Ser soltero siempre es mejor que ser tratado como una mierda

Ningún amor que sientas por una persona debe reemplazar tu dignidad ni rebajar tu nivel de exigencia. Ningún miedo que puedas sentir al pensar en la soltería debe permitir que otra persona te trate como una mierda.

Trust me, I know what I’m talking about.

Piensa en esto: ¿Qué importancia tiene el amor si la persona que amas no te respeta, valora, aprecia o trata como mereces?

¿Qué importancia tiene tener a alguien al lado si ese alguien te trata como a una mierda? You have no idea until you’ve had the chance to feel it all on your skin.

I’ve been there you know, and I can tell you, there is nothing worse than being with someone who makes you feel miserable all the time.

No hay nada peor, incluso permaneciendo soltero el resto de tu vida, que permitir que otro ser humano arrastre constantemente tu espíritu hacia abajo.

See, I’m the type of person who’s constantly led by her feelings and therefore it may happen at times that my feelings cloud my judgment or that I think up irrational things that I probably wouldn’t if I didn’t overthink like I normally do. And taking all this and mixing it together, I let myself get attached to someone who treated me like shit.

While I stayed at home, he went and partied like there was no tomorrow. While I was planning a future for us, he lived like there was no tomorrow. While I couldn’t have been quicker to pick up the phone when he called, it took him hours to reply to a text.

While I was giving him all my kindness and putting him on a pedestal, he couldn’t have treated me with less respect or shoved me any lower down his prioridad lista. Y sin embargo, me quedé a su lado.

I thought I should have been happy to have someone next to me, that it was all part of a relationship. I thought that I was one of the lucky ones who had found her soulmate, even though that ‘soulmate’ was more of a nightmare. Never for a second did I think that being alone would be better than being in a toxic relationship.

I should’ve been happy to have someone next to me but the reality couldn’t have been more different to be honest. Because this person I had next to me didn’t make me happy.

Sólo me hizo dudar de mi valía, dudar de si yo era suficientemente bueno y casi me convenció de que él era lo mejor que podía conseguir porque yo era tan mala que no había nadie más que quisiera amarme, deliberadamente y por su cuenta.

Verás, por miedo a quedarme sola, me aferré durante tanto tiempo a alguien que me trataba como si fuera lo más irrelevante de este mundo, como si no valiera nada.

Verás, por miedo a ser juzgada o marcada como no lo suficientemente buena para ser deseada por otra persona, me lancé a una relación tóxica y la llamé amor. Y todo esto me lo hice a mí misma.

I allowed other people’s opinions of  me to be more important to me than how I was treated. I allowed someone to treat me like shit just because I thought that was better than being alone.

Y deseo que ningún otro ser humano, ninguna otra niña o mujer, se humille hasta el mismo punto que yo lo hice.

Así que escúchame cuando te digo: ¡Quédate soltero! Quédate soltero todo el tiempo que puedas. Camina sola por la vida con la cabeza bien alta. Siéntete orgulloso de ti mismo con todos tus defectos, cicatrices e imperfecciones. Ama tu vida y trabaja para crear la vida que quieres tener.

Quédate soltero. Conoce las cosas que te emocionan, aprende lo que te gusta y lo que no, explora lo que enciende tu alma. Quiérete tal y como eres y sólo entonces podrás amar y ser amado de la forma adecuada por otro ser humano.

Stay single. Fall and then rise and then fall again.  If you fall thousand times, rise for the thousand and first time. Do it alone. Show yourself what you’re made of.

Mantente soltero. Don’t rush into a relationship until you’ve seen that the person you’re giving your time, your efforts, your love and yourself to is actually worth it all.

Nunca tengas miedo de estar solo—cherish it, live it. You won’t stay single forever. So don’t allow the fear you’re feeling to push you into the arms of someone who’ll emotionally destroy you.

Because it will take you years to patch your broken pieces together. Trust me, I’ve been there.

Wait for someone who deserves you. Wait for someone who will know your worth and who’ll think you’re too good for him. Wait for someone who’ll admire you and help you build yourself up or at least cheer for you while you do it yourself.

Wait until you’re the best version of yourself before you welcome someone into your life. Because only then will you know that you’re with him from the right reasons.

And only then will everything make sense. Only then you’ll be able to truly see your worth and be able to cut off of your life anyone who dares to treat you like shit.