6 coisas que os homens fazem que parecem obscuras, mas são realmente inofensivas

É fácil tornar-se demasiado desconfiado ou mesmo paranoico hoje em dia. Estamos habituados a tipos que são muito duvidosos.

So we search for red flags even when there aren’t any.

Vemos sinais de batota em cada esquina. Infelizmente, as nossas más experiências ou as experiências das pessoas que nos rodeiam ensinaram-nos a pensar assim.

Na maior parte das vezes, precipitamo-nos. Chegamos a conclusões com base em acções que podem muitas vezes ser enganadoras.

Sabotamos as nossas relações porque temos medo de ser enganados e, por isso, vemos ameaças em todo o lado.

Estas são as coisas que os homens fazem que parecem obscuras mas que são verdadeiramente inofensivas:

1. Ele demora muito tempo a responder a uma mensagem

Começará automaticamente a criar diferentes cenários. Estará ele com outra mulher? O que é que ele anda a fazer? Será que perdeu o interesse? Os pensamentos vão passar-lhe pela cabeça.

Na realidade, ele pode estar apenas a dormir. Pense nisso, os homens têm esta tendência para adormecer mais depressa do que se pode contar até três.

Se sabe que ele é assim, não precisa de se preocupar.

Also, not getting an immediate response might signify that he actually works for a living or has friends and family he talks to, so don’t give it too much thought.

2. Por vezes, tapa o telemóvel

This is usually a bad sign and not good at all if it happens all the time. But if it’s just sometimes, odds are he is watching something embarrassing and he is too ashamed to show you.

Also, he might be in the middle of a private conversation with one of his guy friends and he doesn’t want to share that friend’s business with you.

Even though this looks pretty bad, don’t overreact unless you believe you have a reason to. There is a huge difference between things that happen all the time and just sometimes.

3. Passas sempre tempo em tua casa e nunca na dele

Of course, your instincts are telling you that there is some shady business going on there. But it usually isn’t as shady as you think.

If you have been dating for a brief while, he is probably too embarrassed to say that he lives with his mother or a bunch of roommates because he can’t afford his own place or that he is messy as hell.

Tudo isto são coisas muito embaraçosas para um homem admitir. Por isso, depois de pensar que já passou tempo suficiente, peça-lhe abertamente que lhe diga porque é que nunca foi a casa dele.

4. Passa muito tempo com os seus amigos

Talvez até mais do que o faz consigo. Mas será que há realmente algo com que se preocupar?

Ele conhece-os há mais tempo do que a si, dá-lhes valor e é provavelmente muito sociável.

A única coisa com que se deve preocupar é se ele a cancela à última da hora ou se abandona um encontro porque tem algo melhor para fazer com os amigos.

That kind of behavior should never be tolerated. You should be at the top, not at the bottom, of his priority list. Don’t let him enganar-vos.

5. He hasn’t introduced you to ‘his people’

If he spends a lot of his time with his friends and you don’t know them yet, that doesn’t have to set alarm bells ringing. Ask yourself if you’ve been dating long enough to get to the phase of introductions.

The same goes for his family members; maybe he believes that the relationship is still in its beginning stages and he thinks it’s too soon.

Also, he might not have a good relationship with his family and doesn’t want to get you involved

But if enough time passes and he has not introduced you to his people, whether we’re talking about his friends or family, it’s time to talk to him because something is off and if he isn’t cheating, he just might not be ready for a serious relationship.

6. Ele nunca dorme em tua casa

Se todos os outros aspectos da vossa relação estiverem a funcionar, não há motivo para se preocupar. Se acabaram de fazer sexo, abraçaram-se um pouco e ele diz que vai para casa dormir, é provável que sim.

Men are very practical and they will go to sleep in their own bed because they are used to it or because it’s more convenient for them to get to work.

If you were to do the same it wouldn’t hurt them so they don’t see what all the fuss is about.

If you immediately start to think that he just replaced your bed with some other woman’s bed, you are probably wrong.

Even though most men like to brag about how many times they can have sex in one night, it’s just pure words. Anything more than once is usually too much for them.

All in all, think before you react. Nobody’s perfect and all of us have some behaviors that might look shady at first but are harmless in their essence.

Openly talk to him and see what his deal is. Don’t attack him for cheating or not being into you if you don’t know the whole story.

Rapazes bons e decentes out there shouldn’t pay for the sins of all the liars and cheaters of the world.