6 razões pelas quais nunca se deve aceitar um traidor de volta
It’s so hard to find a faithful partner because it’s easier to cheat and hope the other one doesn’t find out than to talk to your significant other and tell them you are not happy or that you have a problem and you want to solve it.
A maioria dos meus amigos já foi traída pelo menos uma vez na vida, que eles saibam.
And I always told them the same thing: “You can forgive him, but things are never going to be the same.”
And it’s true. You will never be able to forget what he did to you.
Every time he touches you and kisses you, you’ll know that he touched and kissed her, too. You’ll know that you weren’t the only one.
Living with that burden is not easy, and no matter how sorry he was, he couldn’t be sorry enough.
Não há absolutamente nenhuma desculpa que possa justificar as suas acções. E o que algumas mulheres fazem depois desta traição final é aceitar o seu rabo de volta.
They do it because they love him and despite the horrible thing he has done, they still didn’t stop loving him.
But, don’t do that mistake because things are never going to be the same. Your love for him will change and it will fade.
Eis as razões pelas quais nunca se deve aceitar um traidor de volta:
1. He doesn’t love you enough
I know this is hard to hear, but it’s true. If he loved you the way you deserve, he wouldn’t have cheated on you.
It wouldn’t even have crossed his mind because you would have been more than enough. This way, he offended you and showed you he doesn’t respect you.
That is not love. Don’t fall for the mind game of convincing you that it’s your fault because you didn’t give him enough attention or you didn’t fulfil his needs.
There is a cure for that and it’s called ‘communication’. Too bad for him for not trying it sooner—now it’s too late.
2. Ele voltará a fazê-lo
Se ficar com ele, ele acreditará inconscientemente que o que fez não é assim tão mau porque o perdoou.
A sua mentalidade vai mudar e ele vai começar a fazer coisas que provavelmente te vão magoar porque lhe mostraste que consegues ultrapassar coisas como esta.
That’s why he will probably do it again. He will cheat on you and turn you into an emotional wreck because he knows he can. He knows you love him and you will get over things which you wouldn’t normally.
3. Ele envergonhou-te
When he chose to cheat on you, he did it willingly and on purpose—which means that he hurt you on purpose.
His deed showed that he doesn’t respect you and maybe even thinks that you are too dumb to find out he was cheating on you.
He didn’t care what other people think. He didn’t care that others might have known of his infidelity and they laughed behind your back, or felt sorry for you, but no one ever had the guts to say it to your face.
He didn’t care for any of that. He embarrassed you and moved on with his life. Do you want to live like the woman who was played for a fool and took him back?
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4. Nunca o esquecerás
Ele pode ser o teu maior amor, pode ser o teu mundo, mas também pode ser o tipo que te traiu.
Ele será o tipo que traiu a tua confiança, que agiu nas tuas costas e que te fez passar por parvo. Isso é algo que nunca esquecerás.
You can try, you can pretend, but the moment he goes out and doesn’t text you back, you will be wondering if he is with another woman again.
Vais lembrar-te de tudo o que ele te fez. Tal como te lembras de quando ficaste tão bêbada que caíste no bar.
It wasn’t your proudest moment, but you will remember it forever. You will remember him cheating on you forever and it will bother you every minute of every day.
5. Não há mais confiança
His act only shows he didn’t give a shit about you. He was too selfish to take your feelings into consideration. It’s not like he didn’t have a choice.
Tem sempre uma escolha e ele escolheu para carimbar no seu coração and break it. He chose to cheat on you—he didn’t think twice about it.
How can you be sure he won’t do it again? How can you be sure when he goes somewhere that he is not cheating on you again. You can’t. You know what they say, “Once a cheater, always a cheater.”
6. Mereces mais
If a guy betrays your trust and does something like this to you, let’s face it—he doesn’t deserve you.
Então, porque é que perderia o seu tempo com alguém assim? Por que razão perderia o seu tempo a tentar torná-lo melhor, a tentar trazê-lo para o caminho certo?
He will never change and he chose it to be like that. If he had cared, he wouldn’t have cheated.
Esse homem não vale o teu esforço nem as tuas lágrimas. Há milhões de outras pessoas que a manteriam segura nos seus braços, protegendo-a de tudo. Nunca lhes passaria pela cabeça magoar-te da forma que ele fez.
Don’t waste another minute of your life on a cheater because if he did it once, he will do it again. Period.
