4 coisas que ele está realmente a dizer-te quando diz que não está pronto para uma relação

Não há nada de errado em não querer uma relação. Não há nada de errado em preferir ser solteiro e descobrir a sua vida.

No entanto, conduzir alguém e dar-lhes falsas esperanças é terrível. Dizer à pessoa que gosta de si que não está preparado para uma relação neste momento e que as coisas acabarão por mudar é sorrateiro, mau e leva ao desgosto.

Well, this is exactly what numerous guys have been doing lately. Instead of giving you the real reason why they don’t want to make things official, they use this corny phrase that leaves you wondering where you stand.

I don’t want to stay faithful

One of the first reasons most men say they don’t want to label things is actually pretty simple and it lies in their need to screw around.

Quando um rapaz nos diz uma coisa destas, ele quer mesmo continuar a viver a sua vida de solteiro e quer continuar a ser um rapaz que fode.

However, being in this kind of relation with you doesn’t put any obligation on him.

As much as you don’t want to hear it, the truth is that if he keeps things casual, he doesn’t have the duty of being faithful to you.

Instead, he has all the freedom of the world to flirt with other girls – to text, talk, or even sleep with them. In fact, in this arrangement, he is allowed to have another parallel relationship besides yours.

And you know what the worst part is? The fact that you can’t confront him about any of it.

After all, the two of you aren’t official and he has the right to do whatever the hell he wants.

I’m waiting for someone more conveniente

Another meaning of the phrase “I’m not ready for a relationship” that is somehow brutal but doesn’t make it any less true.

Detesto ser eu a dizer-lhe isto, mas existe a possibilidade de este homem a ter apenas como plano de reserva, até que apareça uma rapariga que ele considere melhor para ele.

You see, it’s not that he isn’t ready for a relationship right now, he just isn’t ready for a relationship with you. And that is a huge difference.

Maybe he is hoping to get back with his ex or waiting for some girl who will meet his standards. The point is that he doesn’t see you as girlfriend material.

However, this doesn’t mean that you should question your worth just because he doesn’t see it. Instead of looking at this entire situation as something bad, observe it as his loss.

I’m incapable of loving

There are men who don’t have the capacity to love someone with their entire heart.

Homens que nunca conseguem comprometer-se completamente com uma mulher, independentemente da magnitude das emoções e do sacrifício que recebem dela.

Se é este o caso do seu homem, tem de saber que não há nada de errado consigo.

It doesn’t mean that you should continue trying to break through his armor shield or put a little more effort into convincing him that true love exists.

Ele é simplesmente emocionalmente indisponível e não há nada que possas fazer.

Besides, him telling you that he isn’t ready for a relationship NOW is nothing but a load of crap because a guy like this will never be ready for a committed, dedicated relationship.

I’m an immature brat

Outro grupo de homens que nunca terá o que é preciso para construir uma relação saudável é emocionalmente imaturo mama’s boys who refuse to grow up.

This type doesn’t have to necessarily be emotionally unavailable, he just wants to run away from every possible responsibility.

He’s telling you he doesn’t want a real relationship right now because he can’t man up and start acting like a grown ass man. He prefers living in an illusion that he is still young and has enough time to think about the future.

He thinks of a relationship as a cage that will limit his freedom and he doesn’t know how to be a part of a couple.

This guy doesn’t plan to marry or to start a family. Instead, he lives in the moment and you as his official girlfriend would just get in the way of his lifestyle.