6 dolorosas razones por las que te sigue ocultando cosas

When I’m enamorado, I can’t really hide it, and I just want to scream it from the rooftops!

That’s just how love affects me. I can’t change it, and frankly, I don’t want to! But for some people, it’s completely different.

There are people who prefer to keep their love life on the DL. They don’t like people knowing their business, and what’s theirs is only for them.

Dudan en dejar que alguien se acerque a su relación, y su razonamiento no siempre está del todo claro.

While it makes sense to a certain degree, it can also be hurtful to the other partner, as it makes them feel like they’re unworthy or not suficientemente bueno to be mentioned in their partner’s circle of friends.

What could be the reason why he’s keeping you on the DL?

Is it because he’s just not sure if it’s going to last or is he for some reason ashamed?

Does he simply like to keep you all to himself or does he have a completely different reason you can’t even fathom?

Bueno, hay una variedad de razones por las que los hombres eligen mantener sus relaciones en el DL.  

Keep reading to find out if your man has somebody on the side or if he’s simply trying to keep you all to himself for selfish but romantic reasons!

1. Uno de sus amigos podría estar enamorado de ti.

This might be a legit reason why he’s not talking about you much. He is trying to deal with his buddy’s crush and avoid a potential disaster.

Crushes don’t have to mean much, and it doesn’t necessarily mean the guy has actual feelings for you.

But if he thinks you’re cute and gets anxious around you because he knows he shouldn’t like you, it’s kind of nice that tu hombre es mantener las cosas separadas.

The crush probably won’t last long, they never do, and when it’s over, I’m sure he’ll be happy to have your relationship out in the open!

2. He’s just not that into you

Sé que es doloroso escuchar esto, pero a veces, simplemente tienes que enfrentarte a la música.

Le gustas lo suficiente como para seguir viéndote pero no lo suficiente como para mencionarte realmente como parte de su vida.

Honestly, you shouldn’t put up with that. Either he’s into you or he’s not. There’s no grey area here.

If he’s not ready to proudly show you off to his friends and family, there is somebody out there who’ll be thrilled to do so.

It’s up to you to decide how you want to be treated.

3. He isn’t ready to define the relationship

He’s clear that he likes spending time with you, and he wants to keep doing it, but he just doesn’t want to label it.

There is always an excuse as to why that’s the case, and you keep falling for it.

Guys who know what they want go after it and don’t risk losing it. And guys who don’t, have a tendency to stall and make excuses to keep things casual and avoid commitment.

If you don’t like this arrangement, you should let him know.

Tiene derecho a saber exactamente dónde estás with him and if you’re just wasting your time.

If he doesn’t want to indulge you, then you know exactly where you stand.

4. He’s just using you until somebody better comes along

He has certain needs, and he needs them met. And you’re the perfect thing for that.

Te ve como alguien lo suficientemente buena para pasar el rato, pero no lo suficiente como para llamarte novia.

He probably checks out every hot piece of ass that walks by and doesn’t even hide his reaction when he sees something he likes.

He’s disrespectful, and his treatment of you is a low blow. You’re not just an object of his desire—you’re a human being with feelings!

My advice is leave him ASAP. You’re more than just a body to pass time with. Show him what he’s missing by leaving him looking better than ever.

When he realizes what he’s losing, it will be too late, and you will be too far to care.

5. He wants people to think he’s single

Le gusta ligar y le gusta la atención que le prestan las mujeres.

And if he makes himself officially off the market, that means the attention stops, here’s nobody trying to win him over, and he just can’t have that.

Este es un hombre con serios problemas de ego. Necesita la validación de múltiples mujeres para sentirse como un hombre de verdad.

One woman clearly isn’t enough, but he still needs you to fulfil his  needs. He just needs to keep it on the DL.

He has you waiting for him any time he needs you for sex, and then he’s off to his pretend life where he plays a single dude dying to get the attention he craves.

Only it’s not fake, and he needs it to stroke his ego. That’s just messed up, and you need to leave this egomaniac like ayer.

6. Sus amigos son demasiado críticos

He has some seriously outspoken and opinionated friends, and he doesn’t want to let them talk badly about you.

It doesn’t have to mean that they actually would, but it’s very likely.

His friends’ opinions clearly matter a lot to him, and he can’t have them talk shit about you and then keep being torn between you and them.

So it’s easier keeping you as far away from each other as possible by keeping you on the DL.

While this isn’t the worst thing in the world on his part, it still sucks not being able to get to know his friends and be an actual part of his world.

Esconderte es infantil y una pérdida de tiempo. Puedes elegir cómo quieres manejar esto, pero por favor ponte en primer lugar decidas lo que decidas.