8 coisas que você deve saber antes de sair com uma garota que teve seu coração partido

Nunca me apercebi de como isto me afectou. Quando estava a acontecer, acho que estava demasiado stressada para pensar em mim e no que iria fazer a partir dali. Só queria fugir dele, a qualquer custo.

I didn’t realize how guarded I was and how I had built this bulletproof wall around me to make sure to not get hurt ever again. I was so traumatized namorando-o e eu estava preso no passado.

I didn’t want to move on because the pain took control of me. I felt sorry for myself and I spent so many nights crying over my past actions and him.

Culpei Deus, culpei toda a gente mas, acima de tudo, culpei-me a mim próprio.

I didn’t want to forgive myself and I didn’t want to leave the past where it belonged. I was stuck in it and I couldn’t find a way out. It was a never-ending enchanted circle.

De vez em quando, sentia que me tinha tornado mais forte e que podia deixar tudo isso para trás, mas depois o meu passado voltava a sugar-me.

Perdi a minha autoestima e odiei-me. Agora, quando olho para trás, o que sinto é sobretudo raiva. Não contra ele, mas contra mim própria.

I’m furious because I let him make me think of myself as less worthy and of guilty of everything that happened to us.

I thought I didn’t deserve to be happyPensava que era um falhado até que finalmente deixei de sentir pena de mim próprio e acordei.

He didn’t have the power to rule over me. Too bad it took me that long to realize that. Too bad I put myself through hell and back because I was too blind to see how much I really deserved.

I’m ready now. He left a huge mark on my life. He changed me. I’m not saying that I’m a different person, it’s just that I don’t see the world like I used to see it.

But that’s okay because I’m not afraid anymore. I’ve felt things and I’m ready for whatever life throws at me because what doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger.

I’m ready to open my heart again and if destiny so decides, I’m ready to have my heart broken again. He was my lesson, he made me stronger, and he made me smarter.

Encontrei a parte de mim que estava a faltar. Encontrei o gatilho que precisava de puxar para voltar à vida.

Demorei tanto tempo a chegar onde estou hoje. Se alguma vez conheceres uma rapariga que tenha sido quebrada como eu fui, promete-me que vais tentar compreendê-la.

Promise me that you’re going to look after her. Promise me that she won’t just be temporary because she wouldn’t be able to take it. Not right now.

Promise me that you will be there for her because….

She won’t trust you right away

She will be suspicious of your actions and your feelings. She won’t believe the words you say to her because she has heard them a thousand times before.

Foi-lhe prometido o mundo, foi-lhe dada uma falsa esperança, mas nunca aconteceu nada. Ela não viu nada disso.

She won’t show affection so easily

A primeira vez que se apaixonou, gritou-o ao mundo e o tiro saiu-lhe pela culatra. O seu coração foi espezinhado e despedaçado.

You have to understand that she can’t just open up that easily and show how she feels about you, but never doubt her.

Ela pode não o dizer e pode escondê-lo, mas seja paciente porque, quando ela se abrir, vai sentir um amor que nunca imaginou existir.

Ela será extremamente crítica

She will think that it’s her fault for everything that has happened to her. He robbed her of her self-respect and self-love. She was left with nothing but the feeling of guilt.

Don’t let her treat herself poorly. Don’t let her abandon herself. Show her that there is hope and prove to her that you are not like everybody else.

Prove que se preocupa realmente e esteja presente quando ela mais precisa de si.

Ela vai recuar se tentar avançar demasiado depressa

You have to take it slowly, otherwise you’ll scare her off. She has just had a huge trauma and it took her awhile to heal and to bounce back from it.

She won’t be making the same mistake again and if you pressure her into doing something she isn’t yet comfortable doing, she will run away.

Ela provavelmente tem um plano B

No matter how much she loves you, she has a plan in case that the two of you don’t work out. She’s been to hell and back and she won’t risk going there again.

You don’t have to be angry about it; it’s just a consequence of her heartbreak and pain that she felt and will never forget.

Ela analisa tudo em excesso

She will second-guess your every decision like she second-guesses hers, too. It’s nothing personal, it’s a defense mechanism she uses not to get hurt ever again.

Even when you treat her the way she deserves, she will be suspicious because she isn’t used to being treated that way. It will take her a while to realize that she was supposed to be treated like that from the beginning.

She will apologize to you all the time but isn’t her fault

The one before you made her that way. He gaslighted her and he turned her into an obedient puppet. She didn’t have a mind of her own and her voice was completely silent.

She always apologized to avoid fights he initiated. She apologized for things she did and didn’t do.

Ela tem pavor de compromisso

Faz-lhe lembrar quando ela estava presa numa relação que a estava a matar pouco a pouco. Ela está aterrorizada com a possibilidade de lhe fazeres o mesmo.

Por isso, aguentem-na porque ela vale toda a espera do mundo.

Be patient with her. She is a girl who had her heart broken. Don’t you break it too…