure, you’re not made of stone and you have critical moments too when you can’t help but wonder if you are as happy as they are.

Fortunately, you’ve always made it through.

És dedicado

First, you’ll never cheat. You never even thought of cheating. Second, you always have your man’s back.

You’ll always stick up for him.

It doesn’t matter if he’s right or wrong, the point is you trust him and you care enough to defend what he believes in, even if you don’t.

A devoção é algo que todos os homens apreciam. Se se comportar assim numa relação, confie em mim, eles retribuirão o favor.

Encoraja-o a seguir os seus sonhos

You talk to him about what he wants. You listen to him talking about his dreams, about things he’s passionate about.

Even if those things don’t mean anything to you, you’ll respect them and you’ll help him get there any way you know how.

If you can’t do anything except listen to him and hear out his problems, you’ll do it because that is the only way to encourage him to never throw in the towel.

Deixa-o agir como um homem

You are well aware of the fact that men and women are from two different worlds. We don’t function or think the same way.

That’s why you won’t make him do girly stuff, the stuff he doesn’t feel comfortable doing. You don’t want to make him feel less manly.

You won’t follow him around making sure he doesn’t do something stupid.

Confia nele e sabe que ele tem de ter tempo para si próprio, tal como você tem de ter tempo para si própria.

Ele precisa de sair com os amigos homens e fazer coisas que os homens fazem.

You don’t force him to be a romantic

You know it’s not his thing. He shows that he loves you in different ways. So, you don’t pressure him into doing romantic gestures for you.

You know he won’t feel good because that’s just not who he is.

A maioria das pessoas demonstra o seu amor com grandes gestos românticos, escapadelas surpresa e presentes giros.

Even though you see this happening around you with your friends, you don’t care that your man is not like that.

Ele tem muito formas únicas de mostrar o quanto ele gosta de si – and you’re more than okay with that.

Fazes com que ele queira melhorar

You are going to bring out the best in him – you want to bring out the best in him.

És o seu apoio em todas as situações e fazes com que ele queira tornar-se uma pessoa ainda melhor do que já é.

A dada altura das suas vidas, um homem sente-se responsável pelo seu futuro e, na maioria dos casos, isso acontece por causa de uma mulher.

É assim que se influencia positivamente a vida dele. Fazes com que ele queira mudar e ser melhor.

You won’t take your anger out on him, even if you’re having a bad day

I know it’s hard to keep your emotions under control. Some days you just feel simply bad; you aren’t in the mood to talk to anyone, not even him.

But when those days come, you don’t unleash that frustration on him.

If it’s necessary, you’ll go away; you’ll get out of his way to not cause a scene because you’re well aware that you’re a bit edgy, so you might misunderstand things he says or does.

Basically, if you’re feeling a bit bitchy, you’ll move out of his way.

You won’t let him neglect his friends and family

A lot of men do this when they enter relationships. A lot of them act like they no longer have friends, just because they’ve found a girlfriend.

This behavior is shitty and you’ll never let him do something like this.

Não se esqueça de lhe recordar a importância de manter o contacto com as pessoas de quem gosta.

Maybe it’s not as necessary to do this with friends as it is with his family.

Men get like that; they don’t have the need to call their mom just to say they love her, but that’s why they have you to remind them it’s a nice and loving thing to do.

You’ll try new things, even if you don’t like them

You’ll do it for him.

If something means so much to him, you’ll keep whatever your opinion is about that particular thing to yourself and you’ll try it because you love him and you want to make him happy.

Afinal de contas, se conseguir que faça algo novo com ele é mais uma oportunidade para passar mais tempo com a pessoa que ama, porque não?

You don’t force him to change

I saved the best – or better said – the more important for last. If you’ve fallen in love with someone, you’ve fallen in love for a reason.

Talvez haja algumas coisas que queira que ele mude, mas, no geral, ama-o como ele é.

When you think about it, it’s not fair to ask someone to change after you choose to be with that person the way they are.

Your boyfriend appreciates that you’ve accepted him with flaws and all.

After all, you aren’t perfect either.