5 sinais de que ele está a pisar em ti (e como fazê-lo parar)

Sente que fica sempre com a parte mais curta do pau quando se trata de amor e de relações? Se assim for, então está na altura de mudar as coisas.

‘Love is blind’ literally which is why most of us allow things to get too far. We allow our significant others to treat us like doormats, like we are there to be at their convenience.

Because our feelings are so strong, we allow people we love to exploit our good natures, and sometimes we are not even aware of what’s happening.

You Say “Yes” Even If You don’t really want to

Não importa como te sentes, se trabalhaste toda a semana e queres relaxar aos fins-de-semana, se tens uma dor de cabeça ou simplesmente não te apetece fazer algo ou ir a algum lado, vais fazê-lo porque ele te pediu.

Deep down, you feel like you are going to lose him if you don’t do something he wants. You are being too compliant.

Como o fazer parar:

1TP5A primeira coisa que deve deixar de fazer é ser demasiado complacente.

You don’t have to say ‘yes’ to everything your partner says. It just puts you in a subordinate position, when in fact, you should be equals in every aspect of your relationship.

#Stop doing things you don’t like just to please him.

Compromise is OK, but it should go both ways. If he never makes an effort to do things that interest you, it’s high time to learn to say ‘NO’.

#Stop agir como se não tivesse vida

It sends the message that you have nothing better to do but wait for him. So, next time he calls you out of the blue at 10pm and asks if you can grab a drink, say, “Sorry, I am busy. You should have called sooner”. Respect your time. And make him respect it too.

Ele toma-o por garantido

Cancela mais os planos do que aparece. Demora horas ou dias a responder às suas mensagens ou a entrar em contacto consigo.

Tem o hábito de ser mal-educado. Ele tem sempre razão e a culpa é sempre sua. Ele menospreza-a. E tu deixas que ele o faça. Aconteça o que acontecer, tu estarás lá, sem fazer perguntas.

#Don’t be afraid to lose him; make him medo de o perder.

Ele consegue ver o seu medo e isso dá-lhe poder sobre si. Ele pensa que pode fazer tudo o que quiser e que tu ficarás lá.

Se lhe mostrar que é mais do que capaz de viver sem ele e que não tem medo de o perder, é muito provável que ele faça um esforço, dê o seu melhor e fique.

If he doesn’t, then you are better off, and don’t you doubt it for a second.

Está a dar-lhe benefícios de namorado mesmo que ele não seja seu namorado

You still haven’t had “the talk”, so you have no clue if you are exclusive or not. But you are ready for anything and everything for him. He is giving you crumbs while you are all in.

He says that labels don’t matter and that you should let it be. But chances are he is just stringing you along.

Como o fazer parar:

#Nothing will change if you don’t change your ways

It’s time to stand up for yourself, and stop being a doormat in your relationships. You shouldn’t be selfish either, but you should expect the goodness, love, and respect you give to be reciprocated.

Tens de exigir o respeito que mereces. Tens de te amar a ti próprio para seres amado de volta.

You don’t speak up

If you are letting things pass just to avoid fighting, you will just make things worse. You care so much for him, and you don’t want conflict.

He belittles you, calls you names, doesn’t do what he said he would or anything else that’s making you feel bad, and you keep silent because you think it’s a one-time thing. You think it will pass, but it doesn’t. It only repeats itself, and it gets worse.

Como o fazer parar:

#Don’t be afraid of confrontation

Sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself. Fighting is a normal part of every relationship, and it’s good for getting him to see your viewpoint and changing things that bother either of you.

#er abertura em relação aos seus sentimentos

Don’t keep them bottled up inside. It just hurts you both physically and mentally. Speak your mind; he can’t read your thoughts. You will get that freeing sensation when you put it all out in the open.

Permitem o desrespeito

If you allow everything to happen without your guidance, he will take advantage. Even if he doesn’t want to, it’s incorporated deep down in human nature, and most of the time, it prevails.

He disrespects you, and it doesn’t always have to be with words. In most cases. it’s done with actions. He says he can’t go out with you, but you see he went out with his friends instead. He says he’ll call but he doesn’t. He forgets your birthday, etc.

Como o fazer parar:

#ome as coisas nas suas próprias mãos

Faça o que tem a fazer, concentre-se nos seus objectivos, e sente-se a observar como ele, de repente, arranja o seu tempo para se adaptar à sua agenda. Como ele faz concessões e encontra formas de a fazer feliz.

A forma como ele o tratará é a forma como o ensinar a tratá-lo.

Lembre-se: se os sentimentos, esforços e investimentos feitos numa relação não forem correspondidos, está na relação errada.