De um amigo para outro: Mereces alguém melhor

I hate to see you like this, all torn up because of some guy who is unworthy of someone as special as you are. If you could see what I see, you would realize that he doesn’t deserve your time of day, let alone your heart.

I know it’s not easy to let go of him, even though deep down I know you feel you should. You invested so much time and energy into your relationship. You have given him all of you and he repaid you with all those tears rolling down your face.

Odeio que ele te dê um amor medíocre quando devias ter algo de outro mundo. Odeio que ele esteja sempre a deixar-te mais triste do que feliz. Odeio que cada vez que tens esperanças quando pensas que ele mudou, ele te falhe ainda mais. Acorda, minha querida, ele não é o homem certo para ti.

Love shouldn’t feel like torture. Love shouldn’t hurt. You shouldn’t settle for someone who gives you any less than you are giving him. Take a step back and see him for who he really is.

His words don’t match his actions. He says he loves you, he cares for you and that he would do anything to make you realize that. But he never does. He stays the same. His monologues and persuasion skills are getting better and better. Pay attention to what he does, not what he says. As suas palavras são baratas.

Ele está lá quando precisa de si, mas onde é que ele está quando você precisa dele? Ele sabe que o vai ouvir e dar-lhe conselhos úteis. Ele sabe que tem a sua ajuda quando tudo está a ir por água abaixo e a sua vida se torna uma completa confusão. Mas onde é que ele está quando você está a passar pela sua dor? Ocasionalmente, pode aparecer para salvar o dia, mas na maior parte das vezes, não está em lado nenhum.

He knows that you’ll be there no matter what, and ele está a tomar-te por garantida. No matter how bad his behavior gets, or how disrespectful and unreliable he is, he always counts on you being there. That’s why he sees no risk in hurting you more and more every time. Ele sabe que, seja como for, vai encontrar no seu coração a possibilidade de o perdoar. Por isso, ele está a repetir os mesmos velhos padrões vezes sem conta.

He made you cry more times that you can count. I know relationships are hard work and not everything is rainbows and butterflies, but it doesn’t have to be so hard and gloomy all the time. You used to be so happy and radiant all on your own. But I don’t see that anymore. He has emotionally drained you.

All of our conversations these days are revolving around what he has done this time. It’s always bad and you are upset and sad all the time. I wish you could realize that you are better off without him, that ele só está a fazer da sua vida um inferno. Acorda, minha querida, ele não é o homem certo para ti.

Mereces alguém melhor. You deserve a man who will wipe away all the tears from that beautiful face of yours and do his best to put a smile back on it. You deserve a man who will make it his life’s mission to build a happy relationship with you.

Mereces alguém altruísta. Someone who won’t put his needs in front of yours. Someone who will know how to give all of him in return. Someone who will provide you with the trust, respect, and love you are giving him. Someone who knows how to reciprocate and is grateful for all you are giving him. Someone who will never take you for granted.

Merece alguém que se mantenha fiel a todas as suas palavras. Someone who isn’t going to tell you one story one day and something completely different the next. Someone you can rely on. Someone honest and kind. Someone you can trust. Someone who will never look down on you and who will make you feel like és mais do que suficiente.

Mereces alguém que cuide de ti. Don’t get me wrong, I know you are not a baby and that you can take care of yourself, but I mean someone who will see all the burden you are carrying. Someone who will help you carry it and make it a little less heavy. Someone who will be there. Someone whose hug can heal you. Someone who will spoil and pamper you because he will see how tired you are and someone who loves nothing more than seeing you sparkling with joy.

Mereces alguém cujo coração seja tão grande como o teu. Alguém que ama com um amor tão terno que nunca pensaria em magoar-te. Alguém que seja genuinamente gentil e uma boa pessoa acima de tudo. Alguém com uma alma tão pura como a tua.

So, please wake up my dearest, the man you are holding on so tightly to is not the man for you. You wasted your precious time waiting for him to change, please don’t lose a second more. He will always stay the same. He will always find new ways to disappoint you. You deserve to be happy and radiant again. You deserve someone better.