7 razões reais para não conheceres os pais dele (ainda)

Há já algum tempo que está a divertir-se muito com o seu novo namorado e tudo parece idílico.

You always spend as much time as possible together and you’re always being honest with each other.

You’ve also met his friends and your girls are literally jealous of your relação perfeita.

But there is one thing that still worries you: you haven’t met his parents.

He’s surely talked to you about them, but you still haven’t actually met them.

You feel like something’s just not right (especially if he’s already met your family), but it is really awkward to ask why he doesn’t want you to meet his family as well.

Should you be alarmed and start suspecting his true intentions? Maybe (or maybe not). Here are 7 real reasons why you haven’t met his parents (yet)!

1. He’s not sure about your feelings

You might have acted a little bit hot and cold for some time and now he’s not really sure about your feelings.

So, the main reason why he hasn’t introduced you to his parents yet is because he’s waiting to be sure of your affections.

Afinal de contas, conhecer os pais é um grande passo para a vossa relação e se mantiverem enviando-lhe sinais contraditóriosele só vai ficar confuso e prolongar a situação.

Nessa situação, a única coisa que precisa de fazer é assegurar-lhe o seu afeto por ele.

2. Your relationship isn’t that serious yet

Is your relationship serious or is it just a roller coaster? No matter how much time you’ve spent together so far, perhaps your relationship needs more time to reach the level of being called serious.

Some couples need more time to develop a healthy, stable relationship and perhaps that’s the real reason why he hasn’t introduced you to his family yet.

Se a sua relação está cheia de cenários de altos e baixos e depois de conciliações, isso significa que não é estável e precisa de mais tempo para atingir o seu potencial máximo.

If that is the case, you shouldn’t worry about it because I’m sure that with time, everything will fall into place.

3. He’s afraid things will change

Muitos rapazes têm medo que as coisas mudem na sua relação quando a apresentam aos seus pais.

Eles pensam que a mulher espera imediatamente que eles fazer a pergunta e levar a sua relação a outro nível.

So, he might be afraid that you will become impatient in the relationship and expect him to do some things he’s not really ready for yet.

And that’s one of the possible reasons why he still hesitates to introduce you to his family.

He wants to keep things as they are and once he becomes sure that he needn’t worry about things changing, he will definitely ask you to meet his parents and close ones.

4. He still hasn’t gotten over his past relationship

Talvez os pais precisem de mais tempo para processar o que aconteceu com a sua anterior relação.

If they’ve met his previous girlfriend, the chances are they still haven’t gotten over the outcome of his past relationship.

E é por isso que precisam de mais tempo para passar por tudo isso e o seu homem sabe-o muito bem, mas é demasiado embaraçoso para ele admiti-lo.

But, you shouldn’t worry about it at all. With time, they will meet you and the moment they see you, they will instantly forget everything about his previous girlfriend (I can guarantee you that).

5. He’s planning on breaking up with you

Sadly, sometimes the real reason why he hasn’t introduced you to his family is because he’s actually planning on breaking up with you, so he doesn’t see the point of you meeting them.

You will know that this is the case if you notice some red flags in your relationship, such as his constant absence, peculiar behavior, no intimacy, or if he tells you that something’s not right.

But, don’t be alarmed just yet. The best way to find it out is to simply ask him what the hell is going on and once you know for sure, you can act accordingly.

Ver também: 7 sinais de alerta a que se deve estar atento numa nova relação

6. He’s embarrassed by them (or you)

Well, not everyone’s parents are gangsta cool like Robert de Niro and that may be the reason why he doesn’t want you to meet them.

Ele pode ter vergonha dos pais por várias razões, o que o impede de a apresentar a eles.

Or, he might be embarrassed by you. He might be afraid of their parents’ reaction once they meet you if you’re not “according to their standards” or if you’re not selective with your words, which may be a real issue.

If the former is the case, you shouldn’t really worry about it. But, if it’s the latter, you can always work on yourself and improve things in no time.

7. He isn’t that close to his family

Perhaps he isn’t really that close to his family or they live far away from him, which means he himself rarely sees them.

If he’s not that connected with them, he won’t really care about you meeting them, which is nothing you should be concerned about.

When the time comes, I’m sure he will want you to meet them, but for now he’s okay with things as they are.

And that is why you should be chilled about it as well. After all, it is him that you’re in a relationship with and meeting his parents shouldn’t be a prerequisite to your happiness.