7 sinais subtis de que a sua relação carece de apoio emocional

O seu namorado apoia-a emocionalmente? Sente que falta alguma coisa na sua relação?

Há algumas coisas fundamentais que são cruciais para estabelecer uma relação feliz e amorosa. Alguns deles são a intimidade física, a confiança, o esforço constante e também o apoio emocional.

De alguma forma, temos tendência a prestar mais atenção aos seus esforços do que ao aspeto emocional e acabamos por nos sentir infelizes sem saber a verdadeira razão.

Emotional support in a relationship is like a fuel for a car. Without it, you you’re stuck in the middle of the road without any promise that you’ll move forward anytime soon.

Se o seu parceiro é emocionalmente retraídosignifica que toda a bagagem da sua vida pessoal e das suas relações recai sobre os seus ombros.

It means your partner is not there to help you overcome your obstacles and he’s not there to fight for your relationship either.

And sometimes these signs of the lack of emotional support are subtle, you can’t really recognize them and decipher the real problem behind the situation you’re in. But, don’t worry.

Aqui está a lista definitiva de sinais subtis de falta de apoio emocional na sua relação!

Ele culpa-a constantemente por ter reagido de forma exagerada

When something happens, instead of listening to you and trying to be supportive, he immediately tells you that you’re just overreacting.

By doing this, he’s downplaying the importance of your views and problems you’re going through.

He’s not willing to even try to understand what is going on and he immediately switches to his defense mode called “blaming you for overreacting”.

To him, it’s easier to tell you that you’re imagining things than to sit next to you and try to find a solution to your problem or just listen to you until you start feeling better about it.

If he’s not ready to do these things, you know that your relationship lacks emotional support and isn’t healthy.

You don’t deserve to be blamed for overreacting when you know that this is not the case.

Mereces alguém que esteja lá para ti, alguém que esteja pronto para ser um homem de verdade e demonstrá-lo através das suas acções.

Ele não dá intimidade física

Quantas vezes por dia é que ele te abraça, te dá a mão ou te beija na testa?

Can’t you remember the last time he did something really cute for you that showed his ultimate affection in terms of physical intimacy?

If this is the case, then you know he’s not being emotionally supportive at all. In fact, he’s only thinking about himself and what he’s interested in.

If he’s withholding physical intimacy, it means he’s not able or not even bothered to shower you with affection in the form of sweet gestures and other things that happen in every healthy relationship.

He doesn’t challenge you

É que nem todo o tipo de apoio emocional é positivo. Por vezes, precisamos de outro tipo de apoio que nos desafie e nos ajude a tornarmo-nos pessoas melhores.

If he’s not challenging you, it means he’s not interested in helping you reach your full potential in the relationship and life in general.

If he just turns a blind eye to everything you say to him (even though he knows that you’re not being right about it), he’s deliberately deciding not to open your eyes and help you see things differently.

E a chave para qualquer relação bem sucedida é desafiarem-se mutuamente e trazerem novas perspectivas que enriquecerão a vossa relação e as vossas vidas em geral.

Ele não mostra interesse nos seus objectivos

Does he ever show support and that he’s genuinely interested in your dreams, goals, and achievements?

If he’s totally oblivious to these, you know that he’s being emotionally unsupportive.

Your goals and dreams are a part of your life and if he’s unwilling to be a part of it, too, it means he’s not interested in helping you achieve them or support you through your struggles.

It means he’s only interested in what is going on in his life, which is not how relationships work.

Emotional support is all about taking care of each other’s wishes and well-being, and being interested in every single detail of your personal lives.

And if he’s not ready to do all of this, you’re better off without him.

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When you cry, he’s nowhere to be found

Do you get the impression that he always disappears when you’re having hard times? When you cry, do you have to call Interpol to find him because you have no idea where he is?

If he’s guilty of of this, you know your relationship lacks emotional support.

Lembre-se que, numa relação, você deve ser sempre a prioridade dele, aconteça o que acontecer.

And if he’s leaving you on your own during the tough times, he definitely doesn’t deserve you during your happy ones.

He’s always comparing

When you’re talking about how bad was your day at work, he always has this tendency to accentuate that he’s had it worse than you.

He’s always comparing things so that he can make himself the victim and that all the attention redirects to him.

While it is true that sometimes he will have a worse day than you and he will feel shittier than you, all the time – I doubt it.

Ele está sempre a comparar o seu estado emocional com a dele é apenas um sinal da sua falta de apoio emocional e nada mais.

Ele esquece-se sempre das coisas

Ele esquece-se sempre de fazer algo que lhe disse nesse dia ou alguns dias antes?

Does he always need some extra time to realize what you’re talking about because he doesn’t remember a single thing you told him a few hours ago, a week ago, or a month ago?

If he always forgets things – I’m sorry to tell you – it means he’s not really listening to you at all.

E não ouvir é igual a não dar a mínima para as suas palavras, pensamentos, necessidades ou emoções.

His not listening means you’re far better without him because you definitely don’t deserve to be in a relationship that lacks emotional support.