35 Micro tácticas que os narcisistas usam para controlar as suas vítimas
1. O narcisista ameaça-o para o intimidar. Quer que deixe de pensar por si próprio e que o ouça cegamente.
2. They are capable of going at you for putting up with someone’s ill-treatment, while at the same time, they disrespect you on a daily basis without thinking that it’s their problem.
It can never be their problem. It’s always someone else’s.
3. Fazem elogios suspeitos, que na maior parte das vezes têm mais o objetivo de soar como um insulto do que como um elogio.
4. They sabotage you because they can’t handle your success. In their world, they are the best, the smartest, and the prettiest; everyone else is worthless.
5. Criam uma imagem exterior perfeita de si próprios. Para um completo estranho, parecem impecáveis e bem-sucedidas.
6. They will go to all lengths just to keep the image they’ve built alive. If that means they have to crush someone to achieve it, they won’t think twice about it.
7. They will never initiate something. Kindly enough, they will let you tackle the problem and after you solve it, they’ll convince you that you did a lousy job and they could have done it so much better.
8. They don’t even think of you as a person, as an independent individual. They consider you an extension of themselves.
9. O medo é a sua principal arma. Usando o medo, eles têm controlo total sobre ti.
10. Whenever something is wrong, they blame you and tell you that you’re too emotional to handle life.
11. Vulnerability is not a plus; it’s a weakness in the eyes of every narcissist because they are wired differently.
12. A sua confiança não é falsa. Eles pensam verdadeiramente que são o melhor que se pode obter.
13. They will blow some past event out of proportion and convince you it happened just the way they told you, only you forgot it because you were ‘too emotional.’
14. They set traps for you on purpose so they can appear as your ‘savior’ when you fall.
15. They’ll hurt you on purpose so that they can use their carefully thought-out plan to ‘apologize’ – in other words, to win you over.
16. Nunca deixam passar a oportunidade de o humilhar publicamente.
17. Ameaçam partir ou levar as suas coisas.
18. Humilham-no sempre que podem e ainda se perguntam porque é que a sua confiança é tão baixa.
19. Não conseguem controlar as suas emoções porque não estão em contacto com elas.
20. They are always threatening to walk out on you because they want you to beg them to stay. They need to hear you need them and you can’t live without them.
21. One way to ensure they have complete control over you is to make sure you think you’re unlovable. They need you to think so little of yourself and that you thank God you have them in your life. Because according to your narcissist, you’re lucky anyone loves you really.
22. Eles abusar verbalmente you every time you don’t do what they want you to do.
23. Your entire relationship revolves around control. Narcissists need to have control. If they don’t, they are ready to emotionally destroy you to the point you can’t recognize yourself, just to get you to entertain their every whim.
24. If at any point of your relationship you sober up and try to find a way out, if you stand up to them, they won’t have it. Right after your rebellion, they will punish you.
25. Apanham-nos na sua teia e tornam quase impossível soltarmo-nos.
26. When it suits them, they show emotions and they give love, but when it doesn’t, they take it away, which is heartbreaking for anyone who isn’t a sociopath.
27. São responsáveis pelas finanças.
28. Estão sempre a investigar nas suas costas porque precisam de saber tudo o que se passa à sua volta.
29. Every decision you make, they will second-guess. It’s not because they don’t trust you, it’s because they want you to doubt yourself after a number of ‘you’re not capable of anything’ remarks.
30. Certificam-se de que sermos nós próprios é inaceitável. Querem mudar quem somos e esmagar a nossa autoestima para que comecemos a acreditar que temos de mudar, porque quem somos realmente não é suficientemente bom.
31. They constantly point out your flaws and they tell you right to your face that you need to change what they don’t like.
32. Every mistake you make will be used against you. It’s like you’re not allowed to make a mistake, while on the other hand, their mistakes don’t count because they will never admit to making them.
33. Se experimentar o tratamento silenciosoA partir do momento em que o seu filho é um homem de negócios, ele fará tudo para o provocar e para o fazer falar, de modo a poder dar a volta à situação.
34. Eles nunca o deixarão em paz porque precisam desta relação muito mais do que você.
You are their narcissistic supply, something they can’t live without.
Por isso, vão sugar-se de si, ao mesmo tempo que o pressionam a ir-se embora e tentam mantê-lo por perto.
35. Sadly, in the end, the good person ends up emotionally beaten while the bad guy moves on to the next victim, looking perfect in a stranger’s eyes.
