11 Sinais de que ele está a manter as suas opções em aberto

Não falar de etiquetas tornou-se uma espécie de tendência nos dias que correm.

Pode dar-se o caso de estar a sair com uma pessoa há meses e ainda não saber se há exclusividade ou não.

That’s where assumptions kick in. You assume that if he is the only one you are seeing and you don’t need anybody else, that he feels and acts the same.

But without having “the talk”, you really don’t know if you are the only woman in his life. Don’t assume, and get to the bottom of things.

Verifique os sinais abaixo indicados e determine se ele está a manter as suas opções em aberto.

Keep in mind that these signs individually don’t mean much, but if he is ticking most of the boxes, you are probably not the only woman he is dating:

1. Ele retém-se

He is still keeping you at an arm’s length. He doesn’t seem too eager to open up and let you closer.

You mostly talk about you or some other topics that don’t include him or the two of you as a couple. Whatever you have, it won’t progress any further until he lets you in.

Ser capaz de partilhar e confiar em alguém é o que distingue uma verdadeira relação de um namoro.

Se se abriu com ele na esperança de que ele seguisse o seu exemplo, mas isso não a levou a lado nenhum, é provável que ele não seja tão a sério sobre siu como tu queres que ele seja.

2. Só envia textos

It’s easier to use texts, especially during the initial phases of dating when you are still getting to know one another.

Mas se este comportamento se mantiver e só receber algumas mensagens de texto aqui e ali, há algo que deve ser motivo de preocupação da sua parte.

Um homem que só gosta de si pegará no telefone e ligará para ouvir a sua voz ou fará uma videochamada para o ver de vez em quando.

It’s easier to bond this way and make more profound connections—that is if you want them.

3. Utiliza termos genéricos para descrever os seus planos

Of course, he’ll have other plans, and he won’t be glued to you 24/7. But pay attention to the way he explains his whereabouts.

More often than not, you have no clue what he is up to. He has “a family thing”, “something at work”, “some errands to run”, “something a friend needs help with”, etc.

Para além de ser vago sobre o seu paradeiro, nunca volta a contar-lhes mais tarde.

He never shares where he’s been, what he’s done or how it went. It makes you wonder, doesn’t it?

4. Tem o hábito de cancelar os planos à última da hora

Things happen. Fife is unpredictable, and it’s only natural that plans are going to get moved or canceled sometimes. Sometimes yes, but not most of the time.

If he is juggling a few women at once, it can be pretty hard to manage his schedule. That’s why he gets lost in all of it.

Preste atenção. Se os outros comportamentos dele parecerem um pouco estranhos, há definitivamente uma razão para se preocupar.

5. He doesn’t add you on his social media accounts

Pode descobrir muito sobre um homem se navegar pelas suas contas nas redes sociais.

That’s why a guy who is keeping his options open will try to leave you out of it. He will come up with some great and convincing story.

He might say he usually doesn’t add people he dates, that social media complicates things and creates jealousy or something down that lane.

The odds are he is trying to sell that story to other women, too, and it’s easier to date a few people at once when they have lesser chances of finding out about one another.

6. Nunca deixa o telemóvel sem vigilância

His phone has a better protection system than the Pentagon, and you wouldn’t be able to get in even if you wanted to.

No entanto, ele nunca deixou o telemóvel perto de si e saiu do quarto.

He also never reads his texts or answers his phone around you. He doesn’t want you to see or hear anything you shouldn’t.

He’s also not too eager to give you his phone if you need to use it for some reason. A guy with nothing to hide wouldn’t act shady in these situations.

You don’t have to know how to unlock his phone, but he will have no problem leaving it around, answering calls or reading texts when you are by his side.

7. Ele desaparece de vez em quando

Ele vai ser muito querido, atencioso e não a larga durante algum tempo, e depois vai desaparecer.

It won’t be forever. He’ll be back again, acting like nothing happened or having some lame excuse up his sleeve.

Este tipo de comportamento é inaceitável. Ele está a desrespeitá-la, a enganá-la e pode até ter algum miúda do lado. Só isso já é uma boa razão para o deixarmos.

8. Ele tem demasiadas amigas

Sure, he can have a few good female friends but they are all friends you know—or at least you will get to know—when things get a bit more serious.

But if he never talks about them, that’s a red flag right there—especially if you run into them and he introduces you as one more of his many friends. It’s more than obvious that something is off.

9. Things aren’t adding up

It’s just a matter of time before a man who multi-dates gets tangled up in his own web of lies.

Mesmo que ele dominou a mentira como uma das suas muitas aptidões, é natural que, a dada altura, cometa um deslize.

A primeira coisa que o vai desmascarar é o facto de ter todas estas versões diferentes da mesma história.

So one day he’ll talk about hanging out with his friends on Friday night, and if you ask him in a few days, he spent that same Friday night chilling at home watching movies.

10. Falar de compromissos é algo que ele evita habilmente

Ele é tão bom com as palavras e é capaz de transformar todas as situações para o beneficiar.

You might have even tried to have “the talk” with him, but he somehow managed to change the topic.

Ele também pode não o dizer diretamente, mas mencionará que não está interessado em nada sério neste momento.

He has a wild nature and a free spirit. He doesn’t want to complicate things. He needs time, etc.

These indirect things are pretty direct if you look at them closely. Don’t allow him to lead you on.

11. Your gut is telling you that something’s off

Quantas vezes acabou numa situação complicada por ter optado por ignorar o seu instinto? Demasiadas vezes, certo?

Don’t do it this time. If you think that something is off, talk to him directly.

Pergunte-lhe se é a única pessoa com quem ele anda a sair e se vocês são exclusivos ou não. A vida é demasiado curta para andar com rodeios e fazer jogos.

If you are not the only woman in his life as you thought you were, it’s time to wave him goodbye.