3 sinais alarmantes de que não passas de uma namorada adotiva

Ultimamente, o termo "namorada adotiva" tem vindo a aparecer. Apesar de ter sido popularizado pelos TikTokers há pouco tempo, o fenómeno existe desde sempre.

Basicamente, uma namorada adotiva é aquela que os homens namoram até encontrarem a sua pessoa para sempre.

Aquela que os homens usam como um trampolim para o seu destino final; a mulher com quem querem passar o resto da sua vida.

So, how can you tell if you’re someone’s foster girlfriend? Just go through these red flags and if most of them are relatable, everything is crystal clear.

You’re more his parent than his romantic partner

When you come to think about it, if it weren’t for your intimate moments, someone would characterize you as this guy’s mother more than his girlfriend.

A maior parte do tempo, ele age como um fedelho imaturo who doesn’t know what he wants from life.

On the other hand, you’re the one who takes the lead. The one who takes care of him and raises him.

You might think this is how a healthy relationship should work. Well, it would be perfect if all of it wasn’t one-sided.

I hate to be the one to break it to you but you’re just preparing this man for the woman who will come after you.

You’re teaching him everything he needs to know about relationships and life in general.

You’re teaching him good manners, advising him regarding literally everything and you’re pushing him forward to become the best possible version of himself.

Yes, you’ll turn a boy into a man. You’ll spend years watering a plant that will eventually bloom.

Nevertheless, the problem is that you won’t reap the fruits of your labor.

Em vez disso, basta fazer todo o trabalho árduo e a rapariga que vier depois de si ficará com eles.

Ele recusa-se a comprometer-se consigo

Another sign that you’re your boyfriend’s foster girlfriend lies in his inability to commit.

Even though you two have been together for ages, he still acts as if your relationship isn’t serious enough.

Ele não é dedicado a si, nem ele fez algum esforço o que quer que seja no vosso romance. Além disso, ele recusa-se a falar sobre o futuro.

He makes plans without you and doesn’t include you in his life the way he should. He doesn’t see you two as partners in crime.

Bem, deixem-me dizer-vos uma coisa; you’re not his final destination. Instead, he just sees you as one of the stops along the way.

Please, stop fooling yourself. He is not a commitment-phobe, he just doesn’t want to commit TO YOU.

Actually, this is the entire point. YOU are not the girl he takes seriously, he doesn’t plan his future with YOU and he doesn’t see YOU as his real partner.

Ele não está emocionalmente disponível

Quando o homem com quem namoramos e de quem gostamos não nos dá o tratamento que merecemos, em vez de vermos a verdade, arranjamos desculpas para ele.

Don’t worry; almost all women do this.

Bem, uma das justificações mais comuns na sua situação é alegada indisponibilidade emocional.

You’re a smart girl so it didn’t take you long to realize that your guy doesn’t see you as his forever person.

No entanto, em vez de se afastar, concluiu que ele precisa de tempo para derrubar os muros que cercam o seu coração.

You think he does love you but he doesn’t know how to show it the right way.

Talvez ele tenha sido prejudicado no passado, por isso agora tem medo de se abrir. Ele é incapaz de amar alguém da maneira correcta e este é o seu máximo.

Parece-me familiar, certo? Bem, tudo isto é um conto de fadas.

He is not emotionally unavailable. In fact, you’ll see that for yourself once he gives his wholehearted love to her.

All of a sudden, he’ll become everything you wanted him to be.

He won’t have trouble expressing his true feelings, he’ll be romantic and attentive and will go out of his way for the sake of that relationship.

Por isso, por favor, tirem os vossos óculos cor-de-rosa e deixem de arranjar desculpas para algo que está condenado ao fracasso.

Hey, nobody likes being a foster girlfriend. Let’s be real, this is not something you’ve dreamed about or how you saw your romantic future.

Nevertheless, I’m begging you not to see this as the end of the world. At least, now you know where you stand and you can do something about it.

O que nunca deve fazer nestas circunstâncias é culpar-se por ser uma namorada adotiva.

This is not your fault and it doesn’t make you any less worthy.

You two just didn’t click enough. He’s never seen you as ‘the one’ and your relationship has never been the ‘real deal’.

However, trust me when I tell you that he isn’t ‘the one’ for you either. You’ll understand that once you find your forever person.