5 jogos mentais que os homens fazem com as mulheres antes de uma separação (e como lidar com eles)

Quando um homem nos deixa, todo o nosso mundo se desmorona. Sente-se rejeitada e sozinha.

We’ve all experienced that dreadful feeling and the healing process that comes after it.

Mas, o que aconteceria se pudesses estar um passo à frente do tipo que está prestes a partir o teu coração?

O que aconteceria se pudesse prever que ele a vai deixar?

Não haveria desgosto, nem mesmo se o amasse realmente. Porque, algures ao longo do tempo, iria reparar que ele está a fazer jogos mentais consigo para encontrar uma desculpa para a separação.

Provavelmente, ele é um cobarde fraco que não é homem suficiente para se impor e dizer na sua cara que quer acabar com a relação.

So, he reaches out for the most disgusting and the most cowardly means of getting out of the ‘mess’ he found himself in—he plays games with your mind, trying to convince you that you were the problem all along, so he can walk out clean-handed and not guilty.

What happens is that most women don’t even realize they were being abused in their relationship until it’s all over.

Depois, rebobinam tudo o que aconteceu e percebem que nunca tiveram culpa de nada do que estava a acontecer.

They were so in love with the man who used and abused them that they failed to see something wasn’t quite right. They failed to see that things shouldn’t have been the way they were.

Even if they noticed something was wrong, they wouldn’t admit it to themselves because the perfect bubble they were living in would burst.

Sometimes it’s easier just to ignore the truth than to face it and receive all the blows that were to come.

That’s why it’s important to look at your love life objectively. Set aside that you’re in love because love will blind you and you won’t be able to see things for what they are.

Maybe because you don’t want to, or you just can’t.

Há muitas maneiras diferentes de os homens fazerem jogos mentais com as mulheres. Como somos todos diferentes, as nossas acções também o são. Coisas diferentes afectam-nos, coisas diferentes magoam-nos.

Psicopatas emocionais e os homens que fazem todo o tipo de jogos com todas as pessoas como se fossem objectos e não seres humanos são suficientemente espertos para saberem a forma exacta de nos atingir, de bater onde mais nos dói.

These men do it because they want to break up with you and they want to stage it like it’s all your fault.

Aqui estão alguns dos jogos mentais que utilizam para conseguirem o que querem e deixarem a relação com um começo limpo.

Ele está a namoriscar com outras mulheres

There could be a lot of reasons why he is doing this. But, the most common ones are that he just wants your attention and wants you to be jealous—which is also not that healthy.

Yet there is even one bigger reason why he’s doing that.

Ele está a tentar enviar-lhe uma pista subtil de que em breve vai desistir de si e da vossa relação.

But the thing is if you ask him why he’s doing that, he won’t tell you straight up of course. He will probably lie and make himself the victim, so you feel sorry for him and leave him alone.

He’ll tell you that you don’t care for him, that he is feeling lonely, when the truth is, he’s had enough and will leave you any time soon.

And when he leaves you, you will feel like shit because you’ll think it was all your fault, that you should have loved him more.

Ele culpa-o

Ele fá-la-á sentir-se completamente inútil. Por muito que tente fazer com que a sua relação funcione, ele encontrará uma forma de se opor ao seu comportamento.

Ele fará com que te sintas culpado por tudo o que corre mal.

Mesmo quando não está de bom humor, mas tenta manter-se calma para o bem dele, ele vai provocá-la e provocá-la só para a fazer enlouquecer, pelo que, mais uma vez, ele pode ser a vítima e você o mau da fita.

He will do this every day because either he wants to break up with you or he wants you to break up with him, so he doesn’t have to be the one who pulls the plug on your relationship.

A melhor coisa que pode fazer nesta situação é ir nenhum contacto com ele e deixá-lo.

Even if it gives him the satisfaction of not breaking up with you but getting rid of you, it’s not worthy of your emotional breakdown.

Ele vai estar sempre a mentir-lhe

He’s probably even having an affair which is so see-through. You simply know that he’s cheating on you and that it is intentional.

He wants you to know because he’s preparing you for a breakup.

But, the screwed up part is that although he wants you to know that he no longer loves you, he will lie to justify his actions because once again, he doesn’t want to be the bad guy.

He will lie about where he’s been and with whom he’s been—even if you sense another woman’s scent on him. He will deny everything.

Don’t stick around to see what happens. Don’t give him another chance because he doesn’t deserve it and probably doesn’t want it either.

Don’t let him abuse you with his lying and making a complete fool out of you.

Nunca lhe mostre que essas mentiras transparentes a estão a afetar e acabe com tudo.

And if he asks the reason, which a mind playing psychopath like he will, just say, “because”. Don’t give him the satisfaction of seeing you hurt.

Ele vai iluminar-te com gás

This is the gold mine of manipulations. It’s the meanest and most effective mind playing there is.

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse in which the abuser manipulates situations repeatedly to make you think you’re going crazy.

Ele escolhe uma situação e diz uma coisa e faz outra completamente diferente.

And afterward, he’ll convince you that you’ve got all of it wrong and that he never said what you think he said (or did what you think he did).

É possível sair dessa situação escrevendo as coisas.

You won’t be able to write everything that happens in your life, but after some time, some situations are going to repeat themselves and when they do, write down what he said or promised and what he did in the end.

You’ll see that the problem is not you but him.

Ele está a brincar com a sua mente para que, depois de acabar consigo, tenha a desculpa de que você é completamente louca e que ele não teve outra escolha senão deixá-la.

He’s provoking you

Ele vai pressionar os seus botões para o irritar e depois usar essa raiva contra si.

Por muito paciente que seja, depois de ser constantemente provocado verbal e emocionalmente, acabará por ceder à pressão e explodir.

É isso que ele quer desde o início. Como já estão nesta relação há algum tempo, ele sabe exatamente o que a irrita e vai usá-lo contra si.

Quando enlouqueceres, ele vai fazer-se de vítima e dar a volta à situação.

Esta manipulação é o disfarce perfeito para uma separação, porque é impossível estar perto de si.

You’re mad all the time and you scream constantly.

When you look at it just from the surface, that’s true, but when you dig in more deeply, you’ll see that he planted that seed of mess and staged the whole situation to happen.

And all that just because he didn’t have enough courage to let you go like a man. He did it like an emotionally immature mama’s boyum simples cobarde.

You don’t deserve a coward, you deserve a real man.