5 maneiras à prova de bala para manter os narcisistas fora da sua vida

Deixe-me adivinhar. A última vez que se encontrou na teia de um narcisista manipulador, charmoso e controlador, prometeu a si próprio que seria a última vez. E estava a falar a sério.

Até que o próximo aconteceu.

Antes de se aperceber do que a atingiu e antes de se aperceber que se tinha apaixonado de novo exatamente pelo mesmo homem (só que num corpo diferente), era quase tarde demais. Conseguiste sair, mas por pouco. Mas não saiu sem uma cicatriz.

Uma cicatriz psicológica. Uma que te assombra sempre que pensas em apaixonar-se novamente.

One that hovers over your head every time you think you’ve met a good man. One that doesn’t let you let your guard down, because now, you’re done with that. It’s time for some new rules.

Os narcisistas fazem-nos isso.

They will suck you dry and once they got everything they need out of you, they leave you broken, shallow and fragile – barely even a person. Once your narcissist leaves you, you are but a shadow of your former self.

E se me perguntarem, já chega. Quanto tempo temos de sofrer e até onde é que eles podem ir nas suas perseguições maléficas? Infelizmente, haverá sempre um próximo cretino narcisista por aí, mas há formas de garantir que nunca mais se apaixona por ele!

Pode acreditar que é um íman para these manipulative and abusive control freaks, but I assure you – you’re not!

It feels that way because subconsciously you have a type. But once you realize that and start actively pursuing a completely different type of man, one that’s GOOD for you, it will be easy to see that life can actually be beautiful again.

So here are 5 killer ideas that will help you keep narcissists out of your life. And this time – for good!

1. Cuidado com os homens que exercem uma atração forte (quase magnética) sobre si desde o início

Sabe aquele tipo de química instantânea, forte, meio assustadora, meio emocionante que sente uma vez na lua azul com alguém? Uma que te faz querer saltar-lhe para cima ali mesmo e naquele momento?

Bem, da próxima vez que tiver esta rara sensação e sentir uma atração extremamente sedutora, fuja. Pare imediatamente e não actue de acordo com esse impulso. A atração que estes homens cruéis exercem sobre as mulheres é tóxica!

Almost impossible to resist… but if you nip it in the bud before it evolves further, you’re going to be okay. Don’t let his animalistic, magnetic vibe pull you one inch closer. That’s how it ALL starts.

2. Go for the polar opposite of who you’d normally consider dating

One way to get rid of narcissists is to change it up. And I mean, pull a 180. If you go for charming, self-assured, highly successful men who are smooth as hell, stop. Perhaps it’s time to consider giving the guy next door a chance.

Sabe, aquele que pode não ser o George Clooney e que pode não trabalhar numa firma de advogados de topo na cidade, mas que é gentil, empático e com intenções genuínas.

The one that always says “Hi” when he sees you and offers to help carry your groceries. One that walks your dog when you’re at work and who makes you feel calm and safe. Try him for a change, and see what happens.

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3. Find a guy who doesn’t conform, but rather paves his own way and ignores unimportant opinions

Go for a guy who isn’t afraid to go against the grain. Go for a guy who doesn’t care what others think as long as he knows he’s doing what’s right for him.

Find a man who can do his own thing and be proud of him for making a small difference. It’s so easy following in other people’s footsteps. But what’s NOT easy is paving your own path to success. Respect any man who is brave enough to stick out in a crowd. It’s not as easy as it may seem.

He might be successful, he might not. But he is damn well trying and at the end of the day, that’s all you can ask for. You live and you learn. And that’s his main motto in life.

4. Afasta-te dos tipos que te criticam subtilmente, mas que conseguem fazer com que pareçam construtivos

Nope, nope, and nope. You’re a grown-ass woman and if you wanted to hear his opinion on every little thing you do, you’d ask. I’m guessing you rarely do, so stop tolerating it!

You can dress however you choose, stay out for as long as you want, and pursue whatever passion makes you feel alive! Steer clear of guys who aren’t okay with that, and realize that you deserve somebody who will encourage you, NOT demean you.

However charming it may sound, it’s toxic and it’s only the beginning. So don’t let happen again and leave the minute you realize your every move is under a microscope. You’ll thank me later.

5. Escolher um homem com uma mentalidade e valores de vida semelhantes

Who has time to try to change anyone these days? If you’re with someone who is simply not what you’re looking for in the long run, leave. If your man is a narcissistic egomaniac who is trying to make you into someone you’re not, leave.

Find a guy who shares similar values. Find a guy you think would make a good father one day. Find a guy who appreciates the little things in life, and doesn’t sweat the small stuff. And trust me, you’ll know what I’m talking about once you meet that guy.

Don’t perder tempo on somebody who likes to play God. If you feel a weird vibe around him, that’s your gut telling you to flee. Trust it and move on. It’s not worth it staying with someone who only likes half of you, when there are tons of guys out there who would LOVE you in all of your entirety.