Se tens de fazer estas 5 coisas numa relação, estás a enganar-te a ti próprio
Uma relação saudável é a base da vida. É por isso que deve ser um lugar seguro pelo qual se anseia. Não deve ser um fardo. Não deve fazer-nos questionar se é bom ou não.
That’s why you need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself: Are you really happy in your relationship? Or are you afraid of being alone or everything that comes after the breakup?
Está a feliz ou és tu confortável because you’re used to it?
Let’s imagine you could remove all the obstacles that come after the breakup, like changing your life routine, changing social groups, all the inevitable and draining stuff, etc. – would you still stay with the same person?
1. Tens de esconder os teus verdadeiros sentimentos
If you can’t express your feelings to the person you’re closest to, that says a lot. Among other things, it says that you don’t really feel they’re that close to you or that they understand you.
If you overthink expressing yourself around your loved one, maybe that means they’re not the person you need in your life.
O que precisa é de alguém que o aceite tal como é, e isso inclui toda uma gama de emoções e humores.
Repressed feelings only lead to serious problems and resentment later on. Resentment is the worst feeling that can happen in a relationship. It’s something that slowly kills the relationship.
It’s best to admit to yourself that you need something else, rather than leave yourself and him in the illusion that everything is fine when it’s far from that.
2. É preciso bisbilhotar
In other words, you don’t trust your partner. We’ve all done it. We looked at our partner’s phone over their shoulders and that’s not something surprising.
However, if you’re doing it constantly and you always feel betrayed without any evidence, you’re either picking up on something intuitively or you just don’t trust your partner and have trust issues.
Seja como for, precisa de esclarecer as coisas. Fale abertamente com o seu parceiro sobre os seus receios e deixe que ele o tranquilize, ou pense em como resolver os seus problemas de confiança.
Se teve más experiências no passado, normalmente leva muito tempo a sarar corretamente, mas por vezes é preciso a pessoa certa e ele pode não ser essa pessoa.
In order to heal, we need someone who makes us feel safe. If he doesn’t make you feel safe, think about if that’s what makes you uncomfortable and if it’s really worth your efforts.
3. Tem vontade de corrigir e comparar o seu parceiro
This one isn’t easy to admit but it’s crucial. People get together and fall in love, and over time that love should grow and get stronger.
The reality is that sometimes initial infatuation starts fading and love doesn’t become stronger. but turns into constant nagging, passive-aggressive behavior, and fights.
It’s better to admit to yourself that you don’t like the person the way you thought you did than pretend they’re going to change.
You can’t change the person – that’s the biggest mistake people make. They believe they can change another person, but that’s impossible.
You can either accept and love the person as they are or find someone who’s a better match.
4. Mente sobre o dinheiro
Money is one thing that often takes center stage in arguments. If you want to spend life with someone, that means you’ll need to talk about money muito.
So, if you lie about the money you spend or anything else money-related, that’s an issue.
If you can’t be honest with your partner and work with them as a team – or at least agree on certain things – it’s always going to be an issue for you. It’s not something that will sort itself out.
You shouldn’t lie about things that make up a pretty big part of life.
5. Tens de te lembrar porque é que estás com eles
It’s okay to feel dissatisfied in a relationship from time to time, but if you’re feeling it often, something isn’t right.
If you find yourself trying to rationalize your love for them or living on memories of things that happened in your past, then maybe your relationship simply isn’t working as it should.
A healthy relationship makes you feel good inside. You don’t question it – it makes you confident in yourself and your partner.
Don’t be afraid to make changes in your life if you feel dissatisfied. Deep down in your heart, you know the right thing to do and all you need to do is be brave.
