Se tens medo de pedir estas 10 coisas a um homem, não devias estar com ele

So, you’re really into that one guy you find special and you think he’s the right one for you, but you’re still a bit cautious because you don’t want to fuck things up. And you shouldn’t be alarmed – this is completely normal.

After all, if you’re really meant to be, your decisions won’t push him away from you, but bring him even closer!

So, stop looking for excuses only to validate his behavior. If you’re medo de perguntar a um rapaz for these 10 things, then you know you definitely shouldn’t be with him!

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1. Compromisso

Muitos rapazes são jogadores ou têm fobia de compromissos.

And what makes the situation even more difficult is that you can seldom predict if he’s a player or he has commitment issues.

So, you keep dating not knowing what’s next, and when it happens, it happens too late.

É que o compromisso é algo que nunca se deve ter medo de pedir e, se o tivermos, isso significa he’s not the right one for you. Porquê?

Because if he’s ready to be with you and if he really wants to be with you, he would have never let you question his intentions.

Ele faria questão de a tornar sua e só sua.

2. Esperar pelo sexo

Remember that any guy who pushes you into doing something you’re not comfortable with, is not worthy of you.

If you’re afraid that he will turn his back and abandon you when you tell him that you need some time before getting intimate, then you know you’re better off without him anyway.

Mereces alguém que te aprecie a ti e ao teu corpo, e não que pense apenas em si próprio.

3. Um futuro

Are you looking for someone to build a future with? Then you shouldn’t be afraid to say so.

If you’re not interested in casual romances and you’re afraid that this might turn him off, you should run as far as you can from him.

If he’s subconsciously forcing you to do something only to keep him, it means he’s a dirty player e tu devias ser mais sábio!

Mereces construir um futuro com alguém que o queira tanto como tu e nada mais te deve interessar.

4. Fazer de ti a sua prioridade

If you feel like everything and everyone is more important to him than you, then you shouldn’t be afraid to tell him so.

You’re not his toy and you’re not there to fulfill his every wish. You’re a human being and you deserve to be put on his priority list.

And if he’s unwilling to do so, then you shouldn’t beg for it either.

If making you his priority doesn’t come natural to him and he doesn’t even consider it despite your complaints about it, it means he’s too off and definitely no good for you.

5. Monogamia

Algumas mulheres sentem-se confortáveis com o conceito de uma relação aberta, em que se sai com várias pessoas ao mesmo tempo.

But, if you’re not of them, that’s nothing you should be ashamed of.

If you want to be in a monogamous relationship, you should say so – it is your right and you should always listen to your inner voice.

You shouldn’t discard your feelings and go against your values only to appease his ego.

And if you’re afraid to tell him for fear that he will head for the hills, then you know he’s not the one for you and you should move on.

6. Um pedido de desculpas

It doesn’t matter if you’ve just started dating or already been in a relationship for some time, there will always be some situations where you will say something insulting or something you didn’t really mean.

Haverá sempre situações em que se magoarão um ao outro, e pedir desculpa por isso é uma obrigação se quiserem continuar a construir uma uma relação feliz e saudável.

But, if he doesn’t apologize and you’re too scared to ask him to do so, you know you’re with the wrong man.

Ele nunca deve tomar a sua felicidade e respeito como garantidos. E só o facto de ter de lhe pedir desculpa já é suficiente.

7. Crianças

Se desejam ter filhos um dia no futuro, devem ser livres de o dizer.

And if he doesn’t agree with your decision and he can’t promise you that he would want to become a parent one day, then you know what to do.

Decidir ter filhos ou não é uma coisa importante e nunca deve comprometer os seus desejos só porque tem medo de o perder.

If you choose to stay with him even though you know that he’ll never want to become a parent, you’re deliberately depriving yourself of happiness.

8. O perdão

You said something you didn’t really mean and you’re genuinely sorry for it, but you’re afraid to seek forgiveness because you think you will be rejected.

Nenhuma pessoa deve ter medo de pedir perdão quando está genuinamente arrependida (especialmente se não for nada de especial e especialmente se já o perdoou várias vezes até agora).

If you’re afraid to ask for forgiveness, it means he’s definitely not worthy of you.

9. Respeito

O respeito é um direito humano de nascença e nunca se deve pensar em ficar calado perante qualquer tipo de desrespeito ou maus tratos.

If you’re afraid to speak your mind and tell him that you deserve better conduct and respect from him, it means he’s in a way emotionally abusing you.

And you definitely shouldn’t accept such treatment in return!

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10. Esforço

Se for evidente que ele a está a tomar por garantida e nunca faz nada para te fazer sentir especial, it means he’s a selfish and egocentric low-effort prick.

And if you’re afraid to acknowledge it to his face, it means he’s even bigger prick and you should make a run for it ASAP.

Lembre-se que real men don’t make excuses – they make an effort sem que seja necessário pedir-lhes que o façam.

Os verdadeiros homens nunca a fariam questionar as suas intenções e nunca a fariam sentir-se menos importante; a sua prioridade número um é a sua felicidade.

Por isso, espere por um homem que lhe mostre o verdadeiro significado de fazer um esforço e que nunca a deixará ficar mal, aconteça o que acontecer!