35 microtattiche che i narcisisti usano per controllare le loro vittime
1. Il narcisista vi minaccia per intimidirvi. Vuole che smettiate di pensare con la vostra testa e che lo ascoltiate ciecamente.
2. They are capable of going at you for putting up with someone’s ill-treatment, while at the same time, they disrespect you on a daily basis without thinking that it’s their problem.
It can never be their problem. It’s always someone else’s.
3. Fanno complimenti sospetti, che il più delle volte sono più simili a un insulto che a una lode.
4. They sabotage you because they can’t handle your success. In their world, they are the best, the smartest, and the prettiest; everyone else is worthless.
5. Creano un'immagine esterna perfetta di sé. A un perfetto estraneo, appaiono impeccabili e di successo.
6. They will go to all lengths just to keep the image they’ve built alive. If that means they have to crush someone to achieve it, they won’t think twice about it.
7. They will never initiate something. Kindly enough, they will let you tackle the problem and after you solve it, they’ll convince you that you did a lousy job and they could have done it so much better.
8. They don’t even think of you as a person, as an independent individual. They consider you an extension of themselves.
9. La paura è la loro arma principale. Usando la paura, hanno il controllo completo su di voi.
10. Whenever something is wrong, they blame you and tell you that you’re too emotional to handle life.
11. Vulnerability is not a plus; it’s a weakness in the eyes of every narcissist because they are wired differently.
12. La loro sicurezza non è falsa. Pensano davvero di essere il meglio che si possa avere.
13. They will blow some past event out of proportion and convince you it happened just the way they told you, only you forgot it because you were ‘too emotional.’
14. They set traps for you on purpose so they can appear as your ‘savior’ when you fall.
15. They’ll hurt you on purpose so that they can use their carefully thought-out plan to ‘apologize’ – in other words, to win you over.
16. Non perdono mai l'occasione di umiliarti pubblicamente.
17. Minacciano di distruggere o prendere le vostre cose.
18. Vi umiliano ogni volta che ne hanno l'occasione, eppure si chiedono perché la vostra fiducia sia così bassa.
19. Non riescono a controllare le proprie emozioni perché non sono in contatto con esse.
20. They are always threatening to walk out on you because they want you to beg them to stay. They need to hear you need them and you can’t live without them.
21. One way to ensure they have complete control over you is to make sure you think you’re unlovable. They need you to think so little of yourself and that you thank God you have them in your life. Because according to your narcissist, you’re lucky anyone loves you really.
22. Essi abusare verbalmente you every time you don’t do what they want you to do.
23. Your entire relationship revolves around control. Narcissists need to have control. If they don’t, they are ready to emotionally destroy you to the point you can’t recognize yourself, just to get you to entertain their every whim.
24. If at any point of your relationship you sober up and try to find a way out, if you stand up to them, they won’t have it. Right after your rebellion, they will punish you.
25. Vi catturano nella loro rete e vi rendono quasi impossibile liberarvi.
26. When it suits them, they show emotions and they give love, but when it doesn’t, they take it away, which is heartbreaking for anyone who isn’t a sociopath.
27. Sono responsabili delle finanze.
28. Indagano sempre alle vostre spalle perché hanno bisogno di sapere tutto ciò che accade intorno a loro.
29. Every decision you make, they will second-guess. It’s not because they don’t trust you, it’s because they want you to doubt yourself after a number of ‘you’re not capable of anything’ remarks.
30. Si assicurano che essere se stessi sia inaccettabile. Vogliono cambiare la vostra persona e distruggere la vostra autostima, in modo che iniziate a credere di dover cambiare, perché chi siete veramente non va bene.
31. They constantly point out your flaws and they tell you right to your face that you need to change what they don’t like.
32. Every mistake you make will be used against you. It’s like you’re not allowed to make a mistake, while on the other hand, their mistakes don’t count because they will never admit to making them.
33. Se si prova il trattamento silenziosoFaranno di tutto per provocarvi e per farvi parlare, in modo da poter ribaltare ancora una volta la situazione.
34. Non vi lasceranno mai soli perché hanno bisogno di questa relazione molto più di voi.
You are their narcissistic supply, something they can’t live without.
Per questo motivo, si nutriranno di voi, spingendovi contemporaneamente ad andarvene e cercando di tenervi con sé.
35. Sadly, in the end, the good person ends up emotionally beaten while the bad guy moves on to the next victim, looking perfect in a stranger’s eyes.
