6 razões dolorosas pelas quais ele ainda te mantém em baixo

When I’m no amor, I can’t really hide it, and I just want to scream it from the rooftops!

That’s just how love affects me. I can’t change it, and frankly, I don’t want to! But for some people, it’s completely different.

There are people who prefer to keep their love life on the DL. They don’t like people knowing their business, and what’s theirs is only for them.

Hesitam em deixar que alguém se aproxime da sua relação, e as suas razões nem sempre são muito claras.

While it makes sense to a certain degree, it can also be hurtful to the other partner, as it makes them feel like they’re unworthy or not suficientemente bom to be mentioned in their partner’s circle of friends.

What could be the reason why he’s keeping you on the DL?

Is it because he’s just not sure if it’s going to last or is he for some reason ashamed?

Does he simply like to keep you all to himself or does he have a completely different reason you can’t even fathom?

Bem, há uma variedade de razões pelas quais os homens optam por manter as suas relações em suspenso.  

Keep reading to find out if your man has somebody on the side or if he’s simply trying to keep you all to himself for selfish but romantic reasons!

1. Um dos amigos dele pode ter um fraquinho por ti

This might be a legit reason why he’s not talking about you much. He is trying to deal with his buddy’s crush and avoid a potential disaster.

Crushes don’t have to mean much, and it doesn’t necessarily mean the guy has actual feelings for you.

But if he thinks you’re cute and gets anxious around you because he knows he shouldn’t like you, it’s kind of nice that o seu homem é manter as coisas separadas.

The crush probably won’t last long, they never do, and when it’s over, I’m sure he’ll be happy to have your relationship out in the open!

2. He’s just not that into you

Sei que é doloroso ouvir isto, mas às vezes temos de enfrentar a música.

Ele gosta de si o suficiente para continuar a vê-la, mas não o suficiente para a mencionar como parte da sua vida.

Honestly, you shouldn’t put up with that. Either he’s into you or he’s not. There’s no grey area here.

If he’s not ready to proudly show you off to his friends and family, there is somebody out there who’ll be thrilled to do so.

It’s up to you to decide how you want to be treated.

3. He isn’t ready to define the relationship

He’s clear that he likes spending time with you, and he wants to keep doing it, but he just doesn’t want to label it.

There is always an excuse as to why that’s the case, and you keep falling for it.

Guys who know what they want go after it and don’t risk losing it. And guys who don’t, have a tendency to stall and make excuses to keep things casual and avoid commitment.

If you don’t like this arrangement, you should let him know.

Tem o direito de saber exatamente onde se encontra with him and if you’re just wasting your time.

If he doesn’t want to indulge you, then you know exactly where you stand.

4. He’s just using you until somebody better comes along

He has certain needs, and he needs them met. And you’re the perfect thing for that.

Ele vê-a como alguém suficientemente bom para passar o tempo, mas não suficientemente bom para lhe chamar namorada.

He probably checks out every hot piece of ass that walks by and doesn’t even hide his reaction when he sees something he likes.

He’s disrespectful, and his treatment of you is a low blow. You’re not just an object of his desire—you’re a human being with feelings!

My advice is leave him ASAP. You’re more than just a body to pass time with. Show him what he’s missing by leaving him looking better than ever.

When he realizes what he’s losing, it will be too late, and you will be too far to care.

5. He wants people to think he’s single

Ele gosta de namoriscar e gosta da atenção que as mulheres lhe dão.

And if he makes himself officially off the market, that means the attention stops, here’s nobody trying to win him over, and he just can’t have that.

Este é um homem com sérios problemas de ego. Ele precisa da validação de várias mulheres para se sentir como um homem de verdade.

One woman clearly isn’t enough, but he still needs you to fulfil his  needs. He just needs to keep it on the DL.

He has you waiting for him any time he needs you for sex, and then he’s off to his pretend life where he plays a single dude dying to get the attention he craves.

Only it’s not fake, and he needs it to stroke his ego. That’s just messed up, and you need to leave this egomaniac like ontem.

6. Os amigos dele são demasiado críticos

He has some seriously outspoken and opinionated friends, and he doesn’t want to let them talk badly about you.

It doesn’t have to mean that they actually would, but it’s very likely.

His friends’ opinions clearly matter a lot to him, and he can’t have them talk shit about you and then keep being torn between you and them.

So it’s easier keeping you as far away from each other as possible by keeping you on the DL.

While this isn’t the worst thing in the world on his part, it still sucks not being able to get to know his friends and be an actual part of his world.

Esconder-se é infantil e uma total perda de tempo. Podes escolher como queres lidar com isto, mas, por favor, coloca-te em primeiro lugar, seja qual for a tua decisão.