6 maneiras de o fazer arrepender-se de a ter tomado por garantida

Há uma coisa em que os narcisistas, os jogadores e todos os outros manipuladores são realmente bons: tomar as pessoas por garantidas.

It’s in their nature (most of the time) to think only about themselves and put their needs before others’.

It’s in their nature to expect you to keep giving all of yourself to them without doing anything in return.

The word reciprocity simply doesn’t exist in their dictionary (at least not in a boy’s dictionary). And contrary to them, women are the exact opposite.

Dar-lhes-íamos tudo o que tínhamos e ainda mais, privando-nos deliberadamente da felicidade, apenas para sermos dado por adquirido.

And that is why it’s time for you to take things into your own hands and make him regret not appreciating everything you’ve done for him!

It’s time for you to demand respect and make him regret not treating you the way you deserve and these 6 ways will help you achieve it.

6 maneiras de o fazer arrepender-se de a ter tomado como garantida

Reconhecer as suas tretas

When something pisses you off, just tell him! It’s as simple as that.

Não fique em silêncio ou ignore as suas más palavras ou acções, aconteça o que acontecer. As mulheres estiveram caladas durante demasiado tempo e agora é altura de começarem a falar!

Se sabe que o comportamento dele é egoísta e não é correto, diga-lhe.

Acknowledge his bullshit to his face so that he knows you’re not a fool and you will not stay indifferent to his mistreatment. You owe yourself that much.

Deixar de se esforçar para fazer coisas agradáveis para ele

And for God’s sake, stop going out of your way to make him happy when you see that he’s not trying to do the same for you.

Let him know that you’re no longer the same person who used to give all of yourself only to appease him.

When he sees that you’ve changed, he’ll realize that maybe it is because of him. Maybe you stopped doing things you were usually doing because you’re sick of him not appreciating it.

It’s the only way for him to realize the mistake of his selfish nature.

Definir regras

O mais importante é estabelecer regras e cumpri-las rigorosamente.

If you’re not happy with how he’s been treating you, set rules that will tell him you will no longer tolerate any of his bullshit.

When he sees that you have boundaries and you will not buy any of his crap anymore, he will know that it’s time to change or he will lose you.

Protege-te a ti própria e à tua felicidade, porque mereces ser a prioridade dele e não uma opção. Mereces ser tratada da mesma forma que tratas os outros.

Let him know that you’re perfectly fine without him

You need to make sure that he knows he’s not the center of the universe and your world doesn’t revolve around him.

Letting him know that you’re perfectly fine without him will make him realize that you have other priorities as well.

Divertir-se sem ele é a melhor coisa que pode fazer por si própria neste momento. Então, don’t waste your time descobrir o que fazer para que ele deixe de a tomar como garantida.

Vive a tua vida agora! E ele vai começar a temer que, se continuar a tratá-la assim, pode perder a melhor coisa que já teve.

Ter sempre dignidade

Nunca, nunca o persiga. Aconteça o que acontecer, saiba que a culpa não é sua e que não é você que deve sair do seu caminho e implorar pela atenção dele ou, pior ainda, pensar que deve mudar.

The only thing you should be doing is holding your head up high and not giving a damn about him until he starts giving you signs that he’s determined to change himself.

Ande com orgulho, fale com orgulho e recuse-se a receber qualquer coisa que não seja o que merece.

Let him know that if he doesn’t appreciate what he has, somebody else will

Give him some time to prove to you that he’s willing to make an effort and work on his treatment toward you.

And if he still doesn’t do anything about it, then let him know if he’s not ready to appreciate what he has, somebody else surely will.

If he’s not answering your calls, DO NOT call him again!

If he’s not being there for you when you need him most, DO NOT be there for him!

If he’s not making an effort, DO NOT wait a second longer.

Nunca deve permitir-se fazê-lo pensar que vai dançar ao som da música dele, aconteça o que acontecer.

Nunca te deves permitir ficar satisfeito com a mediocridade porque mereces a grandeza. Nunca te esqueças disso.