9 sinais de que ele está abusando de você mentalmente e por que ele está fazendo isso

Talvez pareça que a vossa relação funciona na perfeição. Mas há algumas coisas que podem estar a faltar.

Sure, he’s usually very nice, good to you and he loves you, but what about other aspects of your relationship? Does he support you?

Ele respeita-a? Por vezes, está a ser egoísta? Alguma vez pensaste nestas questões?

If he doesn’t respect you, it could be that he’s mentally abusing you. It doesn’t have to be on purpose. Some people are simply so selfish that they don’t even notice how they make others feel.

But if it’s on purpose, you should run away from him as far as you can.

Aqui estão alguns sinais que podem ajudá-lo a perceber se está ser vítima de abuso mental. If you notice any of them in your relationship, then it’s definitely time to end it.

He’s neglecting your needs

No matter whether you don’t have time to go out with him, you have to make it. You have to make time to go out with him because he wants to go out right now. And you always accept that.

You think that he’s very busy and that this is the only time you’ll get to see him this week. It might be that he’s busy, but that is not an excuse for him to make your time less valuable.

You might be busy as well, and he acts like he doesn’t care.

He acts like your time is not valuable at all and like the only thing that you need to do in your life is whatever he says. That’s a clear sign he’s mentally abusing you.

He doesn’t value anything you do

Anything you do for him is not good enough. It doesn’t matter if you cleared your schedule to help him with something.

He’s not satisfied with the way you did that and he’s going to resent you for it.

He’s going to act like you’re trying to sabotage the thing he needs to do and he will never even thank you.

When things end up well, he’ll act like he’s the one who did all the work. Sound familiar? Not only that he’s using you, but he’s also abusing you.

He makes you feel like it’s all your fault

It doesn’t matter if your relationship is not working out or that he’s cheated on you. He’ll somehow find a way to make it all your fault.

And he will even convince you that you’re the one who is responsible for everything, that you’re driving him away.

Se ele age assim, está a precisar de uma verdadeira ajuda profissional. E tu estás a precisar de algum tempo sozinha para poderes encontrar uma maneira de curar after what you’ve been through.

Começa frequentemente brigas

If he uses any excuse, no matter how small, to start a fight with you, that means he’s mentally abusing you.

Don’t let him use the “I have a bad temper” excuse because he’s not the Hulk.

The Hulk is not a real person and a bad temper like that can’t be justified in real life. He obviously has some issues he doesn’t know how to solve.

If he’s mad at someone else, you’ll end up hurting. Stop it, immediately.

He’s jealous

Don’t think that jealousy is cute and good for a relationship. It’s not. It’s very harmful because it could grow into something bigger.

Os seus ciúmes podem tornar-se venenosos. E quem sabe, ele pode tornar-se violento por causa dos seus ciúmes.

Ele toma decisões por si

The same way he’s neglecting your needs and time, he’s neglecting your opinions. He doesn’t even let you speak up for yourself.

He acts like “um homem de verdade” and makes decisions for you, so you don’t have to worry about anything. You have to do as he says.

That is the biggest sign you are being mentally abused and that you’re not being treated as a person.

You have your opinions, and if he’s not letting you express them, then he treats you as a slave.

Ele ignora os seus pedidos

You’ve asked him to change a million times, and he always said he will. But, he never kept his promise. Not even once.

Ele esquece as suas palavras num dia. Não importa o que lhe digas, as tuas palavras nunca o atingem.

He completely forgets what you were talking about. Nope, he’s not forgetful. His issue is much bigger than that.

Ele faz piadas à sua custa

This is a real sign he’s not treating you like a person. He thinks it’s funny to make fun of the woman he loves.

That’s not a way to treat her. Either he doesn’t love you at all, or he has no idea what love is.

Se alguma vez te sentiste humilhada por ele, então porque é que ainda estás com ele?

Ele pragueja contra ti

Não só está sempre a querer discutir consigo, como também lhe diz palavrões.

He yells and screams and treats you like you mean nothing to him. That is another sign he’s not treating you like a real person.

It’s like his life is much more valuable than yours. And how does that make you feel? Loved and respected? Don’t think so.

Porque é que ele é assim?

You might end up asking yourself this question, but you won’t find an answer to it. The answer to this question is somewhere in his past. Something made him act this way.

In his mind, there’s nothing wrong with him. This is the kind of behavior that he was practicing his whole life, and no one said that it was bad.

Nunca ninguém lhe disse que o seu comportamento não é normal. As pessoas aceitaram-no como ele é durante toda a sua vida.

Don’t be like those people. For the sake of your and his mental health, don’t accept it.

You don’t need someone to treat you like that, and he needs someone to show him how wrong his behavior is.

Se queres ser feliz e se te preocupas com ele, nem que seja só um bocadinho, tens de o deixar.

By leaving him, you’ll show him that not everyone is going to accept him and that he really needs to change in order to be loved by others.

Don’t try to heal him because you will fail. He will only be able to become a better person if he sees what’s wrong with him.

Se ele se aperceber disso por si próprio e procurar ajuda, então será salvo.