Ser solteiro é sempre melhor do que ser tratado como merda

Nenhuma quantidade de amor que sintas por uma pessoa deve substituir a tua dignidade ou baixar os teus padrões. Nenhum medo que possas sentir quando pensas em ser solteiro deve permitir que outra pessoa te trate como merda.

Trust me, I know what I’m talking about.

Pense no seguinte: Que importância tem o amor se não formos respeitados, valorizados, apreciados ou tratados da forma que merecemos pela pessoa que amamos?

Qual é a importância de ter alguém ao nosso lado se esse alguém trata-te como merda? You have no idea until you’ve had the chance to feel it all on your skin.

I’ve been there you know, and I can tell you, there is nothing worse than being with someone who makes you feel miserable all the time.

Não há nada pior, mesmo ficando solteiro para o resto da vida, do que permitir que outro ser humano arraste constantemente o seu espírito para baixo.

See, I’m the type of person who’s constantly led by her feelings and therefore it may happen at times that my feelings cloud my judgment or that I think up irrational things that I probably wouldn’t if I didn’t overthink like I normally do. And taking all this and mixing it together, I let myself get attached to someone who treated me like shit.

While I stayed at home, he went and partied like there was no tomorrow. While I was planning a future for us, he lived like there was no tomorrow. While I couldn’t have been quicker to pick up the phone when he called, it took him hours to reply to a text.

While I was giving him all my kindness and putting him on a pedestal, he couldn’t have treated me with less respect or shoved me any lower down his prioritário lista. E mesmo assim, mantive-me ao seu lado.

I thought I should have been happy to have someone next to me, that it was all part of a relationship. I thought that I was one of the lucky ones who had found her soulmate, even though that ‘soulmate’ was more of a nightmare. Never for a second did I think that being alone would be better than being in a toxic relationship.

I should’ve been happy to have someone next to me but the reality couldn’t have been more different to be honest. Because this person I had next to me didn’t make me happy.

Ele só me fez duvidar do meu valor, duvidar se eu era suficientemente bom e quase me convenceu de que ele era o melhor que eu podia ter, porque eu era tão má que não havia mais ninguém que quisesse amar-me, deliberadamente e sozinho.

Por medo de ficar sozinha, agarrei-me durante muito tempo a alguém que me tratava como se eu fosse a coisa mais irrelevante deste mundo, como se não valesse nada.

Por medo de ser julgada ou marcada como não sendo suficientemente boa para ser desejada por outra pessoa, atirei-me para uma relação tóxica e chamei-lhe amor. E fiz tudo isto a mim própria.

I allowed other people’s opinions of  me to be more important to me than how I was treated. I allowed someone to treat me like shit just because I thought that was better than being alone.

E desejo que nenhum outro ser humano, nenhuma outra rapariga ou mulher, se humilhe ao mesmo ponto que eu.

Por isso, ouçam-me quando vos digo: Fiquem solteiros! Fiquem solteiros o máximo de tempo possível. Passe pela vida sozinho com a cabeça erguida. Orgulha-te de ti mesmo com todos os teus defeitos, cicatrizes e imperfeições. Ama a tua vida e trabalha para criar a vida que queres ter.

Permaneça solteira. Aprenda sobre as coisas que o entusiasmam, aprenda sobre as coisas de que gosta e não gosta, explore o que incendeia a sua alma. Ame-se como é e só então será capaz de amar e ser amado da forma correcta por outro ser humano.

Stay single. Fall and then rise and then fall again.  If you fall thousand times, rise for the thousand and first time. Do it alone. Show yourself what you’re made of.

Permanecer solteiro. Don’t rush into a relationship until you’ve seen that the person you’re giving your time, your efforts, your love and yourself to is actually worth it all.

Nunca ter medo de estar sozinho—cherish it, live it. You won’t stay single forever. So don’t allow the fear you’re feeling to push you into the arms of someone who’ll emotionally destroy you.

Because it will take you years to patch your broken pieces together. Trust me, I’ve been there.

Wait for someone who deserves you. Wait for someone who will know your worth and who’ll think you’re too good for him. Wait for someone who’ll admire you and help you build yourself up or at least cheer for you while you do it yourself.

Wait until you’re the best version of yourself before you welcome someone into your life. Because only then will you know that you’re with him from the right reasons.

And only then will everything make sense. Only then you’ll be able to truly see your worth and be able to cut off of your life anyone who dares to treat you like shit.