Material para marido: 15 traços de personalidade que mostram que ele é o tal
Dizem que há duas escolhas mais importantes que cada um de nós tem de fazer na vida: escolher uma carreira e escolher um parceiro conjugal.
Se fizer estas escolhas corretamente, tudo o resto será fácil. No entanto, se cometer um erro relativamente a estas duas coisas, prepare-se para um caminho difícil.
Nevertheless, how can you tell if a guy you’re dating would make a good husband and is he husband material?
Yes, you two are in love and you’re having a great time together, but what are the actual signs he is cut out to be your life-long romantic partner?
I’m sure these are the questions every young woman has faced at least once in her life.
And if this is something you can relate to, congratulations, because you’ve come to the right place – where all of your problems regarding the choice of your husband will be solved.
Just read the following signs and you’ll see all the qualities your future husband should have.
15 Qualidades de um bom marido Material
Vocês os dois são compatível
Even though many girls might think that butterflies and the sensation of being in love is the first thing they should pay attention to when it comes to finding the one you’ll spend the rest of your life with, the truth is actually quite different.
In fact, your and your partner’s compatibility should be the first factor.
No entanto, o truque é que, normalmente, a pessoa que mais o excita é não é o único para si.
Ironically, while opposites do attract the most, sadly, they often don’t last.
That’s exactly why you should focus on looking for a man who is as similar as you as possible.
That doesn’t mean that you two must be each other’s clones, but it is of crucial importance for you two to have a similar background, similar financial power, common hobbies and interests, and daily routines that don’t differ much.
Another thing you shouldn’t forget about is sexual compatibility.
Whether we like to admit it or not, sex is a huge part of every romantic relationship and if you two don’t get along in the bedroom, it’ll end up causing you many other troubles.
Ele aceita o teu verdadeiro eu
De acordo com muitos especialistas em encontros, o principal problema entre casais é o desejo de mudam uns aos outros.
Conhecemos uma pessoa e pensamos logo em todas as modificações que ela poderia fazer para se adaptar aos nossos padrões imaginários.
Em vez de se apaixonarem por uma pessoa real, as pessoas apaixonam-se pelo potencial.
Claro que este tipo de acordo nunca resulta, porque ninguém pode (ou deve) mudar a essência da sua personalidade para agradar a outra pessoa.
After all, even if you do your best to change at a given moment, it can’t last forever.
Sooner or later, when you start living together and when you get married, your true colors will rise to the surface and you’ll both realize that you don’t actually love the person sleeping next to you.
Well, when you meet a guy who is husband material, everything changes. Don’t get me wrong – this guy won’t think you’re perfect and he won’t like every single one of your traits.
No entanto, a diferença entre ele e todos os outros homens da sua vida é que este homem aceitará a sua verdadeira personalidade, sem qualquer desejo de a mudar. Ele verá as suas imperfeições e amá-la-á por elas.
É claro que ele o impulsionará e o inspirará a progredir sempre, a tornar-se melhor e a aperfeiçoar-se em todos os domínios.
Nevertheless, he’ll make you want to do it yourself; he won’t force you into any changes you’re not comfortable with.
Ele sabe o que quer da vida
When you’re looking for a man you can see yourself potentially spending the rest of your life with, you shouldn’t be just paying attention to the way he treats you.
Afinal de contas, este homem será muito mais do que alguém com quem namora. Existem algumas diferenças entre o material de marido e o material de material de namorado.
That is why you need to carefully observe the way he handles his own life because you’re about to become a part of it too.
Is he an immature boy who doesn’t have a clue about what he wants from life and what direction he is headed?
Ou é um verdadeiro, homem maduro quem tem objectivos e planos que lhe parecem apelativos?
Of course, nobody has it all figured out right away, so you shouldn’t expect from this man to have his entire life in perfect order.
However, it’s one thing if he’s working on achieving more and it is completely different if he’s the type of person who goes with the flow, doesn’t have a single worry on his mind, and lives his life day by day.
Sim, apaixonar-se por alguém que vive o momento é excitante no início. Nunca se sabe o que o amanhã nos pode trazer e viver assim durante algum tempo pode ser um verdadeiro refresco da nossa agenda preenchida e das obrigações de adultos.
Nevertheless, a man like this can only serve for some fun and he won’t be more than an adventure.
Por muito emocionante que seja ter este rapaz preso no corpo de um homem maduro ao seu lado, ele é tudo menos material de casamento.
Acredite em mim, por mais atraente e bonita que a irresponsabilidade dele possa ser agora, vai aborrecê-la muito no futuro.
É por isso que deve procurar um homem organizado que tenha tudo controlado, por mais aborrecido que possa parecer à primeira vista.
Os seus planos futuros incluem
When you meet your potential husband who thinks you’re marriage material as well, he will rarely use the first person singular when talking about the future.
In fact, you’ll always be included in all of his plans simply because he can’t picture his life from this moment on without you by his side.
I’m talking about small and big things here. For example, he won’t think about his next vacation without you, or at least without consulting you.
Also, if he has the opportunity to change careers and go abroad, he won’t accept the offer like you don’t exist.
Em vez disso, ele fará sempre o seu melhor para a integrar na sua vida, porque a vê como uma parte inevitável da mesma.
Este tipo de homem nunca se comporta como se fosse solteiro. Ele tem consciência de que faz parte de um casal, o que naturalmente traz algumas mudanças cruciais na sua vida.
Besides, it is apparent that he doesn’t plan on acabar consigo em breve.
Of course, nobody can guarantee that you two really will work out, but he’s definitely hoping that things will end up that way.
Queres as mesmas coisas
Outra caraterística crucial de um homem material marido é o facto de ele querer as mesmas coisas que você.
Se os dois tiverem visões do mundo, opiniões e atitudes semelhantes sobre todas as coisas importantes relacionadas com as relações, a família e a vida em geral, há uma hipótese de terem sucesso juntos.
It doesn’t matter if you guys aren’t fans of the same football team, have different tastes in music, or prefer different vacation destinations – these things aren’t as relevant in marriage as they might appear now.
However, huge problems will arise if you for example don’t want kids while his dream is to have a family, if you want to pursue your career but he wants to marry a stay-at-home wife, if you want to have a lot of savings while he wants to travel, if he wants to live in the suburbs but you can’t imagine yourself out of the city rush…
A lista é interminável, mas já se percebeu.
O que é preciso ter em conta é que, nas situações em que ocorrem este tipo de desacordos, ninguém tem razão e ninguém está errado.
You two just want different things from life and that is perfectly okay – you just can’t function together and, sadly, your relationship is likely to be condenado ao fracasso.
É por isso que é importante abordar estes temas atempadamente antes de dar grandes passos.
I know that, now when you’re crazy in love, each one of these topics seems resolvable, but trust me, when the time comes, it’ll bring you a lot of headache.
Tem uma comunicação saudável
Apesar de todo o amor que partilha com o seu parceiro, se os dois tiverem dificuldade em compreender-se um ao outro, tudo o resto é completamente inútil.
After all, what’s the point in spending the rest of your life beside someone you can’t seem to find common ground with?
É por isso que um homem material para o casamento deve ser alguém com quem se tenha uma comunicação saudável, acima de todas as outras coisas.
This doesn’t mean that you’ll never argue with this guy – that would be impossible – but even your fights will be productive and help your relationship grow.
Este é o homem que compreende o âmago do seu ser e nunca o julga. Alguém que te compreende só de olhar para ti e que conhece o fundo da tua personalidade.
The man you’re comfortable telling your deepest and darkest secrets to, the first person you call when you want to share every good and bad thing that happened to you, and someone you’re never ashamed in front of.
Mesmo quando os dois têm opiniões diferentes ou discordam de alguma coisa, não se rebaixam, insultam ou chamam nomes um ao outro.
Instead, both of you are putting in an effort to reach a compromise, grasp the other person’s point of view, and try and take a walk in their shoes before reaching a conclusion.
Whatever happens, you know that you’re both on the same side. It is always you against whatever problem you have and never one against the other.
Ele tem em consideração a sua opinião
Este homem nunca toma decisões importantes na vida sem a consultar primeiro, porque sabe que, seja o que for que faça, isso também a afectará.
It’s not that he doesn’t have a mind of his own or that he needs to ask your permission for every single thing, he simply isn’t selfish and always takes your opinions, desires, and feelings into consideration.
Seja o que for que este homem faça, pergunta-se como se sentirá e o que pensará sobre isso.
Besides, it is more than clear that he finds you intelligent and knows you always want what’s best for him, so he’ll always accept your advice with open hands.
Ele coloca-o em primeiro lugar
If a guy makes you feel like you’re always his segunda opção, puts everything and everyone in front of you, treats you like his last resort, calls you only when everyone else leaves him hanging – if you have to beg for crumbs of his attention in general – these are bulletproof signs he’s not husband material nor someone you should even keep in your life anymore.
However, the guy you ought to marry is completely the opposite. He always puts you in first place in his life and never fails to prove to you and to the rest of the world that you’re the most important person to him.
This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have a life outside of your relationship – he still has his own family, friends, hobbies, and career. Nevertheless, when it comes to you, all of this is a distant second.
After all, you’re the one who should be his life partner – the one he plans to grow old with.
He might love everyone around him, but you’re his significant other and the one who always has to come before anyone else, if you want to make this relationship work out.
Ele é digno de confiança
You can’t imagine being friends with someone you don’t trust, right? Well, imagine how it would feel to have a future husband who isn’t trustworthy or leal.
This is another one of the important characteristics of a good husband. I’m not talking about the fact that you can tell everything to this man only; I’m talking about other things as well.
The right person for you is someone who doesn’t give empty promises and false excuses, whose deeds match his words, who won’t leave you hanging, no matter what.
Someone you know you can trust your life with. Also, having a trustworthy husband means not doubting him and never having to waste time on checking whether everything he’s told you adds up.
When you meet this kind of guy, you’ll consider it foolish to check his social media accounts in search for other women or stalk him in any other way.
In fact, jealousy will be completely unnecessary because you’ll be certain in this man’s integrity and honesty.
Nevertheless, it is important for this trust to go vice versa too. You want someone who will consider your word sacred and won’t question your every move or word.
Vocês os dois são parceiros iguais
Um homem que faz o possível para estar acima da sua cara-metade, simplesmente porque é homem, é um problema em muitas relações.
There are guys who think that they’re entitled to much more than their other half and that they basically have the right to treat her the way they want.
No entanto, quando se conhece a pessoa certa, os dois tornam-se parceiros no crime, em todos os sentidos da palavra.
Para além de partilharem todos os deveres e obrigações, as vossas opiniões também têm o mesmo peso e nunca se depreciam mutuamente.
With the real person, you’re both completely equal because you’re a part of a team. Nobody is in charge and you both put equal amount of effort into making this relationship work.
Remember: A good man will never make you wonder why you’re not enough just because he, for example, is more educated than you or earns more than you do.
He won’t act like he is some Prince Charming you should be honored to have in your life, while for him, you’re easily replaceable.
O amor verdadeiro nunca é uma relação do tipo dominante-submissa (exceto se ambos concordarem que as coisas sejam assim no quarto).
Em vez disso, é uma parceria de vida com dois membros de importância idêntica.
Ele é bom com as finanças
Outra qualidade de um grande marido é a sua capacidade de lidar bem com as finanças.
Of course, this is something you’ll both deal with once you get married, but you don’t want to say “I do” to the man who can’t save a dime, regardless of how much money he earns.
Don’t get me wrong and think I’m advising you to go after a guy’s wealth, because becoming a gold digger is the last thing any woman should allow herself to be.
Even though you may find a man who isn’t in financially good standing at a given moment, you should definitely give him a shot if you see that he is trying hard to make some progress and knows how to make the best out of the current situation.
The last thing you need is a guy who doesn’t think about tomorrow and earns well, but has trouble meeting ends every month simply because he lives beyond his means.
Embora isto possa parecer irrelevante agora, este tipo pode facilmente transformar-se num homem que prefere gastar o seu ordenado semanal numa noite na discoteca ou num jantar chique do que pagar a renda.
Eu sei que ouvir falar de finanças mata a faísca e pode até pensar que isso é completamente sem importância quando amor verdadeiro is at stake, but trust me when I tell you that you and your potential husband or fiance have to have similar spending habits and views on money if you don’t want to spend your life arguing about this crucial issue.
Ele é o teu melhor amigo
Many young women make the same mistake when looking for a life partner: They think that it’s enough for a man to be a great husband is he’s a great lover and a great boyfriend.
No entanto, o que eles parecem esquecer é que este tipo tem de ser o seu melhor amigo também.
Of course, there are some topics you would rather discuss with your girlfriends and I’m not saying that this guy should be the only person you hang out and spend most of your free time with – that would make your relationship unhealthy.
Both of you should socialize with other people – nobody disputes that.
No entanto, um bom marido é também o seu amigo para toda a vida, para além de ser o seu parceiro emocional e a pessoa por quem tem sentimentos românticos.
Deve ser alguém com quem gostes de estar em silêncio, que te faça rir, que tenha a capacidade de te enxugar as lágrimas e em quem possas sempre confiar.
He is not that type of friend who nods his head at everything you say. Instead, he’s the person who gives you the truth as it is, even when it’s harsh and you’d rather avoid hearing it.
Someone who doesn’t have a problem with calling you out on your mistakes in order to make you a better person, but also a man who will only do so in private, while he’ll use every opportunity to praise you and have your back in front of others.
Este é o homem que conhece todos os pormenores da sua vida e se lembra de tudo o que a possa preocupar.
Ele cuida de si
When a man loves a woman, he’ll do everything in his power to protect her because he finds her well-being his duty.
Yes, you’re a strong girl and you don’t need a Prince Charming to come to your rescue but nevertheless, he’ll be there just in case.
This man won’t endanger your independence nor will he feel threatened by the fact that you can make it on your own.
No entanto, é bom saber que temos alguém que cuida de nós e com quem podemos contar em caso de emergência.
The man who has the potential of becoming your husband won’t mind helping you out with your chores or doing errands on your behalf.
De facto, ele ficará honrado por ver que he’s the one you turn to whenever you’re in trouble, regardless of whether it is the slightest inconvenience such as a flat tire, or some bigger problem you need his help with.
Para além de pensar no seu bem-estar e de dar o seu melhor para satisfazer as suas necessidades, este homem também se preocupa com a sua felicidade geral.
He is not a selfish jerk who doesn’t give a damn about your life as long as his is in perfect order.
Ele respeita-o
No matter what anyone’s trying to make you believe, there’s no such thing as true love without mutual respect.
Por isso, se o seu namorado ou noivo nunca a desrespeitar, é um dos sinais de que ele é alguém que pode planear um futuro com.
This is the guy who respects your time, family, friends, interests, personal boundaries, past, and most importantly – individuality.
Mesmo que ele deixe de a amar e acabem por se separar, ele nunca faria nada para a humilhar ou destruir a sua dignidade.
E não há nada mais importante do que isso.
This good man doesn’t think he’ll own you the moment you say “I do” and he will never try to control you in any way.
Ele tem uma enorme admiração pela mulher que és e por todo o esforço que fizeste para te tornares na pessoa que és hoje.
He isn’t someone who devalues you and makes you question your worth. In fact, he will always think of you as more than enough.
Besides, this guy is thankful for everything you’ve given him and invested in your relationship.
Ele aprecia todos os seus sacrifícios e energia e considera-se um homem de sorte por tê-lo ao seu lado.
Vocês dois amar de verdade um ao outro
Sim, todos sabemos que o amor nunca é suficiente para que um casamento dê certo. No entanto, é também um ingrediente crucial para uma relação feliz e duradoura.
That said, when I say that you and your potential marital partner have to love each other for things to work out, I’m not talking about butterflies and fireworks.
Sim, ter todas estas emoções é excitante e faz-nos sentir mais vivos do que nunca mas, infelizmente, raramente é uma base sólida para algo a longo prazo.
You see, when you’re looking for your potential husband, you need to look for someone who makes you calm and whose love feels like home.
Procure um homem que saiba que gosta de si incondicionalmente e que a ama da mesma forma, no seu melhor e no seu pior.
Don’t look for a guy you only feel incredible passion for. Instead, go after a guy who you can see yourself growing old next to.
Alguém quem o inspira para ser uma pessoa melhor todos os dias. Um homem a quem teriam orgulho em chamar pai dos vossos filhos.
