5 juegos mentales que los tíos hacen a las mujeres antes de romper (y cómo afrontarlos)

Cuando un hombre te deja, todo tu mundo se desmorona. Te sientes rechazada y sola.

We’ve all experienced that dreadful feeling and the healing process that comes after it.

Pero, ¿qué pasaría si pudieras ir un paso por delante del chico que está a punto de romperte el corazón?

¿Qué pasaría si pudieras anticipar que te va a dejar?

No habría angustia, ni siquiera si le quisieras de verdad. Porque, en algún momento, te darías cuenta de que está jugando contigo para encontrar una excusa para la ruptura.

Probablemente sea un cobarde débil que no es lo suficientemente hombre como para aguantarse y decirte a la cara que quiere salir de la relación.

So, he reaches out for the most disgusting and the most cowardly means of getting out of the ‘mess’ he found himself in—he plays games with your mind, trying to convince you that you were the problem all along, so he can walk out clean-handed and not guilty.

What happens is that most women don’t even realize they were being abused in their relationship until it’s all over.

Entonces rebobinan todo lo que ha pasado y se dan cuenta de que nunca fue culpa suya ninguna de las cosas que estaban sucediendo.

They were so in love with the man who used and abused them that they failed to see something wasn’t quite right. They failed to see that things shouldn’t have been the way they were.

Even if they noticed something was wrong, they wouldn’t admit it to themselves because the perfect bubble they were living in would burst.

Sometimes it’s easier just to ignore the truth than to face it and receive all the blows that were to come.

That’s why it’s important to look at your love life objectively. Set aside that you’re in love because love will blind you and you won’t be able to see things for what they are.

Maybe because you don’t want to, or you just can’t.

Hay muchas maneras diferentes en que los hombres juegan juegos mentales con las mujeres. Como todos somos diferentes, también lo son nuestras acciones. Nos afectan cosas diferentes, nos hacen daño cosas diferentes.

Psicópatas emocionales y los hombres que juegan todo tipo de juegos con todas las personas como si fueran objetos y no seres humanos son lo suficientemente inteligentes como para saber la manera exacta de llegar a nosotras, de golpear donde más duele.

These men do it because they want to break up with you and they want to stage it like it’s all your fault.

Éstos son algunos de los juegos mentales que utilizan para conseguir lo que quieren y dejar la relación con las manos vacías.

Está flirteando con otras mujeres

There could be a lot of reasons why he is doing this. But, the most common ones are that he just wants your attention and wants you to be jealous—which is also not that healthy.

Yet there is even one bigger reason why he’s doing that.

Está tratando de enviarte una sutil pista de que pronto abandonará a ti y a vuestra relación.

But the thing is if you ask him why he’s doing that, he won’t tell you straight up of course. He will probably lie and make himself the victim, so you feel sorry for him and leave him alone.

He’ll tell you that you don’t care for him, that he is feeling lonely, when the truth is, he’s had enough and will leave you any time soon.

And when he leaves you, you will feel like shit because you’ll think it was all your fault, that you should have loved him more.

Te hace sentir culpable

Te hará sentir completamente inútil. Por mucho que intentes que vuestra relación funcione, él encontrará la manera de poner objeciones a tu comportamiento.

Te hará sentir culpable de todo lo que vaya mal.

Incluso cuando no estás de buen humor pero intentas mantener la compostura por su bien, te pinchará y provocará sólo para volverte loca, así que una vez más él podría ser la víctima y tú el malo.

He will do this every day because either he wants to break up with you or he wants you to break up with him, so he doesn’t have to be the one who pulls the plug on your relationship.

Lo mejor que puede hacer en esta situación es ir ningún contacto con él y dejarlo.

Even if it gives him the satisfaction of not breaking up with you but getting rid of you, it’s not worthy of your emotional breakdown.

Te mentirá todo el tiempo

He’s probably even having an affair which is so see-through. You simply know that he’s cheating on you and that it is intentional.

He wants you to know because he’s preparing you for a breakup.

But, the screwed up part is that although he wants you to know that he no longer loves you, he will lie to justify his actions because once again, he doesn’t want to be the bad guy.

He will lie about where he’s been and with whom he’s been—even if you sense another woman’s scent on him. He will deny everything.

Don’t stick around to see what happens. Don’t give him another chance because he doesn’t deserve it and probably doesn’t want it either.

Don’t let him abuse you with his lying and making a complete fool out of you.

Nunca le demuestres que esas mentiras transparentes te están afectando y termina con él.

And if he asks the reason, which a mind playing psychopath like he will, just say, “because”. Don’t give him the satisfaction of seeing you hurt.

Él le gaslight

This is the gold mine of manipulations. It’s the meanest and most effective mind playing there is.

Luz de gas is a form of emotional abuse in which the abuser manipulates situations repeatedly to make you think you’re going crazy.

Escogerá una situación y dirá una cosa y hará completamente otra.

And afterward, he’ll convince you that you’ve got all of it wrong and that he never said what you think he said (or did what you think he did).

Puedes salir de esa situación escribiendo las cosas.

You won’t be able to write everything that happens in your life, but after some time, some situations are going to repeat themselves and when they do, write down what he said or promised and what he did in the end.

You’ll see that the problem is not you but him.

Está jugando con tu mente para que, después de romper contigo, tenga la excusa de que estás completamente loca y no tuvo más remedio que dejarte.

He’s provoking you

Te presionará para que te enfades y luego usará ese enfado contra ti.

No importa lo paciente que seas, después de constantes empujones verbales y emocionales, te romperás bajo la presión y estallarás.

Eso es lo que quiere desde el principio. Como lleváis bastante tiempo en esta relación, sabe exactamente lo que te enfada y lo utilizará en tu contra.

Una vez que te vuelvas loca, él se hará la víctima y le dará la vuelta a las cosas.

Verás, esta manipulación es la tapadera perfecta para una ruptura porque eres tú el que es imposible de tener cerca.

You’re mad all the time and you scream constantly.

When you look at it just from the surface, that’s true, but when you dig in more deeply, you’ll see that he planted that seed of mess and staged the whole situation to happen.

And all that just because he didn’t have enough courage to let you go like a man. He did it like an emotionally immature mama’s boy...un viejo cobarde.

You don’t deserve a coward, you deserve a real man.