12 Sinais de que uma separação foi a melhor coisa a fazer (mesmo que você ainda sinta falta dele)

1. A sua autoestima está de volta. You’re back baby! You don’t feel lonely, and you don’t question every single thing you do.

Os seus pensamentos estão no sítio certo. Sente-se novamente como você mesmo. Não há pânico ou ansiedade.

2. You feel like you’re free. Pode estar ainda um pouco triste e talvez perdido.

Mas o sentimento geral que nos consome, para além de tudo o resto, é o sentimento de liberdade. Sabes que tens a tua antiga vida de volta.

3. It’s been a long time since you last devoted time to yourself. Quando acabamos com alguém, levantamo-nos e reinventamo-nos.

You try to find that something within you which you’ve lost. And then you realize it has been forever since you last did something nice for yourself.

4. You feel peace when you’re by yourself. Sure, it’s not all that peachy all the time. Loneliness is a big burden to bear, but at the same time, you sometimes feel like you’ve found your peace.

You feel lonely because you’re still hurt, and the wound is still fresh. But those moments when you feel happy about being alone are how you actually feel when you take away the sadness.

5. You know exactly what you want and where you’re headed. Tem possibilidades ilimitadas guardadas para o futuro.

Tem um objetivo claro e sabe que ninguém pode interferir com ele; ninguém o pode impedir de alcançar o que quer.

6. You don’t have to make compromises you don’t want to. Podes ver os programas de televisão de que gostas. Podes comer o que quiseres.

Há muitas coisas que estavam fora do alcance quando se estava numa relação e que agora estão disponíveis. Mas o mais importante é que essas coisas o façam feliz.

7. You’re laughing like you haven’t laughed in a long time. Laughter heals the soul, but while you were in a relationship, you didn’t laugh that much.

Laughing was replaced with bickering and yelling. Now that you are laughing again, you realize how much you’ve missed it.

8. A ideia de voltar a namorar faz-te entrar em pânico. Quando se acaba uma relação, há momentos de fraqueza em que se começa a pensar como seria se ainda estivessem juntos?

On the surface, that seems so much easier than going through the pain you’re feeling. But when you really start thinking about it, you start panicking because you remember all the bad things that happened.

Aqui está. Agora já sabes que acabar é o melhor.

9. Gosta da sua própria companhia. You don’t need people around you in order to be happy and feel good.

Before, you needed someone around you to enjoy yourself. Now you’d rather drink a cup of coffee all by yourself than putting up with someone else’s unnecessary presence.

10. You’re learning how to do things you know you wouldn’t have learned if you had stayed in that relationship.

You’re learning how to comfort yourself because you have no one by your side to make you feel better. You’re learning how to be happy without a man in your life. You’re learning how to be by yourself and love it!

11. You’re not afraid of change. You’re aware that it’s so much better to be scared about the future and feel a bit of discomfort because you know you’re growing than feel comfortable by staying in one and the same place.

12. You’ve gotten your own identity back. Quando estava numa relação, as pessoas olhavam para si como parte de outra pessoa.

És a tua própria pessoa, com os seus próprios interesses e a sua própria personalidade. Agora tens tudo isso de volta e nunca mais vais abdicar disso.