7 sottili segnali che la vostra relazione manca di supporto emotivo

Il vostro ragazzo vi sostiene emotivamente? Sente che manca qualcosa nella sua relazione?

Ci sono alcuni elementi fondamentali per stabilire una relazione felice e amorevole. Alcuni di questi sono l'intimità fisica, la fiducia, l'impegno costante e il sostegno emotivo.

In qualche modo, tendiamo a prestare più attenzione ai loro sforzi che all'aspetto emotivo e finiamo per sentirci infelici senza conoscerne il vero motivo.

Emotional support in a relationship is like a fuel for a car. Without it, you you’re stuck in the middle of the road without any promise that you’ll move forward anytime soon.

Se il vostro partner è emotivamente ritiratosignifica che ogni singolo bagaglio della vostra vita personale e delle vostre relazioni ricade sulle vostre spalle.

It means your partner is not there to help you overcome your obstacles and he’s not there to fight for your relationship either.

And sometimes these signs of the lack of emotional support are subtle, you can’t really recognize them and decipher the real problem behind the situation you’re in. But, don’t worry.

Ecco l'elenco definitivo dei sottili segnali di mancanza di sostegno emotivo nella vostra relazione!

Vi incolpa costantemente di aver reagito in modo eccessivo

When something happens, instead of listening to you and trying to be supportive, he immediately tells you that you’re just overreacting.

By doing this, he’s downplaying the importance of your views and problems you’re going through.

He’s not willing to even try to understand what is going on and he immediately switches to his defense mode called “blaming you for overreacting”.

To him, it’s easier to tell you that you’re imagining things than to sit next to you and try to find a solution to your problem or just listen to you until you start feeling better about it.

If he’s not ready to do these things, you know that your relationship lacks emotional support and isn’t healthy.

You don’t deserve to be blamed for overreacting when you know that this is not the case.

Vi meritate una persona che sia presente per voi, che sia pronta ad essere un vero uomo e lo dimostra con le sue azioni.

Rifiuta l'intimità fisica

Quante volte in un giorno vi abbraccia, vi tiene la mano o vi bacia sulla fronte?

Can’t you remember the last time he did something really cute for you that showed his ultimate affection in terms of physical intimacy?

If this is the case, then you know he’s not being emotionally supportive at all. In fact, he’s only thinking about himself and what he’s interested in.

If he’s withholding physical intimacy, it means he’s not able or not even bothered to shower you with affection in the form of sweet gestures and other things that happen in every healthy relationship.

He doesn’t challenge you

Vedete, non tutti i tipi di sostegno emotivo sono positivi. A volte abbiamo bisogno di altri tipi di sostegno che ci mettano alla prova e ci aiutino a diventare persone migliori.

If he’s not challenging you, it means he’s not interested in helping you reach your full potential in the relationship and life in general.

If he just turns a blind eye to everything you say to him (even though he knows that you’re not being right about it), he’s deliberately deciding not to open your eyes and help you see things differently.

La chiave di ogni relazione di successo è la sfida reciproca e l'apporto di nuove prospettive che arricchiscono la vostra relazione e la vostra vita in generale.

Non mostra interesse per i vostri obiettivi

Does he ever show support and that he’s genuinely interested in your dreams, goals, and achievements?

If he’s totally oblivious to these, you know that he’s being emotionally unsupportive.

Your goals and dreams are a part of your life and if he’s unwilling to be a part of it, too, it means he’s not interested in helping you achieve them or support you through your struggles.

It means he’s only interested in what is going on in his life, which is not how relationships work.

Emotional support is all about taking care of each other’s wishes and well-being, and being interested in every single detail of your personal lives.

And if he’s not ready to do all of this, you’re better off without him.

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When you cry, he’s nowhere to be found

Do you get the impression that he always disappears when you’re having hard times? When you cry, do you have to call Interpol to find him because you have no idea where he is?

If he’s guilty of of this, you know your relationship lacks emotional support.

Ricordate che in una relazione dovreste essere sempre la sua priorità, a prescindere da tutto.

And if he’s leaving you on your own during the tough times, he definitely doesn’t deserve you during your happy ones.

He’s always comparing

When you’re talking about how bad was your day at work, he always has this tendency to accentuate that he’s had it worse than you.

He’s always comparing things so that he can make himself the victim and that all the attention redirects to him.

While it is true that sometimes he will have a worse day than you and he will feel shittier than you, all the time – I doubt it.

Lui che confronta sempre il tuo stato emotivo con il suo è solo un segno della sua mancanza di sostegno emotivo e nient'altro.

Dimentica sempre le cose

Si dimentica sempre di fare qualcosa che gli avete detto quel giorno o qualche giorno prima?

Does he always need some extra time to realize what you’re talking about because he doesn’t remember a single thing you told him a few hours ago, a week ago, or a month ago?

If he always forgets things – I’m sorry to tell you – it means he’s not really listening to you at all.

E non ascoltare equivale a fregarsene delle vostre parole, dei vostri pensieri, dei vostri bisogni o delle vostre emozioni.

His not listening means you’re far better without him because you definitely don’t deserve to be in a relationship that lacks emotional support.