6 comportamentos numa relação que são mais prejudiciais do que a traição

When it comes to relationships, there are lots of tiny things that might seem insignificant at first but when seen as a whole, they’re what make that relationship run smoothly.

There isn’t just one thing or one trick to a long, stable relationship. It’s a whole bunch of little things and a lot of effort on both parts.

Now, cheating is definitely the most deadly sin of them all… there is rarely anything that hurts as much.

Mas quando se olha para o assunto de um ponto de vista diferente, há uma variedade de comportamentos dolorosos nas relações que põem em perigo a relação, lenta mas seguramente, para além de ser infiel ao seu parceiro.

Want to know exactly what I’m talking about here and see for yourself?

Here’s a list of some very dangerous patterns of behavior that have been the final nail in the coffin for many a relationship.

Ser desonesto e reservado

Há muitas razões para as pessoas guardarem segredos.

It could be to save face or to not hurt their partner’s feelings… but the thing is, if it’s going to hurt their feelings, don’t you think maybe you shouldn’t engage in that thing in the first place?

If you feel like there’s anything you need to keep from your partner, you’re not in uma relação de compromisso and sooner than later, it’s coming back to bite you in the ass.

Either you’re all in or your relationship is slowly going to fizzle out.

Amuado em silêncio

This can start out quietly… and slowly turn out into a huge thing that’s going to be killing you on the inside.

If there’s anything about your partner that is bothering you, either be upfront and honest about it, or deal with the fact that harboring negative emotions in o silêncio leva à ruína da relação!

Não existe uma terceira opção.

Negar qualquer tipo de afeto

Whichever way your partner and you express emotions to each other and show love, you need to be doing it regularly (and I’m not necessarily referring to sex here).

You may not be the touchy-feely type and that’s okay but if you can’t show your partner that they are loved and appreciated, they’re going to start questioning your commitment soon.

If you love them, show them. It’s really as simple as that.

Comunicação deficiente

You don’t have to be texting your SO all day every day but talking to each other is important to manter a vossa relação viva.

If there’s something on your mind, always share it with them. If there are problems, talk it out.

Nunca se deve guardar nada em garrafas, porque encontra sempre uma maneira de explodir na pior altura possível.

Devem ser capazes de comunicar sobre tudo, por mais desconfortável que seja.

If you can’t, it’s never going to work out. Keep in mind that communication is one of the key factors in a healthy relationship.

As long as you’re talking, there’s a way out of pretty much everything.

Recusa de compromisso

As you all know, compromise is a must when in a relationship. You’re not always going to be able to have it your way and that is just fine.

Há uma outra pessoa cujas necessidades são tão importantes como as suas e ser capaz de encontrar um ponto em comum é a chave para ir mais longe!

Keep in mind that you’re not the only one who has wants and needs and if you really love this person, it should come naturally to you to meet them halfway, as their happiness is equal to yours.

Permitir que as pequenas coisas se tornem grandes coisas

Doing the dishes, taking out the trash or folding the laundry, those are all everyday things that need to be done pretty much on a daily basis and there’s no question about that.

Se continuas a levar o teu parceiro para ser concedido and expect them to always be picking up the slack and to be okay with that, you’re sadly mistaken.

See, these little things might not seem like a big deal now… but wait a few months.

If you’re still not willing to share the household chores and your partner still has to remind you that’s it’s your job as well, they’re not going to put up with it much longer.

One day, they’re just going to be sick and tired of being taken advantage of and leave your ass.

You are equals and if you don’t treat your SO as such, they’re not going to be around for too long.