5 maneiras de lidar com o olhar errante do seu namorado

It’s like something encrypted in a man’s DNA that every time an attractive woman passes by, they have to check her out, top to bottom. Maybe not all men but most of them behave in this way.

I understand it’s a guy thing and something it’s OK to do when you are among your male friends but when you are in the presence of your girlfriend, giving some other women the eye is disrespectful, to say the least.

However, a wandering eye means something else entirely to the male mind. They don’t see what all the fuss is about.

To them, giving a random girl who crosses their path a once-over is natural and it doesn’t diminish their feelings toward their girlfriend and it doesn’t mean they are thinking about batota; for them it’s just a normal reaction. They often say, I’m in love but I’m not blind.”

On the other hand, women check men out too. But they do it in a more subtle way and in situations where their significant other is not present because they don’t want to be disrespectful, and because the female brain works differently.

Uma mulher apaixonada estará mais concentrada no seu parceiro do que em qualquer outra pessoa à sua volta.

So we can say that a wandering eye is one more major difference between the sexes, that is if men don’t cross the line.

Em todo o caso, isso incomoda as mulheres e elas podem precisar de algumas formas úteis de lidar com este tipo de situações:

Utilizar a psicologia inversa

The next time he ogles other women, do the same. Follow his lead. Say something along the lines of, “Wow she looks hot,” or, “Oh my God, look at that butt! Amazing!”

Behave like he would behave and then add some more flavor to it. He won’t know what hit him. You will turn his attention to you and he will perceive you as a confident woman who is not intimidated by other women.

Jogar com calma

Ele pode estar a tentar obter uma reação de ciúmes da sua parte ou talvez queira apenas mais atenção da sua parte. Pode estar a testá-la para ver se reage de alguma forma. Mantenha a calma e aja como se nada tivesse acontecido.

If he is really just trying to provoke jealousy, he will stop when he sees it isn’t working.

Dizer que não se sente à vontade

If his wandering eye is taking it too far, if it’s more than a glance and more like a stare and if you feel like he is crossing the line in any way, you have to react. Don’t start a fight that will lead you nowhere.

Calmly explain that his behavior is disrespectful and that he should put himself in your shoes. He wouldn’t be happy about you giving the once-over to some hot guy while he is right next to you, now would he?

If he continues regardless of your words, it’s best you leave. A man who doesn’t respect you or your feelings doesn’t deserve o seu tempo.

Se ele não tinha consciência do seu comportamento ou se o fez sem intenção de a magoar, pedirá desculpa e poderá seguir em frente.

Talvez ele precise da sua ajuda para quebrar o hábito

Se ele tem muitos amigos homens, eles podem ter começado a fazer isso por diversão, por isso olhavam para as raparigas quando passavam por elas e comentavam entre si.

Provavelmente, fizeram-no para parecerem fixes ou algo do género e, gradualmente, tornou-se um hábito. Fale com ele sobre isso e veja se ele quer mudar essa atitude, uma vez que isso a incomoda claramente.

Distraia-o com algo tão simples como tocar-lhe no braço ou passar-lhe os dedos pelo cabelo.

Tenta olhar para isto como algo normal

This is more about you than about him. It’s about changing the way you look at the whole situation.

Se tentar olhar para isso da perspetiva dele, verá que é um olhar sem sentido para uma mulher sem importância, aleatória mas bonita.

It’s in human nature to notice beauty around you. You also notice other men and women around you without giving it a second thought.

If his behavior isn’t exaggerated and it doesn’t cause you discomfort, try treating it as normal.